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The Grass Is Green Where You Water It

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Cass Carlopio
Sleep Expert, Psychologist & Meditation guide
This talk focuses on how to increase a sense of confidence and self esteem by examining what thoughts/beliefs are you watering?
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93 reflections
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Matthew
Absolutely correct observation
I AM my own worst critic! I’ve lost all confidence in myself and my abilities. I KNOW I can do a lot to help others while being creative. But I’m VERY down on myself and my abilities/capacities/capabilities since I had my stroke, lost my job, lost my career. Most days are just a struggle to survive now, feed my family, look after my own health.
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Sally
Speaking kindly to myself
This is something that is hard to do but is much needed, especially in today’s world. Thanks for this great reminder to be kind to yourself.
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Yoel
Oh that’s so important
Why are we so critical about ourselves? Why can’t we just love ourselves? Why do we have hate and anger towards ourselves? #Let’s stop the hate!
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Sarah
I feel
This made me realize how many times I say negative things about myself. I always say I’m fat or I’m ugly. Now I know that that mindset isn’t okay and everyone is different. Whenever I’m feeling sad, just say something nice about yourself.
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Stacy
Self talk
I do tend to put myself down when I mess up. And it’s right. Even if you don’t believe it yet keep saying it. You’ll believe it soon enough.
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Cam
Day 15
I tend to always throw the most negative, unkind thoughts at myself. I will practice thsi
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Amanda
I noticed I’m very hard on myself, and that plays a huge role in my anxiety.
Baby steps are so important to bettering yourself. Whether it’s a small or big step, as long as your moving forward.
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Cyndee 🌊
Uplifting
This was a very uplifting message that the instructor gives, when you’re feeling discouraged, uncomfortable or unhappy you can always find something about yourself that you like. #focus #minset #selfcare 🙏🌻🙏
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Krissella
I learned one small step at a time
Like Jordan sparks used to say, one step at a time!🎼 My self confidence has always been lacking I now understand just how detrimental this negative habit of mine has been to my life. I know the importance of learning to love my self, but I also know the challenge I will face learning to walk this road alone. Because I’ve always depended on others to make me feel good about myself and that isn’t fair to them or I. Ready for this empowering change I’ve decided to make. 🙌🏼❤️🌼
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Gail
One positive thought
I learned that just having one positive thought about yourself each day can boost your morale and self esteem. Isn’t it a pity that most of us spend our lives beating ourselves up and then wonder why we feel so sad and depressed?
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Matthew
One year later
I had a feeling I had listened to this teaching from Cassandra previously, and sure enough, I had. Interestingly, my greatest Aura friend Kathy, and Aura Tribe brother Walter we’re just sharing things in this very vein! While things are closer to being better than ever since my stroke and long hospitalization, personally, I’m still quite down on myself constantly. I definitely need to start giving myself a break day-to-day. It’s time for me to start treating me *much* better than I do! My tendency to be negative is still very much a part of my life daily. Perhaps when I start seriously working again I’ll feel better about my self-worth? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Kristina
06.05.
As the meditation says:”Grass grows where you water it.” It truly resonated with me and made me motivated to water my grass. :)
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Jae
Happiness
I’ve been telling myself and everyone for months that you make your own happiness. No one can take it and or enhance it , without you wanting/letting it happen. This practice gave me more insight of focusing my conscious on positive thoughts. I must train my brain to be happy just as I’ve let and trained it to be so damn depressed. Happy Thursday everyone!
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Suz
The grass can be greener
Positively talking to yourself can help and I should do it more often
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Joyce
Water positively
What we can visualize can be made real, so we need to think positively. Namaste
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Brian
Nurture who you want to be
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Paula
Which fields are You watering?
This was a great reminder of what you pay attention to grows. Even though I already knew this, she put it in a new context which is a positive reminder to “grow the grass” where you want it. Grow the confidence field, not the negative-thoughts field.
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Felicia
To build self confidence using positive thoughts
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Nat
I am enough
This coaching session further reinforced that how we speak to ourselves is extremely important. Your mindset has a lot to do with how well you do. If you go into something with a defeated attitude then it is more likely you will not do well. I will be conscious and careful of how I speak to myself
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Ruby
This meditation made everything click for me.
I keep think that I’ll be happy when I get the dream job because I’ll finally have the money for the lifestyle I want. I keep watering my dream but I’m not watering the soil that will help me grow into the person who meets the requirement of that dream job/dream life.
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Joyce
Green, Green
Here’s to mindfully cultivating sea grass and not hogweed. Namaste.
