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Lauren Ziegler
IAYT Yoga Therapist & Mindfulness Coach
Sometimes life gives us a difficult blow, and we ask, "Why is this happening to me?" It's so tempting to wallow in the 'why', but maybe it's the wrong question. If asking why is this happening hasn't given you hope, then try asking the what question. This session is about thought management and mature perspective and will give you the gift of looking at your situation in a new way so that you can park your mind there and move forward with hope and strength.
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173 reflections
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Sumedha
Parking our mind...
Beautiful way to understand the situations in life and told beautifully. Thank you
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Michelle
New Perspective
I love being reminded of new ways to view any situation and this helps us focus on ways to solve the problem not dwell on the problem.
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Tiffany
Bone crushing sorrow
Tonight I couldn't sleep because the grief of being separated from my daughter crept into my dreams. I kept trying to find a way to answer the question why me? Why us? All i could think about is the harm that this happening. This mediation says I need to reframe the question to what. This was done so I could see the good. Right now the pain is to great for me to answer these questions. All I want is for the nightmare to end. I want to see my daughter more than words can describe.
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Anne
what not why
better question to ask when you ask why all the time you create endless chatter and no answers. what is more positive
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Kelly
Day 5
I think it's important to always find a positive in a negative.
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Lori
Asking What?
Asking What? helps reprogram your mind when dealing with life's challenges. I like this approach a lot because asking why?doesn't help at all. Thank you!
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Kellylouise
I was a little distracted 😯
I guess I just need a little more practice with mindfulness, my mind was constantly distracted and I wasn't able to stay focused on anything at all.
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Brooke
What
Bad things happen but it’s how we respond to them. Understanding to make the best of the situation and to find its purpose in my life.
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Petey
The End of a Cycle
Today I ended an endurance event that I have to give up possibly permanently because of a medical problem. I learned that today is not necessarily the end of something but an opportunity to find another different challenge in my life.
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Katie
What not why
Not to ask why. Ask myself what. Understand that things happen for a reason and to prepare us for other things. What will I do now that I'm in this situation not why did this happen to me
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Sheree
WHAT
What have I learnt from the situation I am in? What am I going to do with this reality? What is the next step for me from here... Focus on the WHAT not the WHY
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Dylan
Action vs inaction
The key to dealing with stress is figuring out how to take action and engage with it rather than contemplate why it happens
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Georgia
Calm VS stressed
Sometimes you get mad at someone and you get really really stressed so take a deep breath.Calm yourself down and meditate because that helps a lot and it calms your body down and gives your body a little time to calm down. And maybe try counting to 10. So sometimes you just need to let your body settle it and next thing you know it's going to be fine so take a deep breath and there are a lot of things you could be doing right now have fun in the rest of your day I hope you like my my writing so thanks. And smash that like button.🙏
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Alex
Love your self
I find that focusing on myself when I’m irritated by someone in my group eases the tension building up in me
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Omar
Listening
I learned that.... the birds were chirping outside the entirety of this meditation. Only afterwards when I was centered could I notice and appreciate this Give thanks...
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Damien
What instead of why
We’re not incontrol of life’s outcomes We can only control our actions Stop asking why it happen begin asking what can I learn from it
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Alan
What instead of why...
Focusing upon the “what?...” instead of “why...?” is a very useful way to shortcut any sense of helplessness or victimhood and return us to a place of power and agency. I’ve saved this meditation, thank you!
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Karina
What instead why
I learned that is important to choose right Words because words are powerful.
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Joyce
Why or what?
Why is the easy question. What is the hard question. I learn this when my husband died 16 year ago today.
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Chloe
Help to grow
Painful events have helped give me perspective and a chance to improve my own personal self
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Veronica
What or what if???
Instead of asking why or why me I can focus on the what... however, I tend to go toward the what if often. I'm not sure this session helped me. It's not been as good as some of the others. Meh
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Jada
I need to open my mind to the what instead of living in the why?
