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No One Can Hurt You Unless You Allow It

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Dorothy Zennuriye Juno
Psychotherapist & Meditation Teacher
When we hurt it is because we have allowed someone to affect us negatively; to cause us harm, to feel doubt, fear, insecurity, or discouragement, when really each time that we experience someone's negativity, they are simply showing us their reaction, and their feelings and thoughts in that particular moment. How often do we allow others to hurt us? Your decision must be to step back, to step away from taking on whatever hurts may be directly or indirectly pointed at you. You wouldn't choose to be hurt. You would choose to be love and to feel loved. So begin with this. Become great at this. This is the ability to love yourself and to trust wholeheartedly in your goodness, your infinite power, your truth. with love Namaste!
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167 reflections
Not you
Always remember that how people treat you is a reflection of who they are. If they can’t treat you right, they can’t treat themselves right. It’s never about you. Love yourself always ❤️
This is a tough one
In theory, this meditation says all the right things! We know who, what and how we are. We are not others opinion of us. But it takes a bit of practice, at least for me, to be able to forgive and get past those hurtful words or deeds. But I’m working on it. 🌺
change of perspective
I noticed that this helped me see things from a different perspective. It helped me redirect my thoughts from frustration to more of an understanding of my frustrations. I feel like the next time something comes up that might make me feel angry, I can use what I learned from this and be more mindful about the situation.
Summertime Sadness
I feel sad.. My last relationship was a disaster and I can't move on. He did me wrong, 10 months ago I was happy I wish I could go back.
I can’t control what others did to hurt me. And just because they did the things they did doesn’t make them a monster there just as lost as I am
I learned that detaching from your control of others will benefit you from getting hurt. That hoping and wanting something for others is different than being upset when you don’t see the result, when ultimately they are in charge of their life, actions and attitude. I choose to believe that if something doesn’t happen as I thought it should have, that is okay, as I do not control others of the world as a whole. Things will happen as people choose them to or as they are meant to and identifying pain and suffering in others is important to forgiving them and yourself.
Understand the person being cruel
Know that people hurting you through their blunt and cruel words can come out from their own pain and you should try to help rather than focus on words
Accepting other's opinions non-reactively
Our mind is like a musical instrument. Throughout our lives, other musicians pluck the strings and strike notes in this beautiful instrument while we remain unaware of the potential of this instrument all this time as we have never played any note on it ourselves but have allowed others to do the same.
No one can hurt you
The biggest thing i need to work on is having positive beliefs about myself. I think that consciously and subconsciously i have negative thoughts about myself which in turn feed the negative feeling and so forth into a vicious cycle. The moment am firm in my thoughts of myself, what ever opinions anyone could have will not affect me. I am a beautiful, strong, intelligent and successful woman. :)
Tarna ❤️
I noticed that whatever that stresses me out, stresses me out because I give it the attention it demands.
Blocking the hurt
I made a decision that affected some people who were unhappy with the outcome. One in particular accepted the decision with grace and realized why I chose what I did. Another responded angrily behind my back and said very hurtful things. I considered my choice and realized I made the right decision. Seeing their responses actually affirmed it. It is hard to block the hurt, but I must. It was important to consider their perspectives, but I know I did what was right. I usually take this kind of thing more personally, but I believe in my choice. I am open to the future.
Write every thing
I love writing & it helps me to remember to do things in my day & reminds me to do my de stress therapy
Know thyself
This is a session that is so powerful, honest and heavily weighted in personal truths that when I listened to it I thought “I know these things” but do I always practice them? I should. I must try harder.....
Walter J
WOW!! I got a wake up call on this one!!Dorothy was calling me out for allowing myself to let others hurt me... & she was spot on! Wow again - I have given up so much joy by allowing a few close people to pull me into their negativity by my trying to help them when they obviously did not want any help. And I was wondering why I seemed to have an anxiousness & irritability lately... Those feelings are not me. Their words & actions are not them, but Where they are, at this moment. Hopefully, it is just how they feel right now & not who they are. But I think the longer they stay that way the better chance that IS who they will become. That makes me sad for them. But unless they are aware AND want to change for the better, I have no right to interfere. I have to let go & let God help them. I can only help those “with their hand up”! Luckily, those people are appreciative of my wanting to help them and a positive, building, Love cycle is started! Thanks Dorothy & Aura!! ❤️✌🏼🍀
I felt
I learned that only i can change the way i feel in any situation.🌩
Wrong thing played?
