When Love Has Been Abusive: How to Reclaim True Love

learning

i learned that i am worthy of feeling genuine love and that i deserve to be happy

Loving & Learning...

Very, very insightful session! When our love for someone is not returned it is not our fault and we need to learn to not feel bad about it. Maybe they led us to believe that which is untrue. Maybe they had a few qualities we liked & we chose to tell ourselves the other ones were not important or they actually hid them from us. Maybe we just acted too hasty getting involved with them in the first place. Regardless of all the maybes, we need to remember we are the good person who is deserving of Love. Great Love, not manipulative love. We need to attract a higher Love that will respect us for who we are Becoming. That can see the best in us and will Want to help us release this goodness. Regardless of the past bad relationships we can find better love!!

Learning to love

Finding that I can be open to receiving new love...wow. Truly grateful for Dorothy’s message. 💝💝💝

Hhh

Fight GC fcgg egg r t fff GC f Reggie GC did church do he do it Dt I’m just do in her do in her do if by Ted cut in

Negative

I have learned that in order for me to be free, I must forgive and not hold resentments. If I don’t truly let go with love, that person will always have an influence over me. I’ll never wholly be......me. I found this story to be vengeful and holding ex’s in a negative light. Love was love.

When love has been abusive..

This is so true and I’m worth more then the way I’ve been treated the last 7 years but I’m coming out of this darkness and on my one and I’m so excited to shine and become myself once more 💯🙏

Falling for Love

It’s funny how we use the term “fall in Love”, because that is what happens. I believe “falling” is a metaphor for your vulnerability. Letting go of any doubts and completely trusting that your partner will be there on the receiving end, ready and willing to “catch” your Love without letting it hit the ground. If they are not present or not willing to reciprocate that Love, it will be shown to you. It is important to not ignore these signs and to make the right decision to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and simply move on or you will find yourself on another painful plight. I think that’s why Love sometimes hurts us so badly…

Drawn to my energy

For the first time I am starting to see (date I say a glimmer of belief) that I have an energy that does attract people to me when I allow it to flow from me freely and openly. When I let go of my reservations, my fear and my insecurities and just live who I am I can see those times when I have drawn people to me without effort, without struggle. This is what I want…to live freely in my own energy and just love me, love being me, love being alive. The fight continues!!!!! ❤️

They were drawn to me

I gave so freely, I chose to see goodness, I CAN see goodness but I doubted myself when I saw the red flags. I see them, I act on them and keep my light shining strong.

When love has been abusive

It’s funny I didn’t think this one would affect me as much as I did. Why I thought that I have no idea. As I entered this relationship my spouse had died about three or four years before and I have been alone that time and done a lot of personal work I was truly in the best place I’ve ever been in my entire life. It was not looking to end up in a relationship I was actually moving out of state. And I met this person and within a few months was in love and chose to stay. I’ve never been in love in my entire life. I’d love people but never that feeling of being in love is entirely new to me. It was wonderful and scary and odd and and so very new. Long story short I lost myself I lost weight was. I lost everything I lost probably one of the most difficult things if I’m being told I wasn’t really in love. And I can’t imagine what it was then that I felt. I could live my life alone I love being alone I feel comfortable. But I so desperately want to know what that feels like. Actually be in love with someone. I thought I had it now I’m not sure. Define that one person who you can share everything with. I’m sure I can’t even put into words. And I’m not going to have written so much already. But I have to say this one had a profound effect on me. To help me move forward and to know that it is OK that I think about falling in love someday. Part of me was feeling like it was selfish. I don’t know why. I tend not to ask for much.  that I deserve to have someone in my life who fights for me, loves me more than any other, but I’m the number one, so we can argue and disagree and come back together knowing that no matter what… So much more thank you so much I’m grateful for my life today I truly am it’s been a difficult few years. I have so much in my life to be thankful for. 

My heart

Interesting to know that it’s not me. They were drawn to what they didn’t have but took advantage. How do I deal with this hurt and pain?

Love as a state of being

I would like to have your opinion. I feel like, we should be guided to realize that we are love. Love is the state of being, not something to get but give. When our life brings us the situation which we preceive as abusive, it's another lesson for us to practice seeing the situation from higher perspective, being observer of our thoughts, acting from love. Love transforms. I can't somehow resonate with the thought that my partner was abusive to me and I feel hurt. I am responsible for my inner world. But I do agree that people living in the lower state of consciousness are drawn to the people with higher. They are seeking to evolve. It's lesson for them but also for us. Love can also means to leave the person. Whatever decision comes from love is something I naturally believe in. Let's not blame others from our situation. Eventually, we are all one. True self love is when we are able to love everyone, because we are not separate.