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Cam
Day 71
I find myself repeatedly listening to this one. Since last December actually. Knowing that it is ok to make a mistake, to not let it sit in your subconscious or on your conscious mind all day. That is what I keep reminding myself. Thank you for making this session ❤️ Hope everyone has a successful day (and if not. It’s okay)
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Cherish
Sowing Seeds
This is an interesting, but powerful Life Coaching session in which Cassandra talks about building confidence skills. When we are critical and judgmental of ourselves, we are watering our self-doubt field. Cassandra says in order to increase our self esteem and our confidence, we need to begin to plant seeds in our confidence field. I have already begun to try new things in my morning routine. First, before I get out of bed, I stretch and mentally set intentions for my day and think of a few things to be grateful for. This has been a great way to begin my day. Second, I have begun brushing my teeth with my non-dominant hand, in my case, this is my right hand. While brushing my teeth, I look in the mirror and repeat some affirmations I have memorized from listening to Nitima’s Mindful Affirmations meditation. Doing these things has made me much more mindful. After listening to this session, I will begin to sow seeds of confidence by trying to add a nice thing to say about myself while looking in the mirror. And, the next time I make a mistake, I will try to be more kind to myself instead of critical of myself. Through practice and mindfulness, I will begin sowing these seeds of confidence. Thank you, Cassandra! Namaste ❤️☮️🙏🏻😊
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Annie
The Grass Is Green Where You Water It
I discovered a path to comfort and patience, of the results of a journey.
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Christine
Self criticism can be common
Self love,compassion, and confidence is key!! Just like any skill it takes time and practice. And patience.
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Ariel
Positive thought
I learned that even though you may not realize or believe you are worth more than what meets the eye. There is always beauty in little and big things. Recognizing the hard to recognize everyday, little by little, grows a passion to love your self first when your day starts as soon as you wake up, in order to love others more as more as well.
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David
Stress
I learned that I have too much built up anger that it makes me stressed out. Also by the fact that I’m a little peeved off of someone not doing what there suppose to be doing or is just too damn lazy. I can’t deal with his moodiness and excuses.
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Joyce
Focus on the positive
I like the imagery that sometimes just watering the better grass is not enough. If that grass still isn’t growing, till the soil and plant more seeds. Namaste
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Shar
The grass is green...
Such an eye opening discussion this morning. I am grateful to have listened and will heed its teaching. Thank you! A very strong and thoughtful session and very true at least it hit home with me👩
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Hayley
The grass is green
I am definitely going to use this in my daily life. It is a great eye opener this morning.
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Steven
Mirror
Look in the mirror and give yourself confidence, tell yourself you look good and you feel good. Kinda like Fonzy
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Elizabeth
A message I needed to hear
I have spent years - my whole life - talking down to myself. My grass is basically dirt. I need, I deserve, to water myself and allow myself to grow. This is a lovely session. Thank you
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Joyce
First thoughts
A great intention for the day, to catch the first self-thoughts each time as they tumble out and make them more kind before they have a chance to sink in. Namaste
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William
Water grass
Cassandra, yes! Often self-critical. Now will seed confidence with simple kindness. Thanks.
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Jill
Greener grass
This is by far my favorite from her. This meditation definitely struck me. I love this one. It’s so right to tell us to think of positive thoughts even though what comes out often sounds negative sometimes.
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Aubrey
Grass
It’s important to water my grass and be kind and compassionate to myself. This is something that I struggle with so I would like to work on watering my grass.
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Morrigan
Watering grass
Total BS, what if the grass is ugly? What if the grass is not what you want or need to grow? And screw the mirror. I am who I am. If by encouraging people to be something they aren’t, good job.
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Kelsey
I feel
I feel more relaxed and okay with the pressure I feel at work. I’m doing good, I’m committing and it’s okay to make mistakes, don’t blame yourself, think of the good you give back, this is just a chance to learn to be better
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Clea
I feel well rested and loved IIfeel that Andy and my relationship is very strong.
No worries or expectations about Mother’s Day and if the kids w do anything for me.
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Refilwe
Positive energy
I learned that positive energy can be first created within ourselves And that we don’t have to let negativity define us
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Emily
Experiences
I learned that there is a way to change your mindset even if it takes hard work
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Jason
Plant a seed
I learned that I must plant a seed in my mind even if it’s awkward at first. Even though I may no see it start growing at first to keep watering it and it will grow. The seed of being kind to myself,positive and encouraging and build confidence within myself.