... I liked what I listened to. But judging from the other people’s comment on this... I think the wrong track played for me.
these lessons and sessions help me feel better and more relaxed
I learned that no one can hurt you unless you let them, it me a direct copy off of the cover but they do an amazing job teaching you how to forgive yourself and others.
This meditation made me feel better about how I judge the people who are putting me and my friends down
No one can hurt you...
I have elimated the negative people from my life. However I must remember that harsh and critical self talk is also hurting me. I must lift myself up instead of put myself down
I allow it
I learned that I am allowing the ones I love to hurt me. Not intentionally but unintentionally. I want them to be proud of me, to understand me and to appreciate the things I do so much that I forget to be those things for myself and to love myself.
Loving your Ex
I learned that as individuals, we may still hurt inside, making us miss our ex as well of having flashbacks to good memories. When this happens we think we still love them, but really we just miss the old person we thought they may had been or where. I believe that some people may still care about their ex’s deep down inside, but not that same level of loving them, which is okay in a way because it show that they want them to be happy and forgiveness. In the end result, there is a reason why people break up when they still love them, but that individual needs to put themselves first to take care of their own mental, emotional, and physical state of mind to be able to have a healthy relationship. Most importantly, as an individual, we deserve to be happy and should carry on with our lives for a new adventure to appear.
False Face
I have listened to this previously and it had a powerful effect on me, as many of Dorothy’s meditations do. I am grateful I listened again today. There has been a person who for several weeks has been hurtful, dismissive, dishonest, striking out, accusatory, for no valid reason. I have neither said nor done anything to cause discomfort or harm to this person. I have continued to be honest and kind. However, honesty and kindness have not flowed back toward me. This is not my problem. I cannot fix it. I thought that perhaps this person was just going through a bad time but have now come to realize that this is indeed who this person really is and so I have backed away. I cannot help a person who does not wish help. Therefore, I will not allow this person, who pretended to be my friend, to hurt me in any way. I pray that she “sees the light” and doesn’t try to harm others who believe in her kindness and trust that she is genuine and honest. Sadly, she will only harm herself in the end. This is a wonderful coaching session; a great deal can be learned from it.
I felt totally relaxed
I learned that if I say those things when I am relaxed there true. We create our own reality, right? ⏫
I needed this
I happened to choose this meditation on the day I needed it most... I can't tell you how much peace it brought me
There’s so many nuggets of wisdom in this practice and I’m glad I chanced upon this when I needed it the most.
I learnt that I have let other people control the way I feel. And I have hust other people with my words. I hope as I move forward that I will remain incontrol of my faculties in all situations so that I may impact others positively.
No one can hurt you unless you allow it
This is all so important. I should listen to this every day!
You are in charge of the way you feel. When people hurt you, realize that they are not themself in that situation and they could be going through stuff. Be mindful about other peoples problems.
Others are responsible for how they feel. They are not their highest self, in the time of arguments.
No one can hurt you
I am in control of my own feelings. When someone is acting in a way to project hurtfulness it’s not a reflection of who they truly are. It’s a moment of weakness, struggle an doubt. Its not you! Its them
Not Their Best Moment
Sometimes I forget that being humble does not mean being walked on. When someone is cruel, they are often in a bad moment. And it’s important to not always just accept their opinion, but to understand it may not be coming from the right place 🔆
So apt that’s all I needed
Yes that’s what I need for my understanding my calmness my silence my love
So good.
This is what I needed to hear right now. I have to remember that he isn’t always in his optimal state, and it’s my choice to feel hurt. I have to be OK in myself first and foremost.
We are responsible for our own feelings, and not how others treat us.
We are in control
I learned that people’s reactions are based on their current disposition and we have to understand that. We have to consider others’ feelings, too. At the end of the day, we are the masters of ourselves. We are the only one capable of controlling how we feel.
Day 1
When other people do things to hurt me, it is a reflection on their character and not mine. I have a choice in how I want to react to it.
Listening to this
This was very eyes opening talk. I love to feel that only I’m respondible for how I feel and to know that❤️
Day two of being single
I learned that no matter what the issue only I can change how I feel. I decide to be happy or to be upset. I decide I’m a bad bitch
On the money
I often allow comments or actions from others to sit on my mind and try to analyze the meaning too deeply. Whether it was mean spirited, kind, or neutral in meaning, I have smoked it in as indicative of who I must be. I’m getting better at not being a sponge for others’ baggage or flattery, because I feel as though I’m truer to myself that’s days. Although, reminders of how to be mindful are always welcome.