I need to open my mind to the what instead of living in the why
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Sue
Acceptance
I learned that acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.
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Nicolette
I need to open my mind
I need to open my mind about the question what instead of why. What can I learn from this.. instead of why is this happening to me?
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Jenny
Focus
I learned it’s best to focus on the what instead on the why me. Not sure what else I learned because I was not fully engaged and got distracted. I wanted to replay meditation but couldn’t figure how🤷🏼‍♀️
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Kellee
A New Beginning 10-24-17
This is my 2nd meditation this morning. I am a veteran and get to spend my morning at the VA so I am a little stressed. My pups were active this morning, now resting as they always do during mediation time and that stressed me out. I want ME time to sew but and wrap Christmas (all done), but I have to accomplish my requirements first so my stress will wipe away. Breathe, just breathe.
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Emily
The good
It is better to sit with our situation for a while and to train ourselves to see the good in every outcome
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Jack
Why to What
I need to change my thinking from "why" to "what" it's not easy but it leads to a better perspective on life
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Sleepy Little Why turned to a—What is next?
Feeling very sleepy with her voice. “The what can I do now”, is more important physically and mentally to my wellbeing than the time spent in the “why”. Healing happens after and when we are ready for an action to move on or forward.
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Sara
Way of thinking
I learned that I should stop asking why, but start asking what. Like what can I do to help improve myself in this current situation.
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Jeff
Why vs What
I spend the majority of my life asking why things are the way they are and not asking what I can do to make things better
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Teresa
Don’t let yourself be tempted to go negative!
It is so easy to go negative, but we must remain vigilant & stay positive. I found myself w/ this meditation asking “Wow does this mean something really bad is coming my way?” Of course it doesn’t!! It just happened to be the next meditation in line on this app!
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Alex
Life is a lesson
Life can deal you sucker punches you gotta roll with them to grow. Life is a lesson, learn what you can and don't let adversity make you bitter. Life's not fair but it's a blessing, so make the most of it whilst you have it. Instead of sitting in the past, live now towards a better future.
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Justine
Not why but what
I loved this meditation. It turned myself from victim to purposeful explorer. Instead of looking inwards and crying why, to some experiences that were out of my control I can look deeper and say how can this make me a better person. Life can be self centric but it doesn’t always have to be that way.
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Dean
Thank you
This meditation really does help you change your perspective on things, and start to shift you out of the paralysis of ‘why is this happening’ to ‘what can I do with it, now that it is.’
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Caitlin
Helpful
I liked this meditation a lot. I’ve been dealing with weeks of stress and hard times and asking what instead of why does help a lot with accepting and dealing with those problems. Might be hard to ask those at first, but I think necessary at some point.
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AK
A new perspective
I learned that reflecting immediately after or in the moment about WHAT I can learn from my misfortunes is far more effective than taking the time later on down the road, long after something bad has happened. I need to ask myself: what good could come of this situation? What could I learn? immediately rather than dwelling on the negative and wallowing in self pity
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Amos
What
I learned that seeking answers to the "why" doesn't really matter. It's the answers to the "what" that does.
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Everett
Sinful Self-Reliance
Doubts, the dead baron of all souls giving birth endlessly dusting and growing old like time was stretch limousine
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Ant
Knowing
I have a lot to learn and need to be more open and accepting of this.
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Christina
PERSPECTIVE
Sometimes it is difficult to have the proper perspective on a situation or interaction. I am struggling with the pause and curiosity of daily thinking. I have to pause and respond - not just react which is difficult for me.
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Adelaide
Switch from the why to the what: this is my reality, what am I supposed to do now?
Everyone at some point feels down. Reflect on the past, think in the future, appreciate and change the present.
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Cyndee
What have I been thinking 🤔
What is a much better ? to ask then why. I already feel better just thinking about it. Asking why doesn’t move me along it just causes me to try to move along and I keep coming back to it. What makes me think of answers and possibilities to find a resolve. I feel motivated to change the way I think and feel about things that have happened in the past and how I’m not dealing with them right. Today I will start looking at my situation from a different perspective. Thanks 🙏 Aura
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Rachel
Thankful.