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Minahil
Little confidence
Today i learned a little different thing ,i have heard this many times that u should be confident but actually but happened is one day i made a really big mistake of my life then every one with me just left me and till now i am not having friends
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Christina
Friday
I have a tendency to give up when things are not perfect or I don’t see success as quickly as I would like. I realize I need to hang on, keep watering where I’m planted, and wait for growth. Everything takes time.
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Amber
Be kind to me?!?
What a crazy concept, right, being kind to myself? Every day I get better at this. I’m not stopping no matter how hard it is this time. I deserve love from MYSELF and if you’re reading this, so do you! Be kinder to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would a close friend that truly care about. Be gentle.
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Tristan
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Winda
🦋
We could heal the world together 💫 With love compassion peace to ourselves
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Michelle
Jason mark King
I learned that you have to be in love with somebody. I say let it be anyone if in doubt.
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Lauren
First Session
I do this sometimes when I make a mistake, but I still dwell on being imperfect. I am on the right path and need to remind myself there is beauty in imperfections and growth in failure.
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Kendall
Confidence Field
We often water grass in self criticism and are hard on ourselves. We can increase our confidence by watering different grass and paying attention to different thoughts. The thoughts may feel unnatural at first but the most positive thoughts we tell ourselves, the easier it will be. Think building and encouraging.
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Chu
at ease
The grass is greener where ever you water it. I’ve always been told that grass ain’t greener on the other side lol id who to believe
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Andrea
Grass analogy
This piece popped up from Aura at the exact right time. Thanks, Aura. :)
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Desiree
Change your first thoughts
First thing in the morning I should look in the morrow and say. You... are.... beautiful! Positive thoughts about yourself
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Alicia
The grass is green
I really enjoyed this session because it recognises the things don’t happen over night and that they take time! I learnt that I do often think the negative things and I ponder them for ages “watering them” and letting them grow. I need to work on changing the negatives into positives! I am going to make an active goal for myself to do this every day!
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Sarah
The Grass is green
I learned that I need to be a lot kinder to myself and not talk myself down all the time. That it’s okay not to be 100% perfect 24/7
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Kim
Green grass mindset
I learned that going through my days with compassion towards myself in moments of stress or self doubt is a must. Just as I show compassion to others.
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roxanna
note 💌
practice self love EVERYDAY💕 compliment yourself when you look in the mirror each time, you are beautiful
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Samantha
SELF LOVE PROMISE
Today is a new and bright day. Today I am making a promise to myself. I promise to nurture and to cherish myself. I promise to speak only positively to myself. I promise to water the grass and sow the seeds of self confidence, self awareness, and self love. In moments where I may feel quite disappointed or embarrassed in myself, filling with doubt and guilt, I promise to make an effort to change the direction of my thoughts. I promise to take a moment, pause what I am doing, breathe, reflect, and choose to water my grass by steering my perspective and inner voice towards self love and self compassion. I promise to take time for myself each day to think about and say what I love most about myself. To look into the mirror and to admire and adore the woman looking back.
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RubyLynn
Emotional
People often come to me in their times of despair so, I always talk about planting positive seeds and watering them so they can grow but I’ve hardly ever done that for myself. It made me step back and shed light into my own heart so I too can do the same.
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RubyLynn
Emotional
People often come to me in their times of despair so, I always talk about planting positive seeds and watering them so they can grow but I’ve hardly ever done that for myself. It made me step back and shed light into my own heart so I too can do the same.
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RubyLynn
Emotional
People often come to me in their times of despair so, I always talk about planting positive seeds and watering them so they can grow but I’ve hardly ever done that for myself. It made me step back and shed light into my own heart so I too can do the same.
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Darnesha
Forgiveness
I noticed that I tend to hold onto past things even when I say I am over it
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Ninoshka
Self-love
I learned that I put a lot of pressure on myself to do better always and I constantly feel I have not done good enough. I am very hard on myself and never enjoy the moments. I need to learn to be kind to myself and that no one is perfect.
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Michelle
I’m getting a watering can
I learnt that I have the unconscious habit of being quite mean to myself whether it’s because of small things or big things, I could do better. I’m making it my mission to be kinder to myself even when I feel I don’t deserve it.
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Bethany
Loving myself
I need to say kind loving positive words to myself as I look in the mirror and not to say nasty things about myself.
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Becky
Be kind to myself
I learnt that I continually think negative things about my self, self doubt. Need to switch to kind, positive affirmations and thoughts.