No hurt, unless you let
Forgive people and don’t accept their hurtfull words as truth , be aware it’s not really their heart speaking
I felt a little bit better
I learned that no one is capable to hurt me without me giving the permission to
My own actions
I learned that I need to stop taking everything so personally and that sometimes I lash out for the wrong reasons 1
Me costó la sesión de hoy. Me dio ansiedad no tener un cronómetro y no saber cuánto tiempo tenía de meditar
Becoming fully in control of our lives
It requires a great amount of persistence to practice the art of controlling our thoughts and feelings, and once you attain that power there is so much freedom on life. Because only then do we fully believe in our power to choose our own destiny
Good to know
I’ve learned that this person has problems so that’s why she is giving me problems
She got problems
I’m listening to this meditation over and over again, because this person has telepathic issues. Now I woke up because of telepathic/lucid dream and she has serious problems! I pray for her🙏
It’s times like now where you feel like things are out of your hands and out of your control. I’ve been extra sensitive to other’s words and actions and have been allowing my reactions to control the hurt I’m allowing in my life. The hurt people give out is a direct reflection of themselves and does not have to be internalized by the one supposed to be receiving.
It took me years to figure this out. How people act towards me is not a reflection of me but of them and their current state.
I learned that the way i feel is not the way i am. And that i can be happy too
Amy Elizabeth
My highest being is not found in my feelings nor my thoughts at a given moment !
If others have hurt me it’s because they are not in their higher state of being. They are acting from fear, self-doubt, lack of knowledge, wisdom! I must continue to be positive, empathetic, a mind still remain in a state of Grace and remove myself from their pain and take a step back from those that are “suffering or being harsh, angry, mean and hurtful”. I’ll be mindful of this at every present moment. I will offer kind and positive Words to these hurtful people who are not under a state of Grace or Wisdom because they are not in a state of being their higher self. But I’ll not allow others to hurt me ever again! I’m empathetic, compassionate, kind, thoughtful but I do NOT have to bear their anger and suffering in that moment! I’ll allow my higher self and my self love to govern how I react to other’s harming me because it’s their pain that wants to hurt me and its not their higher self that operates this way. I’ll forgive and forget. I remain positive, loving, gracious and kind. Amen.
Amy Elizabeth
I am Wise, Living, Kind, Gracious and have self acceptance and love!
I’m a higher being and I’ll access that and never allow others to hurt me again!
The first step
I learned that the person who is hurting you are not at their highest of themselves. Remind yourself that they’re in a certain state of mind and may not mean what they are saying and doing at the moment. Look past what they’ve said or did. However don’t just easily excuse it.
How to react when others are hurtful
Remember that they are not their highest self and their behaviour reflects about them. Don’t seek anyone’s approval.
I'm trying..
I'm trying to get a better idea of my life and myself. I always want things better but im always settle for less on the table. How can I get better inside myself?
Sad and hurt
With sadness is sadness and No one can make me happy. Their hurtfulness is their state and No mine
Take care of rocks first
Take care of rocks first these are the things that matter the most, the rest is just sand
Letting go
Always important to remember that our actions as a reflection of our feelings can hurt people and that those actions are our responsibility. Not someone else’s.
Kesha-Lee 💖
Personal and Emotional Growth
I learned that no body in this world can affect my emotions as much as I can. I can control my emotions. I must know that when others treat me unkindly it is not a reflection of who they truly are but how they are feeling in that moment: hurt, triggered or insecure, etc. I love myself. I will control myself and master self-control and discipline. No matter what it takes. I love me and I will act like it. No person can steal my joy when I love me. God loves me. I love me.
I noticed that I began to reflect greatly on my own actions as well as others & how the struggle inside & out can be met with compassion & Grace.
Different aspect
I noticed that this was an overall reminder on how to take in a lot of things from others.
No one can hurt you unless you allow it
As a highly sensitive, empathic, and caring person, this session resonated deeply within me. I used to take on the responsibility of other’s feelings and behaviors, so it is very easy for me to slide back into that old pattern if I am not mindful and vigilant. I have set a new standard on how I expect to be treated, and on how I treat others. I still honor my kind and compassionate nature, but I no longer consistently give away everything I am and everything I have to others. That includes not allowing everyone to hurt me, unless I deserve it. I am not perfect, but I do my best to put more love out in the universe, to appreciate life and all living beings. Thank you.