This made me reflect on the past few months and I've realized life has been very good. No meltdowns and life is better than it ever has been. I needed this.
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Kascha
How to explain hard life times
How to deal with hard situations. How to comprehend something. What to do when I feel sad about life.
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Pablo A
Switching from why to What after an event ..
It’s perspective that needs to change, from why did this happen to me, to what do I do now that it’s my reality
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Paige
Becoming a "What" asker
Asking "what" creates opportunity for growth and future of hope and improvement. Asking why created a never ending cycle of frustration and confusion, possibly without ever knowing or figuring out the answers or reasons. What allows the situation to be in my control and I have the chance to turn it into a positive learning experience to help make me become a better person out of it.
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Ali
I am job hunting/-this session was enlightening!!!
What is a great word!!! Why is a victim word—what is more empowering!!!
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Brenda
The art of WHAT
I needed this today. I was in a very severe self-criticizing mode and that only produced the relentless asking of ‘WHY?’ ~ Switching my focus to WHAT is so much more empowering. Namaste.
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Joy
Mind
I learned that it is good to not dwell too much on stuff. It is important to think about why things are happening.
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Paul
Hard blow
This session came right on time, I thought I met my soulmate, she dumped me via email, even though we see each other 3-4 times a week. It hurts really bad, I don't know what happened.
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Robertas
Proactive questions
This meditation will help you to get from reactive state of mind to proactive. One of the best sessions I had in weeks. Saved for later use / will also get questions to my diary.
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Kathleen
Where to park your mind
I learned that asking the what instead of the why is what is going to make me grow as a person when bad things come up.
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Marilyn
Relax, it’s okay.
I learned that, everyone goes through something that can shatter their world. It’s okay to have these moments, it’s better to use these moments as a learning experience. Stop asking why, and start asking what!
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Sydney
12/17
Fayz was not meant for me. Space is important in relationships. It’s what actually creates strength.
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Kayla
Asking the what question
Instead of asking why me, I can ask myself “now that this is my reality, what can I do to learn from this?”
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Juliej.beck@yahoo.co
No more victim poor me
Change the way you look at things and things change. There’s good in everything.
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Devin
It’s no longer “why” but instead “what”
When we turn our “why questions” into “what questions,” we open the door to whatever opportunities lie behind the trial or tragedy that just occurred. Instead of being the victim, instead of letting the trials in our lives stop us from fulfilling opportunities, we take control and we learn from those trials.
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Amelya
Outlook
I learned that I can not control what happens to me, but I can control how I respond
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Priscilla
Where to park your mind?
I have control in the present and future vs going back to the why in the past which is unchangeable
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Heather
to better myself
i learned that i need to stop focusing on trying to be the victim and asking why did this happen, but in stead i need to sit back and really focus on what i can learn from it, how can me being in a certain situation help me out in ones that are similar and just think of the positive outcomes of every hard and easy situations.
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Brian
A quote comes to mind..
“Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”
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DorDor
When I read the synopsis of this evenings
Meditation about using the breath, I thought I had enough of that went to this one .Sorry but this was foolish and, certainly, not useful. I will rely on the breath. Perhaps that is my lesson today!
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Lauren
Move from the why to the what
I am in control of my emotions. Bad things will happen, but there is no use in worrying or repeatedly asking why...instead, adapt and overcome and look for the lesson to be learned.
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Tammy
Where to park the mind.
This got me thinking. What if when something bad or unforeseen happens instead of saying why me I asked what shall I do next. This is truly mindful and living in the present. It is also a more positive action instead of reaction. Thank you for the insight.
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Steffani
It’s not why, it’s what.
This statement is so simple but yet it’s totally not. I tend to ask myself why something happens a lot and just by listening this, it’s made me look at some things differently.
