These experiences you speak of are not limited to women. Shall I tell you the story of a little boy who, at 3 was beaten by his father’s brass belt buckle, because the father would not tolerate “crying” from a boy. Who left his wife and son for the “other” woman. Yes, that little boy learned. Fear, anger and hate. You speak of rising above these events Several people will tell you that today he is the most loving man you could ever know. One of his friends said “he speaks of love, he writes of love, he IS love. ❤️