I felt sad
Because I am doing the right thing. Stepping away from someone, that maybe causing harm.
I felt bad about myself
But I learned that someone thinking negatively of something that I put work into doesn’t really matter because if I tried my best I did good and what I think matters too.
No one can hurt you unless you can empathize with what they say. You need to understand the insult to be offended.
Hurt and negativity
You can only allow somebody to hurt you if you choose to don’t let other people thoughts about you get you upset or say something negative only you are responsible for your own actions and what you say and how you react
Michael Thomas
Have to do best thing
I have decided to stay back and I am allowed anyone to hurt me and I have to stay calm and stay strong and I know it be hurt but I only trust Myself to do right thing. 😭🙏🏽
Tisha Marie
No one can hurt you
The only thing I can control are my thoughts. That if the ones that hurt me were living in their true selves they would be operating in love with the best of intentions. I can choose to believe in that and try to instead spend my thoughts on my own true intentions and operate my actions in love. To practice instead, loving myself and learning how to be loved by myself instead of focusing on others actions whether directly aimed at me or inadvertently aimed so.
I felt understood
I learned that ultimately I can see with empathy when I remind myself that a person is not their true selves in a moment of conflict. That empathy I can see for the person and now for myself, because their actions are not a reflection of my capability as a person.
Fear of being Hurt
I can only be hurt if I allow it. If I take personally the action or words of someone else instead of realizing that it reflects them much more than it reflects me .
You can’t allow others to hurt you
When someone is doing or saying things that are hurtful or bringing you down they aren’t acting in they’re highest self. It’s not a reflection or who you are! You allow whether that affects you or not.
People really can hurt you even if you don’t want it to happen
While I generally believe this concept is true, people can still take actions that can result in the destruction of your career-thereby, truly hurt you even if you don’t want to be hurt.
day 2
I learned that I am not responsible for the way that people feel. I am only in control of the way that I feel.
I learned
I learned that I'm not in control of what others think,feel,or do but I am in control of what I think,feel and do.
1.) Hurt people hurt people
2.) Boundaries mean that the other person is responsible for the actions causing the hurt but I am responsible for my feelings in response to those actions. I can choose how I respond and what I let influence my feelings.
What was said or done is not yours to own
You don’t have to dismiss what others have done to hurt you but you can shift your perspective and empathize with them, knowing they are not their best selves in those moments.
What I felt
I feel more confident in handling certain situations that come my way with others . Learning how to cope with harsh statements and attacks and recognizing it’s not me it’s their inner feeling being projected into me.
No one can hurt you unless you allow it
I resist this idea. But the meditation still really helped me. Thank you! People hurt each other all the time,especially people who also love each other. The most important thing you reminded me of, each of us “is not our highest self in those moments.” That’s for sure! But perhaps the highest Self has not abandoned us, even in those experiences of anguish, maybe the suffering too is part of the learning, part of the revelation toward wholeness. Giving the benefit of the doubt, always, perhaps that is love. And knowing that sometimes, we are powerless to change the negative perceptions of others. That’s freedom.
Ik merk op dat ik mijn vaak onzeker voel wanneer ik alvin hoor praten met die anderen
I heb geleerd om gewoon hun dingen geen aandacht meer te geven en me te focussen op ons leven hier🙂
Controlling Anger
I often feel that when I am angry I speak terribly to people I care about, because something they have done or I have perceived is hurting me. I need to learn to step back, calm down, and return to the argument more mindfully when I am not feeling so heated. When the instructor spoke of the unkindness not being the person's true self, I believe that for myself. I don't think my anger is who I really am—but it tends to show through easily in arguments.
Can only control your response
I learned that ultimately you are only in control of your own actions and reactions to how people treat you and how you respond to what they say to you.
I learned that you need to be mindful of the situation a person is in before reacting to negative emotions.
Thank you
I feel like I'm embarking on a journey that will forever shape me into the person I've always been meant to be. I control my own destiny.
No one can hurt you
Take ownership of your thoughts and feelings. Accept others reactions as such in stride.
Your choice
It is my choice to feel hurt and take on the feelings that are a result of hurtful words. To appreciate more that the higher version of those that hurt or cause me pain would never do such a thing. They too are on a journey of self discovery and a work in progress.
