7 min

Self Regulation Around Other People

7 Min
Emotional Intelligence
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Milan “Vee” Vracaric
Breathwork and Meditation Teacher
Deal properly with people that bug you! Learn how to move away from situations that stress you, and how to create these situations for yourself less often.
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2 reflections
Response is Everything
At my job, one of my coworkers is known as a Debbie Downer. She is the type to constantly complain about everything in her life. However, she does nothing to make her situation any better. She is also the type that I feel everything could be perfect in her world, but she would still find something wrong. When I work with her, I listen to what she is saying and empathize. Then I try to change the subject to something else. Sometimes this works. When it doesn’t work and I feel myself starting to become emotionally drained, I refocus my attention on my breath. My breath becomes a wall that counteracts her negative energy. It keeps me calm and centered. We have the power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom. This could not be more true when we are dealing with someone that bothers us. The next time you find yourself in a situation with a person that is bothering you take a moment to refocus your attention on your breath before you engage with this person. Be able to clearly communicate with them in a non-violent way. Set boundaries. And if possible avoid this person.
Helpful? Not sure
I like listening to Vee because he has such a mellifluous voice and always includes relaxing background sounds…but, I don’t feel like this track worked for me because I am unable to avoid the people I need to deal with, and I know they won’t be receptive to discussing the current dynamic.