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Kitty
I learned that I think about myself negatively I need to give myself grace to learn and make mistakes
Think good thoughts. Be positive. Look for growth opportunities. Give myself grace
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Kim
The grassss is green where you water it
I learned to start giving myself compliments and not put myself down. I will try the tool that was suggesyed for me.
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Lanti
Grateful
Learned to always say positive words to myself, I should never underestimate what I can achieve with a positive mindset.
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cate
Building healthy self thought
I need to change my mindset and treat myself with more grace
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Beth
Self talk
I learned that I need to be more mindful of the way I think about myself and my actions. I am all about kindness, but rarely think about using it on myself.
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Teddi
Water the right grass
Boy, do I have a field of high grass in the wrong field! I need to practice saying one kind thing to myself every day. This analogy was super helpful in helping me understand what I must do.
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Stephanie
Green
This video got me thinking about how I treat myself. I think I’m always expecting others to fill this empty whole inside of me because I feel like I can’t do it myself. And when they can’t love me the way I want to be loved I get angry at them. The reality is though no one can love me like I wish to be loved. It is up to myself to cherish myself. To love me. To treat myself like I wish others could treat me.
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Wendy
Being critical
I learned that I should focus on 1 positive attribute towards myself
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Kel
Ugh
I feel discouraged and cannot stop ruminating on the potential outcome of the mail situation.
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Sam
Confidence training
I can take a small step each day to building confidence Instead of negative comments when I wake up and look in the mirror say something nice to myself
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Victoria
Being kinder to self
It’s healthier to be kind to self.. this may be my biggest downfall with in myself. Being a perfectionist
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Alesia
I learned that...
I learned that I’ve been watering the wrong grass. I will work on saying kind things to and about myself .
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Kristin
Self confidence
Every time I look in the mirror I will say one positive compliment about myself, even if I don’t believe it yet.
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Paris
Exactly this !
I have recently become more aware of the thoughts I have for myself. I’ve been saying that we have compassion, understanding, and judgement free zones for others, but we don’t really have that for ourselves. Becoming aware of that and creating that space for myself has made such a difference to my mood and my thought process throughout the day.
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Mary Jane
Beautiful
I put little posties on my mirror giving me positive words about me. Helps me to remember I am okay.
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Walter J
Growing...
I have Become an uncurable Optimist over the past couple decades by watering my belief that I am. Besides telling myself how good looking I am in the mirror🤓, I recite this mantra & repeat it as often as I feel stuck or have a decision to make: I believe I am divinely guided, I believe I am always making the right choice, I believe God will make a way where there is no way! Using positive affirmations regularly & repeatedly is a sure way to improve our beliefs. I love the visual (mental) idea of watering our grass to make/keep it green. And positive books, meditations & podcasts are a great way to prepare The soil for the positive seeds you must plant. We were born to grow, so why not grow to your fullest potential?! Best of Luck to all & have fun with it!! 🍀❤️🍀
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Stacey
Giving kindness to myself
I am a giver and kinder to others than I am to myself. This session is a great reminder that I can be as kind if not kinder to myself if I will only remember which grass I choose to water.
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Paulette
Focus
I tend to look in the mirror and find the negative so I will make a point to only focus on the positive.
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Trey
Watering Fields
I really enjoyed the metaphor of “watering fields,” this picture makes it easier for the mind to understand my thought life.
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Jenna
I’ve heard this so many times but today I listened
I can be giving too much attention to the way other people may be feeling about my work. These are hypothetical and usually not even true.
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Sarah
Be nice to everyone, especially me
Instead of telling myself I suck, say I’m not so bad, and grow each day
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Budmaa
Thank you, great session. We all knew blaming ourselves are not good thing to do. Bit can’t stop. It makes me more realize. Thank you.
A little by little need to love ourselves Look at the mirror say to one nice thing. I was trying to do that a while. Not easy. It remind me do it with courage
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Michael
Growing more than what you think
I truly do know more regarding my career of choice than I give myself credit for. Stop pretending that I’ve “faked it, and successfully”. This is the goal. I have made it. There are a few more obstacles; these are nothing compared to the grande scheme of things. You’ve got this.
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April Marie
Good morning
I need to constantly pay attention to my thoughts and be more loving to myself
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Taylor
self examination
i’m perfect the way i am, there’s no need to fault myself for what i believe should be present when in fact i’m designed just the way i’m meant to be!
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Ivana
Feedback
I learned that I have to be more kind to myself and not be so critical.
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Starr
Tuesday, June 1 progress
I am getting stronger, I am happier, I am trying to ignore the sadness and horror in this world, the shootings, the car crashes all the sad stories and let myself relax