Excellent , so true
How anyone acts is dependent on how they feel at the time. It has nothing to do with you.
Allow yourself of being empathetic and be in service in that situation
Curating Joy
Feel happiness in your heart and be open to joy. The more you are open, the more you will find
Best self
I’m going to try really hard with this one...not to be triggered or upset or to let that hurt in. Instead I will ask the person doing the hurt...”are you being your best self in this moment?”💝
Walter J
Dorothy allows us to break free from the opinions & comments of others in this insightful & powerful session! WOW! No one should allow what another person says to hurt them. Just recognize that they are feeling a certain way and talking from that low place. Their higher self would never talk this way but they must feel hurt or angry at the moment. Do not take it personally, but recognize they must be in pain. Maybe even use the time to help them get over their hurt by speaking love & higher thoughts into them! If this idea could be taught to everyone, what a more enjoyable world we would live in. Thanks Dorothy! ❤️👍🏼🍀
No one can hurt you
I learned that when my sister was acting mean toward me during my mother’s illness and afterwards she was hurting herself. She was not in a good place herself and her strolling out at me was just her way of handling the terrible situation we were all dealing with. I have always been looked upon D being strong by her, but she never understood how much it that she managed to get the rest of y siblings angry at me as well when in fact it wasn’t my fault our mom was dying. I was just the one that she thought could handle her anger. I’ve been hurt by this for 20 years because I’ve allowed it to hurt me. I am the only one that can make that pain go away. I need to understand where she was at that time & forgive her.
I needed this tonight. It made me realize when I get abused from others it’s not my fault. Also to realize it’s not the person but the moment they are in that they are acting like that. It made me fee
That it’s not my fault. The yelling and screaming and abuse isn’t because it’s my fault. It’s because of the moment the person is in. They are fighting their own demons. I never thought of it like that before. I try so hard and I want love so bad from the people who are constantly putting me down and put so much toxicity in my life. But maybe we both want the same thing?
Huge takeaway!
Only I, am capable of changing how I feel. This is a concept I know needs the most work before entering anymore relationships. For 41 years I’ve had it all wrong.
Definitely needed
I needed to hear this as I was going through a situation with someone in my family and this has helped me see things differently.
Very much needed
I need to keep this as a constant reminder and this was nice just for reassurance.
Great❣️ Thank you Dorothy🙏
I‘ll listen to it daily now to fix it in my mind. I don‘t want to be a victim of bad feelings any longer.
No one can hurt me unless I allow it
I learned that the people in my past, that has caused a great deal of hurt and pain, are truly the ones who are suffering. Not I.... I’ve become stronger through the process.
feeling hurt by depression
I learned that I have to remember that someone with depression is not their highest self and their pain is what I am receiving.
I noticed that I really needed to hear those words but that before I heard them I wasnt aware of how I was feeling. I felt justified in standing up for myself
It’s ok to set boundaries with people. When they judge me or dont honour what ai said, I can let that go
Don’t take on hurt
Don’t take things personally. A person’s actions are simply an indication of where they’re currently at.
Felt like it....
I needed to hear this. Felt that this didn’t just cover the now it hit on my past and my future. I have depression but I try not to let others see it and I take everything negative that is said to me personally.
10 min meditation
I noticed how she placed the load on the place and time the person was in. I think that has a great deal with a lot of what we try to say in our arguments along with how tired are we or how satisfied are we with our life? Thank you for this
I needed
I needed to hear this. My feelings aren’t how others feel. Others aren’t me
Dorthy delivered …
She said what I needed to hear. Others do not have control over me and getting upset is allowing their current bad energy interrupt my greatness.
I learned that … I can’t take on everyone’s energy. I’m not responsible for someone’s response or actions. I am only responsible for my own. Thank you thank you thank you !!!
What i learned in this audio?
I learned that i can't change my feelings and thoughts because of other people that surruond me.
Makes you think ..
After years of abusive relationships, the post reflection on this meditation brings you deep in the healing process by a better understanding of a perception I've never crossed before I find this particular way of seeing, helping with my inner healing process 💜 Most grateful 🦋
What I learnt
I learn that I’m in control of how I feel , years of abuse it’s hard to change that mindset, that’s it’s okay to step back from people that I don’t have to allow that kind of negativity in my life.
What I felt...