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Aarabia
What instead of why
I learned that whenever you are dealt with a tough pill to swallow you may be tempted to ask yourself “why” questions such as: why is his happening to me? Why do I feel like this? At these times try asking “what questions instead, such as: what is this preparing me for? What can I learn from this? What could this be protecting me from? I noticed how why questions tend to be more self loathing while what questions tend to be more positive pointed and empowering. Overall loved this session 🌈☺️
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Alan
Reframing
Reframing my perspective on a situation, from why did this happen to what might I do next, can help in moving forward.
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Alan
Reframing
Turning from why something happened to what might I do next can help in moving forward.
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Melissa
1.20.18
The questions you ask yourself matter - they help you move forward, even in the darkest of days.
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Amanda
I learned that...
It isn’t easy to change our perspective, but it is doable and can make a difference.
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Mary
Why to what
Learn to embrace gangs as best as possible. It is not easy going from why or how come to what am I going to do to own this change. Growing is a big thing for me so asking what instead of why has to become a new way of thinking
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Bethany
Why to what
I learned to change the question of why to what, and finding relief instead of frustration.
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Peter
Why to what
I learned that moving from the why to what can change how a problem is perceived
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Joyce
Where to park
Acknowledge my shaken reality, then spend my effort on what am I going to learn from it, and how I am going to live positively in that reality. Once again good timing. Namaste
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Kassidy
You are in control of your THOUGHTS🖖🏽
Take a step back An just breath no that U Are the CREATOR OF YOUR EVERY THOUGHT 🤙🏽
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Thomas
Growth
I learned that the things that happen to you, may have needed to happen in order for you to grow
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Allen
Gratitude
I learned that I must continue improving gratitude in my heart.
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Cat
not for me
I did not learn anything, Sometimes sadness is there and there is no why or what questions that come to mind or could help shoe sadness away, or just accept it.
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Vernon
If not why then what
I have always believed that when you ask good questions, you get good answers. And when you ask lousy questions, you get lousy answers. Learning how to ask good questions is an important skill to develop. Especially when you are asking you the questions.
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Lydia
What do I do with now with the cards I’ve been dealt
Rather than asking ‘why did this happen to me?’ Ask ‘what do I now do with this situation?’ Thinking logically than with emotion helps me when my mental problems health flares up, whether that be panic attacks or depression.
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Mackenzie
What I️ learned
I️ learned that sometimes it’s best to let go of the things that keep you dwelling in the past and look forward to what may come next.
Ади
I learned not to argue with the life and to try to “learn” the lesson from every single situation.
Sometimes the best lessons are coming from hard teachers. Enjoy it!
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Angela
What I needed!
Changing from why to what can make a huge difference in how we see the world and a tough situation.
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Emily
Day One
Asking why something happened isn’t always going to help you. Instead, ask what I can do not that it has happened.
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valerie
mindfulness
i learned that sometimes you are confronted with a very tough pill to swallow, but instead of asking yourself why questions and wallowing, you need to look into the future and ask the what questions.
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Lacie
Ask what not why!?😂
I’m sorry but when things are bad I do ask what, WTF every time!
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Dab
What instead of why
Instead of dwelling on the why, it’s more productive to consider the what. What can I do now this is my reality.
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Tess⚡️
Questions to ask
I learned that I should try switching why to what. And I also learned that it's not easy, but it's a good thing to do. I did feel quite relaxed
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Azaeliah
Ask What instead
Instead of asking why , ask what because this is a more positive question to outlet to .
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Tara
Ask “What” not “ Why”
Asking why often results in frustration because you can’t find the answer. You become stuck looking for an answer to a question which perhaps does not have an answer. Asking “what” reframes the question and allows you to move you forward. Especially powerful for trauma survivors.
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Mallory
Speechless
THAT WAS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED. Wow. Such a helpful way to shift the perspective on challenging situations when you’re feeling in a funk.
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Don
Mind
What you expect your life to be like. Is what your life will be like. I must envision where I am going and what I will accomplish to succeed.