I am an empath

I am a being with loving. I do not desire a project to make someone see their hurtful ways or to repair how they love. I desire a love that is real. A love that is eternal.

He was drawn to me because of the love I showed my children

I learned,when he said that, I am a loving ,caring person. Did I know that before? Yes. But openingly said, I felt confirmation from him. I’m not his mother though. I’m his wife.

Wow this was right on! Break ups are hard but so far aura has had me healing so much faster listening to all the break up meditations. Thank you aura for giving me so many different therapists!

I have my shit together! And breakups happen when the need isn’t there anymore and to move on. Other adventures await!

Shifting perspectives

This mediation helped me see my abusive exes as frightened children instead of the bogeyman they had been to me

Love after Abuse

The one who hurts others is most often hurting themselves, and quite literally. They are hurting and as a result they hurt others around them. They are drawn to our own light and healing energy and we accept them. We fail to realize or accept their red flags, somewhere confused along the way where we so openly loved unconditionally. It helps make all of this, make sense to me. It helps to deepen my understanding all the while find more tenderness and understanding in place of anger.

When it’s so much work

I learned that just because someone says they love you and want to be with you, doesn’t mean that they do. Love is forgiving, supportive, should lift you up when you’re down, not try to drag you down.

All of this

I always choose to be happy. My husband, my mother, my sister and others try to take this from me all the time. I believe their cruel words every time. I believe I’m not deserving of better things. I must change that. I must love me more.

Abusive

Every word resonated w me. I felt understood. Recently left narcisistic relationship. Helped me feel less confused and hopeful again

Unsettling - tolerating unhappy people

Wow, in my life I do see how I attract energy and then wonder how to respond shelter make better. Yuk. I need to stay with this. detaching with love or just plain detaching - those skills I need to practice

I’m seriously thinking this meditation is great

I learned that if you meditate you will be much better and all will be calm and you won’t think about as much as you did before and I have noticed that when I meditate I am at peace and quiet and god’s peace is always with me and it’s great because I’m liking the fact that I get to relax and stay calm and be at be at peace and I love the meditations and they are like yoga

It wasn't real love

The person who abused my trust, love, and inner self did so because he doesn't have the love that he needs. It feels so good to be moving forward with my life and Aura helping me. Thank you Dorothy.

Lonely

Just very lonely and not sure who to trust and where to go

No Title

I loved this. It made me feel hopeful. Her voice is calming.

I was in a Abusive Love Relationship . He wasn’t faithful or honest with me. When I broke up with him I was very sad but I knew I had to go . I realized that I wanted more and deserved better

I learned I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t Respect me

Love After Abuse

This whole meditation was amazing. I resonated with everything said. I felt at peace listening to it. My past abusive relationships will not stop me from discovering real love.

I was relaxed after meditation and stories. This life coach session made me anxious.

I am not ready for some subjects. I don't like being reminded about my stressful moments when I need relax. It doesn't work for me.

I felt energised listening to this and how true the words were. I need someone who is honest with their feelings and not out to make themselves feel better only.

I learned that I still have a lot to give of myself although not in monetary terms, but with my I ever self. I will....get back to my old self.

Love

A person might be attracted to my high energy because they have low energy. However, in the relationship there is no expression of appreciation for your high energy but an envy of it.

Relationship Trauma

I learned that he built himself back up by stepping all over me. When he came to me he was very damaged. I now can release myself from his chains

Love

I am of the privileged few that have had a great love! I was with my wife for 33 years. We spent times of great fun but also of great sickness. She passed and only now am I pulling it some what together. But I had the greatest of love.

I noticed that this meditation about love is relevant to a lot of my experiences.

I learned that it could have been me too was was drawn to this person for their light and energy but it could be in their case as well but the negative side more so on them and none about me.

Growing

Learning to trust God and the process. Don’t allow others opinions make you feel less than you are. With God all things are possible.

Leaving an Abusive Relationship

I learned that I didn’t deserve the way I was treated, disrespected not given 100%. I deserve to be loved , respected and treated well. I will find it or it will find me.