Very connected to this session. Conformation to what I’m dealing with now in life
Responding to hurt with love
I have allowed someone else’s anger and intentionally hurtful words affect me for so long. I am coming to realize that their hurt, pain, and insecurities are not a reflection of who I am and how I had unconditionally loved her. It is not that I wasn’t good enough; it may just be that her unresolved hurt and pain were, in this moment, just too great for the love I shared from the deepest depths of my heart. Instead of absorbing her negative energy and letting it bring me down, I instead choose to step back; and I will quietly send that pure love and healing for her to the universe. I choose to be love, and will continue to do so. This is my truth. 💚
Betsy Clark
This is not really my issue just now
If I'm not resonating with the issue it is hard to do all that reading.
The small things
So good. So basic and simple but reassuring and loving and peaceful and love. There is something here.
Dorothy Ratusny is
the Real Deal, and Aura is Genius. This meditation and mindfulness has helped me through literally the best and worst times of my life! 😊
Break up regret
I find it hard to forgive someone, but at the same time not take them back. I loved the message and know I should understand the person who hurt me was not at their best and it does not reflect me. But I feel like forgiving them makes me inclined to take them back. And I can’t decide if it is right or wrong to do that.
I deal with healing from a terrible narcissist
this session didn‘t help me much - but calmed me… so far so good
Internalizing criticism
I noticed that i tend to internalize the criticism I receive from others not recognizing that it roots from their own pain
Today I felt confused..unsure of a lot things in my life ..I want to take back control over my life..Find peace
No One Can Hurt Me Unless I Allow It
I love the Affirmation in this title. The message is timeless. I appreciate it that the passage is also Readable for those who learn by reading better than audible. Sometimes it’s hard for me to settle down when I’m stressed and this message was a High Anxiety trigger for me. By the time the session was done, I was feeling much Relief. Namaste 🙏🏼
Being hurt
I am not responsible for others happiness or actions. It is not a reflection on or of me.
Not reaponsible
I learned that I am not the reason for others behaviors. I’m not in control of how others behave. The only responsibility I have is to myself and my actions and reactions.
Smile ANYWAY!! 🦋
I learned that when someone speaks angry towards me to smile - literally- on the inside and know that that person is not operating in their highest self. This will be a “game - changer” - as when I smile on the inside, I will not be taking on their energy or their presence. My smile - is my super shield. 🙏🏽
Je me sens bien mieux Cet enseignement m’a vraiment beaucoup aidé à me recentrer sur moi même et prendre du recul
Not a reflection of who they truly are
A challenging consideration… to think of someone who has seemingly made an ongoing commitment to hurt me as not being their true self. it is a struggle to constantly remind myself that my ex - his actions and words are a result of his insecurities, that he wants company in his misery… I fight to avoid being pulled into that familiar downward spiral. I will remind myself I am allowing him to hurt me…and start remembering I don’t need to let that happen any more.
You can’t help everyone
You can help everyone in overcoming their personal termoils they’re ultimately responsible at the end of the day and you shouldn’t feel bad.
Rozel Carbon
Morning meditation
I learnt that it's important for me to start my day with my morning meditation and helps sets the mood and vibration of the day. I just have to be committed to being consistent with it.
No one can hurt me unless I let them
Always remember that person is not vibrating at their highest level and not to accept their gift of anger or hate
Haley Brown
I can’t get hurt unless I allow it. Who they are is not a reflection of what they are thinking or feeling. When others say things to make you suffer, remember they are not their highest self.
Winter McGuire
I notice others take advantage of how I feel often. Only because of the fact that I’m easily navigated to be lead in that direction. I can be either a leader or a follower. It’s up to me. In this phase of my life.
I noticed I let too many people hurt and affect me and I overthink way too much
I loved this
I felt like this was what I have needed to hear my entire life. Thank you Dorothy❤️
No one can hurt you
This is a totally new way of looking at this experience . I will need to listen again and take it deeper into my soul and try to accept this way of thinking about people hurting me🙏♥️thank you🙏
No one can hurt me unless I allow it
I learned that when others treat you poorly, it’s important to remember that they are not at their higher power. They are not truly themselves. This is nothing to do with me I am the only one that can control how I feel!
Deflect others reactions and motives
Others reactions can reflect my iutcime, moods and positive space
Detaching oneself from an outcome. That really is a new concept for me and extremely helpful. To react with understanding to someone being hurtful to you and not expect a positive outcome from that expression of love and understanding is an eye opener for me. It just makes me feel better and makes it easier to express understanding in those circumstances.