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Susie
Where to Park Your Mind
Wow! I have been stuck in the Whys for quite awhile now and have never considered the What perspective. Thanks, Lauren for sharing your wisdom. 🙏🏻
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Time
An inquiry
The notion of the term "what" can manifest thoughts that propel one to become with presence, not in rebuttal
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Taylor
Life isn’t always going to go the way i want.
Everything happens for a reason and i have to learn to accept that without stressing myself out because stressing won’t change anything about the outcome. It’s all about the what. What will I do now.
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Tricia
i NEEDED thiw
i really realized that i need to stop sitting around being sad about things i can’t change and go out and see what benefits come with things that are negative
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Tamara
I can adopt a different perspective.
I need to make a conscience effort to change. This is possible and worth it.
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Tracy
How
Or ask “how”. How can I grow from this? The “what” phrases don’t resonate as much with me as a call to action can be helpful, but not in all situations. Looking at growth and focusing on growth can help much more than why or what (as growth encompasses the what’s).
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Jorge
A pesar de mantenerme ecuánime gran parte de tiempo, hay cosas que no estoy dispuesto a hacer como s
Este tipo de meditaciones no dejan de perturbar tanto mi mente como mis sensaciones
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Beth
What? Instead of Why?
I needed this today after a very tough day/news yesterday. This is helping me to park my mind in a different place and gain perspective even though I don’t understand why what is happening is. I learned to focus on the “What” after a very long day and night with the “Why?”.
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Sharman
What in me
To go within to learn what is being created to protect me and give me new opportunities despite my grief and loss.
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Kasey
Encouraged
I learned that everyday is going to be full of stresses but with a little mindfulness and by taking a step back to reflect, I can view the day in a new perspective.
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Rhianna
Changing from “why?” to “what?”
I learned that when asking why doesn’t provide you with the answers the need, ask what instead. Like what is this preparing me for? I think it was very important to learn that.
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Jiselle
Learning from mistakes
I learned that what happens, happens and it’s all for a reason
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Caroline
Loss
I learned that my cousin's death happened for a reason and that he is in a better place now
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Marisa
Day 73
I enjoyed taking a moment to stop and think about situations in a positive light
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Mariah
Where to Park Your Mind
while performing this exercise, i started to think about all of the things that are coming in my path and realized that i should learn something new from each situation instead of dwelling on it. this can help relieve stress and stay less anxious when worrying about something new coming in my way.
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Anthony
Lost
I learn to find the what, ask the what, let your mind lose and just be you
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Nishaat
Changing a why to a what
I learned that I should focus on an entirely different question. Closure is asking ‘why’ but it isn’t possible to understand. Asking ‘what’ will at least help me move forward.
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Sharlene
The best what question
The best what question to ask myself is what maturity is being built into me. I have never thought of that perspective
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Jill
Where to park your mind
Bingo- this is the best place for me to begin to stop trying to find the old me. Maybe my “sparkle” is waiting for the me that has been molded through the trials and growth that comes with pain. Maybe I need to park my mind in a different mindset and learn how much I ought to be the best me. I’m figuring I have not even had the thought of meeting me in the place I may just be; or considered myself as a different person. Life does change us, after all...
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Marcela
Change the question
When I changed the question I can change my own perception and perspective. Instead of why l am looking for what for? Can I learn something? And of course I do!
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Cameron
Shifting perspective
As I open my eyes I find a tear gas fallen from my eye. This meditation struck a chord as I knew it would and allowed a new perspective to be planted but I must choose to tend this seed and continue the work... but I don’t know if I am ready.
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Shateca McGee
Where to Park Your Mind
I learned that I can decide where I want my mind to be. That I control the thoughts and sensations. Where I park it is where it will go.
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Leslie
Ask what instead of why
The difference in asking what can I do with this instead of why is this happening changes my perspective immediately. I feel like I can handle the situation better at hand and not be so sad
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Liz
Asking what...
