Negativity bias is a natural instinct, but learning to recognize it and realize when it is being mid-placed is extremely important.
My negativity bias is in full force right now. I feel very emotionally threatened with Courtney here because of how much energy her presence takes from the room. I’m scared things are going to be like last time. I don’t want Steve to resent me for enforcing my boundaries. I need to be strong enough to be supportive of him and help him to be strong enough to not enable her again. It’s only been 16 months since she was here last time. That almost ended us. I’m thankful he’s been more open about his struggle with this. I’m thankful for having steve in my life. I don’t want to lose him... and I do when Courtney’s problems once again become his problems.
If I had Known
I learned no one teaches us about the negativity bias. Had I learned this lesson as a child it would’ve saved years of therapy 😁
New descriptive term-Negative Bias
I was happy to learn a new term to understand the negativity and recognize it is used to protect from some situations and hurtful people.