I noticed that this meditation filled me with love and light. This felt very spiritual, as though she was truly talking with my higher self.
A person can only hurt you if you allow them.
I learned that I can control who hurts me. It is how I look at it and what I do to process it. I learned that person is not at their highest being and They are in control of their own feelings as I am mine.
When someone is trying to hurt me and say mean things to me, it is not who they are. It is their current mindset and I can not control that. I have to let the hurt go. It can not keep me down
Think before reacting
I learned that I must remember to no react too quickly to others treatment of me because they are also struggling and it is not who they just like it is not who I am. I am just struggling too
Deep chaos
Sometimes I just feel like my emotions are in free fall. As much and and hard as I try to rein them in I just can’t. I get the constant urge to cry, get resentful, project on others and I cannot find a reason for the behavior. If I could find the cause I could understand it and stop it. Come up with a plan or just just KNOW it won’t feel like this forever. I know I wouldn’t want to be around someone like me when I’m full swing. Then I get angry and resentful at myself. I need to stop the free fall. My anxiety comes and goes, the depression will creep in quietly and that’s what’s so scary. These feelings are temporary. It’s so hard to see that when I’m in it. I just need to accept them and understand that they’re not forever. This is not my whole life and it doesn’t define me. Just give them time to move on.
Deep chaos
Sometimes I just feel like my emotions are in free fall. As much and and hard as I try to rein them in I just can’t. I get the constant urge to cry, get resentful, project on others and I cannot find a reason for the behavior. If I could find the cause I could understand it and stop it. Come up with a plan or just just KNOW it won’t feel like this forever. I know I wouldn’t want to be around someone like me when I’m full swing. Then I get angry and resentful at myself. I need to stop the free fall. My anxiety comes and goes, the depression will creep in quietly and that’s what’s so scary. These feelings are temporary. It’s so hard to see that when I’m in it. I just need to accept them and understand that they’re not forever. This is not my whole life and it doesn’t define me. Just give them time to move on.
With patience and discipline I changed
Nothing in life comes easy, festering hate for someone thinking it will kill them; it only stabbed me like Friday 13th thought I had it in the bag like that was what I bought, tried to drown it but the kiddy pool wasn’t an option. Thought about dieing but the Papa opt In wondered where my dad was then he stepped in even if I mess w it he’s always right there with out even trying told to go an inch so I took a mile looked at my past and said it’s been a while why are we trying to do what everybody else is trying to do. Was I happy no barely could even show up at my own show. Pornography was at the front door, lust it fell apoun me like it was all just on me. Took the easy way out like they talked about seemed like a highway guess that’s why they say life’s a living hell. If that’s the cause then why don’t we just erase all of the crap and bring it all back where the the real ones are.
This session was very helpful
I have been going through a very rough emotional time with one of my sons who has said some very hurtful things. This session has really helped me and I will listen to this again when I get into that very sad place. Thank you Dorothy
Heart pain
This helped me to feel self love. By the end of this I was calmer in my heart than I have been for months. A “best friend” has been verbally hateful to me for months and I have no idea why. After awhile you start to feel like you deserve it. And maybe believe it. As I listened to this, for the first time I began to feel that inside, my goodness and kindness ARE still true. And that this burden I’m feeling is not mine to carry. My emotions have been all over the place and I’ve literally been feeling physically sick about this. This talk helped me remember I cannot help what others say. And I know that I’m in the right and that these words she’s saying are untrue…that it’s her issues and demons she’s dealing with.. Not mine. I’m still very sad and deeply hurt that this friend could ever say these things or worse, think they’re true. :( But to feel peaceful about this situation for the first time.. after listening to this.. well it was profound. Thank you for helping me remember my worth and my truth. 💙🙏🏼
bird’s and mind’s eye Perspective
Great perspective on what we can and cannot control - what is ‘ours’ & what is not - what is someone’s best self and what shows up from their own hurt. This is one I will listen to again & again! 💕
I’m absolutely loving the meditations and I like the way people are helping you relax
I’m loving the meditations and I love the way that they helping you relax and when I can’t sleep at night and during the night I just feel like waking up and saying OMG did that really happen and I will just shut my eyes and go back to sleep and try to relax and I have people asking me like what’s wrong do I feel ok and am I good if I do sleep I feel so much more at peace and I love that it’s brought me to a point where I can now sleep and relax and just feel at peace I pray at night for peace that color blue helps me relax and just sleep
I’m having breakfast with my soon to be ex this morning and he projected his pain and insecurities on me so much especially these last 2 years. His pain is not mine. I needed to be reminded of this.