Rather than thinking of this as a time when I am stuck, I can think of it as a time to learn about ways of being which would be healthier and more rewarding than my old ways
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Kimette
Distracted again
This time instead of physical pain it was emotional turmoil that kept me from focusing on the very activity that could help me!😠
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Brynn
i was very distracted during the session and it was hard for me to focus and relax.
i learned that it takes time for your body to get to that state and that it doesn’t always work the first time.
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Alexa
Why to What
Rather than whining about “why” things happen to us, it’s important to change our perspective and start asking “what” can be done and “what” we can do to improve. Sometimes the cards we are dealt are not what we anticipated, and instead of panicking or whining about it, it’s important to take a step back, breathe, and figure out the “what” of the situation. I’m continuously working on this, but this meditation was a great reminder.
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Matthew
Early. Tired.
Dozed off in the middle of this session! Not an auspicious start to my Sunday! Have a wonderful day Aura tribe! Make it a great day as you are able!
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Maria
Different questions
Practicing not wallowing in things I cannot control and continuing to strive for growth and self-awareness, even when it’s hard.
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Miguel
The what
I learned that we tend to ask the why when we should be asking what instead. Learning to ask what will help us to learn from every experience and will allows us to become more insightful in our lives.
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Kate
Suffering and Acceptance
I have the opportunity to grow, but that doesn’t make it easier. I am still struggling to accept that I am powerless to change the situation and I’m stuck in anger and resentment. I’ll try to focus more on what I am learning, but I’m still finding it hard not to ask “Why Me?” and then blame myself for making the choices that led me here.
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Kelsey
Changing
I learned that I’m in a stage of healing from some severe anxiety and that some days I’m more sad about experiencing these feelings than anxious. This mindful moment really was insightful for me!
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Dey
Meditation 18?
This session was exactly what i needed it after the awful day that i had
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Dee
Where to Park Your Mind!
Powerful, powerful, powerful! Instead of asking “why”, ask “what”. For me, this thought shift, is revolutionary!!
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Matt
Stay present
Now I know what I need to work on the most even during this meditation I kept wondering into the future or the past. I can never just be in the present and not think about other things
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Athena
I’m pleased to park my mind elsewhere
I’m certain that I had to hear that. I needed to. Although I know it’s far from easy, just as she said. I do plan to change my energy from WHY!!?!.... to what* :) It’s staying at a progressive pace and still allowing me to be honest with myself and about what had really happened and even stay away from feelings of blame or thoughts of who’s at fault... Thank you mindful moments for bringing me back down to earth... gently 💙
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T4l0r
3 minutes too short
Seems my mind wonders a lot because I have no discipline yet. So 3 minutes was too short and 7 minutes was locked.
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Louis
Where To Park Your Thinking
Very helpful meditation. Good content that went beyond breathing. Asking is not to be focused on why but what.
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Tiffany
Just what I needed
My ex has been ignoring my requests. I have been asking myself why this happens when I should have been asking what this means. When I focus on what, my anxiety decreases, mind slows, and I can let go.
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Anna
What instead of why
Exactly what I needed to hear today. Instead of asking “why is this happening” ask “so this is happening, what can I learn from this, what can do to make this better”. I doesn’t help to ask Why; Why me, Why now.
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Summer
Calm
Before this I was feeling very anxious about what might happen today. This gave me peace of mind and calmness and I now know not to ask why but to ask what.
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becca
friday
stop asking why start asking what what can i do from now on what have i learned
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Danielle
Change
I didn’t learn anything, but I made a decision that from here forwards, I would be asking myself what I can do to better myself and the situation, and not why this result happened to me.
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Craig
Recent sudden loss
This may distract from the’ why ‘ a little bit, I need to try somehow to look at this tragedy from a slightly different mindset. Maybe that will help with my sadness . Thank you.
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Nicole
Why to what
I learned that I am always learning and growing. Even through these hard times when I wonder why. I can empower myself by asking what instead. What is this preparing me for. What maturity am I building. What am I learning. Blessings to you
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Gia
Not why, but what.
