Love as a state of being
I would like to have your opinion. I feel like, we should be guided to realize that we are love. Love is the state of being, not something to get but give. When our life brings us the situation which we preceive as abusive, it's another lesson for us to practice seeing the situation from higher perspective, being observer of our thoughts, acting from love. Love transforms.
I can't somehow resonate with the thought that my partner was abusive to me and I feel hurt. I am responsible for my inner world. But I do agree that people living in the lower state of consciousness are drawn to the people with higher. They are seeking to evolve. It's lesson for them but also for us.
Love can also means to leave the person. Whatever decision comes from love is something I naturally believe in. Let's not blame others from our situation. Eventually, we are all one. True self love is when we are able to love everyone, because we are not separate.