No one hurt me
Unless i allow it. Helped to center me. I am in Emot abuse pain from a Narcisistic and his family.
People saying hurtful things
When people are saying hurtful things to me it is a reflection of where they are at that moment. They are not at their best. I need to learn to show grace and mercy. Understanding and listening without reacting.
This is a really great message because most times I do not realize whenever a person is being unkind in that moment they are not operating from their highest self. And I times I’m not always doing so too, but that’s when grace and mercy comes in. However, I am reminded that I do not have to take on that energy during that time. I must protect myself.
I learned that she is ultimately responsible for her feelings. It is my choice how affected I am by her behavior. Additionally: she is not at her best when she is attacking me. If she were her best version of herself, she would not want to hurt me. Her current ghosting has made me feel sad, but, what she’s going through has nothing to do with me. It’s her own frustration and anger at her self made situation.
Allowing hurt
I have a better understanding now of owning my hurt feelings. I've always owned my outward hurt to others. But I continue to work on not having reactions or to just being quiet when I'm receiving negativity.
Detach from other’s choices
I can influence or help but then I can intentionally detach from what they choose. Their feelings are simply a reflection of the current moment not always who they are or a reflection of who I am.
The ex and his pain and harmful words
This has showed that I can let go of what words was so harmful and realize that I’m a good person when all he wants to do is cause pain on me. I will let the words blow off my shoulder and disappear into nothing.
That I do the best for myself when I take time to listen the universe always supplies to answer if I just take time to listen
Remember that often others are now at their highest self when they say hurtful things. But most importantly remember that if things are said, that is not you
Mary Ann
I must remember this. Others act and speak from their position not mine therefore should mot be able to affect me with those acts and words. My happiness does not result solely on others bit rests with me. Remember to look at them in their position and keep it separate from mine. Yes 🥰
I must remember that I am in control of who I allow to hurt me and that whenever this occurs, he/she is not operating in their higher self so I must not take on the emotions of others. I must also not meditate on the hurtful words of others because none of is true. I must remember who I am. I now feel much better.
Self Love
This little inspiring message was so good to listen to. I really took it to heart and want to follow through with my feelings of what has been taught. It’s hard though, especially being a Empath to not take things so personally. Thank you for allowing me to listen to your words.
I felt reassured that other people’s behavior toward me is not a reflection of me and who I am. I am a beautiful human being with lots of good qualities that God has given me and I have imperfection
Like other human beings I’m free to make my own choices I don’t owe anyone an explanation I am happy, strong, valuable No one can take away my worth It’s ok to make mistakes. I learn from them and move on. My mistakes are not a reflection of who I am inside or my abilities
It is important to realise that you control your feelings
To recognise goodness in others and their intent. To realise that most people are good
So beautifully said. Thank you for these powerful, chosen words of grace and wisdom. A gentle reminder to continually build and strengthen our loving consciousness and guard at the door to those moments when we encounter those who sometimes choose to attack and forget who they truly are. This is one of the best from Aura so far! Thank you and blessings!🙏❤️
I needed to hear that. I’m working on the self love. That love for me will help me not get hurt so easily by others that are attracted to me to dump on me. I always take what’s said personally as a dig and am easily hurt…I like how “it’s not me it’s you” thought I have to remember. It’s not natural to blame others for things going wrong (the finger my whole life has always been pointed at me) so it will take reprogramming but I’m happy to start.
jess 🧡
wow. this was honestly such a good message and something that i really needed to hear. how someone reacts or acts is not a true reflection of who they actually are as a person. in this world we are all struggling in some way, we need to be kind to others because we don’t know what they are going through
I feel like I'm being punish !
I learned that people are dishonest and uses their power to manipulate and hurt me.
Highest Self
I learned that if others contribute to my hurt, it probably means the other person is not operating from their highest self. That’s not something I can control.
Now let's be REAL!
i have to admit that i do let what others say/think about me, get to my head... i do let it mess woth my head and my self-image.. i should stop doing that.. i've been trying for so long to stop that but i just couldn't.. i guess i have a tool to help now! thanks a lot
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