I learnt this morning that I should try to stop asking “why” things are happening to me. I realize it takes so much out of my emotionally and mentally questioning myself and the person within this predicament with me “why” this is happening etc. From now on I’ll try as much as possible to question myself “what”; what can I do from this point forward, what is this teaching me, what is the lesson from all of this. 😔I hope I feel better, but I’m glad that this is a positive start.
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Susan
Where To Park Your Mind
Asking why did this happen to me keeps you bound to that problem. Learn to ask what... What am I supposed to learn. What does this new oath look like. Pave this new road with what and you will have a wonderful place to park your mind.
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Emilie
What instead of why
I learned that instead of asking why did this happen to me when something bad happens in our lives, we should start asking “what” questions. Such as “what am I learning from this?” And “what maturity is this instilling in me?” I really like this way of thinking and I want to start incorporating this more.
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Erin
Were to park my mind
Why this happened to me my anxiety is really bad & my stress is really high I am wondering why I know it stress & some time I have a anxiety attack come on I do anything to relax & de stress by doing my meditating & writing my journal & colouring & relax in a hot bath & some time I I do a spa day
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Elisabeth
Switching from why to what
Wow! Amazing session that transforms my outlook and shines a little light on an ugly and dark subject.
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Lisa
Connect To The Love Inside Of YOU
Genuine self-love is the most profound experience in the universe. However, it usually takes time, sincere dedication, and discipline to develop. We are surrounded by so many images, beliefs, and behaviors that reinforce the idea of self-hatred every day that it can be extremely difficult for us to connect to the love inside of us.
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Isabel
What I needed
This meditation spoke about what to do when things get hard. I was recently diagnosed with depression and have been trying to cope with my new world.
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Candy
Good meditation
The mind, a tool to be managed not one to manage you. Delve into the moment and “be”, it’s okay.
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Ginger
Experience
I had a profound experience at work just over a year ago. It shook me completely. I’ve changed everything in my life but my family. It sent me into a cycle of depression. Why did it happen? Better is what did it accomplish - it was the final push out of an industry that was abusive into a job that I have learned much and can take with me. What have I gained - new coworkers I enjoy and don’t fear will turn on me to save themselves. A better home for my family.
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Lauren
Gone
I have been gone for a few weeks now, as stress and the mass build up of tasks to take care of have been given no other choice but to completely overwhelm me. Now that I have returned, I feel like I’m finally back to somewhat of my old self again, resuming my past times of relaxation and regaining my peace and mindfulness after longing to be granted time to win it back.
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Rich
Work in Progress
I have been struggling with the “why” since I lost my job earlier this year. The experience and search process have been very challenging and it is difficult to shift into “what” mode. I know dwelling on the past is not productive. I will continue to take one step at a time.
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Christine
Ask what
I am really going to try and do this. I am going to ask what instead of why. Why is this happening to me will be what do I do now that this is my reality. Beautiful
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Debs
morning after
Last night I was afraid to fall asleep so when I woke up I learned with this specific one how to focus on breathing and nothing else
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Mike
restless
I noticed that my mind wandered more than usual today. I think this was due to my not giving myself enough time to focus before beginning.
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Kati
Angry
I wish I had this a few years ago when my boyfriend moved away. All I did was wallow in the “why did this happen to me” instead of saying “now that this is my reality what am I supposed to do with it”
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Aurora
What instead of Why
The What-Question is a question I tend to forget. I could accept reality as it developed and ask myself what I can learn from it, in what ways it has helped me to grow and to understand. To ask why is always pointing on the negative change, but a What-Question is showing me the good again, the possibilities. Thank you four reminding me.
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Septiani
i feel really angry before
i start to questioned myself. i realize i cant be like this forever.
