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Dating & Relationship Thoughts

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Dr. Alexis Moreno
Psychologist, Dating & Relationship Expert
Dating and relationships are very much an internal process as well as external. Learn and explore how your cognition impacts your dating and relationship behaviors.
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11 reflections
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Fi
Today
I learned that I know more than I thought, my gap is in how to change actions
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Avonlea
Today
Today I learned that letting automatic thoughts lead me will cause misperception. I need to slow down to identify the truth. Then identify automatic thoughts. Are they based in reality or an interpretation? Once I figure this out I will ease and be more confident.
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Rubi
Pain and fear
When distressed or unhappy, tense or strained take a moment to explore what was going through my mind. Gather more facts and correct the truth Challenge your mind to be fair and factual in seing the world
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Stephanie
Emotions running amuck
Exactly what I needed to hear after mulling over my actions and reactions to a similar situation.
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Ashli
Learning about relationships
I learned that I need to slow down and think before reacting
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Kimberly
Cognitive therapy
I learned that you should give time for one’s response before assuming anything
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Todd
Today
I learned to not allow automatic thoughts cause me to prejudge a situation, and to pause so I can make a fair, informed assessment.
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Windess
Sharing this
I am sharing this with my daughter. This is her exactly. I believe we all use automatic thoughts to an extent. But I am always glass half full
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Jodie
Must remember
I feel like I’m doing better with these reactive thoughts. Just being aware. Trying.
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Jennifer
Dating & Relationships
I learned to make sure that the automatic thoughts I have to any given situation don't run the show. I need to base my interpretations on facts. If my thoughts are baseless, gather more facts as time goes on. I need to slow down. She used the example of going out on the first date with a new guy. You both sit down, and just as the date begins, he answers a text on his phone. Great example! My mind immediately went to: forget this already. Writing him off in my mind. 🤔
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Katie
Negative automatic thoughts (NATs)
Listening to this session really made me start to think about the negative automatic thoughts that surface in the day-to-day. For instance, I don’t like talking about myself, so when I have an opportunity to speak about myself, it’s often met with some kind of emotion. And it’s probably tied to a deeper feeling of not being smart enough, good enough, worthy. And then, when I have conversations with my partner, I assume the worst. Everything he says holds a deeper meaning, IMO, and I’m triggered to think a certain way. Which could be tied to: He’s lied to me in the past, or doesn’t think of my feelings, or he’s selfish.