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When Love Has Been Abusive: How to Reclaim True Love

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Dorothy Ratusny
Psychotherapist & Meditation Teacher
For you to find great love in this life is your destiny. Your heart has been yearning for this... A spoken 'inspired' message to remind you of how the love you had (or may still have) is not real love if it comes with abusive words or actions.  And how to reclaim the real love that you are so deserving of.  Believe in this. When you ask for what you truly want and then as you are willing to receive it (even with caution) - you are reminded of the great power of receiving everything that you most desire - and with this - new love.
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tristin
learning
i learned that i am worthy of feeling genuine love and that i deserve to be happy
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Walter J
Loving & Learning...
Very, very insightful session! When our love for someone is not returned it is not our fault and we need to learn to not feel bad about it. Maybe they led us to believe that which is untrue. Maybe they had a few qualities we liked & we chose to tell ourselves the other ones were not important or they actually hid them from us. Maybe we just acted too hasty getting involved with them in the first place. Regardless of all the maybes, we need to remember we are the good person who is deserving of Love. Great Love, not manipulative love. We need to attract a higher Love that will respect us for who we are Becoming. That can see the best in us and will Want to help us release this goodness. Regardless of the past bad relationships we can find better love!!
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Michele
Learning to love
Finding that I can be open to receiving new love...wow. Truly grateful for Dorothy’s message. 💝💝💝
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Dan
Hhh
Fight GC fcgg egg r t fff GC f Reggie GC did church do he do it Dt I’m just do in her do in her do if by Ted cut in
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Kyle
Negative
I have learned that in order for me to be free, I must forgive and not hold resentments. If I don’t truly let go with love, that person will always have an influence over me. I’ll never wholly be......me. I found this story to be vengeful and holding ex’s in a negative light. Love was love.
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Misty
When love has been abusive..
This is so true and I’m worth more then the way I’ve been treated the last 7 years but I’m coming out of this darkness and on my one and I’m so excited to shine and become myself once more 💯🙏
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Danielle
Falling for Love
It’s funny how we use the term “fall in Love”, because that is what happens. I believe “falling” is a metaphor for your vulnerability. Letting go of any doubts and completely trusting that your partner will be there on the receiving end, ready and willing to “catch” your Love without letting it hit the ground. If they are not present or not willing to reciprocate that Love, it will be shown to you. It is important to not ignore these signs and to make the right decision to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and simply move on or you will find yourself on another painful plight. I think that’s why Love sometimes hurts us so badly…
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Gisella
Drawn to my energy
For the first time I am starting to see (date I say a glimmer of belief) that I have an energy that does attract people to me when I allow it to flow from me freely and openly. When I let go of my reservations, my fear and my insecurities and just live who I am I can see those times when I have drawn people to me without effort, without struggle. This is what I want…to live freely in my own energy and just love me, love being me, love being alive. The fight continues!!!!! ❤️
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Betsy
They were drawn to me
I gave so freely, I chose to see goodness, I CAN see goodness but I doubted myself when I saw the red flags. I see them, I act on them and keep my light shining strong.
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Verney
When love has been abusive
It’s funny I didn’t think this one would affect me as much as I did. Why I thought that I have no idea. As I entered this relationship my spouse had died about three or four years before and I have been alone that time and done a lot of personal work I was truly in the best place I’ve ever been in my entire life. It was not looking to end up in a relationship I was actually moving out of state. And I met this person and within a few months was in love and chose to stay. I’ve never been in love in my entire life. I’d love people but never that feeling of being in love is entirely new to me. It was wonderful and scary and odd and and so very new. Long story short I lost myself I lost weight was. I lost everything I lost probably one of the most difficult things if I’m being told I wasn’t really in love. And I can’t imagine what it was then that I felt. I could live my life alone I love being alone I feel comfortable. But I so desperately want to know what that feels like. Actually be in love with someone. I thought I had it now I’m not sure. Define that one person who you can share everything with. I’m sure I can’t even put into words. And I’m not going to have written so much already. But I have to say this one had a profound effect on me. To help me move forward and to know that it is OK that I think about falling in love someday. Part of me was feeling like it was selfish. I don’t know why. I tend not to ask for much.  that I deserve to have someone in my life who fights for me, loves me more than any other, but I’m the number one, so we can argue and disagree and come back together knowing that no matter what… So much more thank you so much I’m grateful for my life today I truly am it’s been a difficult few years. I have so much in my life to be thankful for. 
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Rachel
My heart
Interesting to know that it’s not me. They were drawn to what they didn’t have but took advantage. How do I deal with this hurt and pain?
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Sabina
Love as a state of being
I would like to have your opinion. I feel like, we should be guided to realize that we are love. Love is the state of being, not something to get but give. When our life brings us the situation which we preceive as abusive, it's another lesson for us to practice seeing the situation from higher perspective, being observer of our thoughts, acting from love. Love transforms. I can't somehow resonate with the thought that my partner was abusive to me and I feel hurt. I am responsible for my inner world. But I do agree that people living in the lower state of consciousness are drawn to the people with higher. They are seeking to evolve. It's lesson for them but also for us. Love can also means to leave the person. Whatever decision comes from love is something I naturally believe in. Let's not blame others from our situation. Eventually, we are all one. True self love is when we are able to love everyone, because we are not separate.
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