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Angel
Not who I am . Not mine
I have nothing else to do but to bring attention to my breath . To release and let go all the emotions ( bad emotions) they do not define who I am . To just breathe and trust Jesus
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Diana
Monday 02/18/19
I learned that when I’m trying to focus and close my eyes I hear differ t noises that distract me and I start to feel something
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Barb
Short but powerful
Living with a feeling of precariousness, it would be easy to get stuck in he “Why me?” trap. This meditation gives me another set of questions to ask, and it’s much more present and forward-facing. Really good, and I think it’ll be really useful, starting pretty much now.
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Geordie
Now What not Why.
It is difficult to ask What instead of Why.. but it’s true we need to make the best of now.
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Katelyn
Starting
I just recently started meditating it was shown to me bye a friend and it really has helped with my hectic and stressful life
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Tammy
Where to park your mind
Today we meditated on the what instead of the why. What can we learn? What should we be doing? It makes sense. Asking why something happens is passive. Asking the what gives us power and allows us to be proactive.
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Austin
Productivity
I learned from this that happiness comes when I can be productive and aware of everything. Each day needs to be eventful in some way.
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Jordan
Asking the What, not the Why
I really liked this meditation. I found it to be both inspiring and practical. When asking yourself the “why” of a difficult situation does not produce hope, start asking the “what”. Instead of, “why did this happen to me?” or “why is this so difficult?”, start asking what you can learn from this situation, what you can do in the here-and-now to feel better and make changes, what your strengths are and what we can gain from this difficult experience. If your questioning is not producing hope then you are asking the wrong questions. Think of questions that yield hopeful and helpful answers. Park your mind in only the spots where there is room. You don’t try to park your car in a parking spot that another car has already taken, so what is the purpose of trying to park your mind in a question that may not produce any necessary answers?
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Julie
Powerful
This was a powerful meditation for me. It’s funny I believe when we are ready to hear something the universe will provide what we need at that moment. 9 months ago, my Dad moved here unexpectedly. Long story short him and his long time girlfriend broke up. He did live with my husband and I for a few months before finding him a place. He can do a few things for himself. However, I still take care of a lot for him which I understand “the why” I am in this role. It is not a role I want to be in. My dad has never been there for me and was never empathetic. I have had a lot of emotions to process. The inner child in me needs healing. Boy, she has been making herself known lately. I have started to work on that this week. This situation has shattered my world. This is the reason my husband and I did not move this year. I will continue to listen to this meditation to see where it leads my thoughts.
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Brittney
Sept 14, 4:45pm
I loved the moving from why to what. It resonates with me and it's something I want to work with to help me. I feel more comfortable with my situation
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Heather
Where to park your mind
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I really want to work on training my mind to ask ‘what’ instead of ‘why’ during trying times.
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Vívian
Idk
Sometimes it's to hard to let the things go. When I took the first deep breath, it was easy. When I took the second I started to cry. And then I realized why I was feeling like this...
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Kim
Where to park my mind
That’s a good question I asked myself what am I doing instead a lot of things going inside my mind telling me how to park my mind taking deep breath and relax sometimes I just wanna cry when I get stressed out or frustrated with anything.
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Deb
Where to Park
Fabulous. Wish I had had this a couple of years ago. Adapting to circumstances instead of wondering why. Brilliant. Thanks Lauren.
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Julie
The shift from why to what
The shifting of "why", which is a more abstract concept to most of us, to "what", a more concrete and tangible concept...we actually still.arrive at the why...
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sue
Exactly , WHAT is this doing for me? Loads. Most important job I’ve ever had .
Everything, most important job of my life!!! Caring for Mom is the ultimate challenge, the steaks are high right now.
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Erin
April 26th
I learned that I am asking myself the wrong question sometimes. There are a lot of situations that arise that you will never get the why question answered but if you can at least understand the what of the situation you are at least moving forward.
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Suzanne
Where to park your mind
I was expecting a small moment in teaching me how to still and quiet my mind for meditation. This is something I struggle with. I did not expect the topic that was covered instead, and ended my session in tears. It obviously touched on things for me.