Especially during difficult times, we tend to try to protect ourselves against the stress and the heavy emotions we feel. Unfortunately, doing this can add much more added stress to our mind and body. In this meditation, Jiva helps us by having us repeat the words ‘softening’ and ‘allowing’.
Since experiencing an abrupt loss in my life, the tension i feel in my shoulders and neck has caused a great deal of pain. Becoming aware of my breath and tuning into these tense areas of my body, I repeated the word softening. With each out breath, I could feel a small amount of the tension loosen ever so gently.
Then I followed Jiva’s direction to become aware of my emotions I am feeling. With each out breath, I repeated the word allowing. Honestly, I almost began to cry. Feeling and ‘just being’ with these emotions is certainly not easy! However, as Jiva says, these emotions are already here. What caused these emotions to be here has already happened. No matter how hard it is, we need to allow ourselves to ‘just be’ with these emotions.
The next time I find myself combating this internal struggle, I will remember these words, softening and allowing, to give myself the compassion my body, mind and soul deserve.