Nails in the Fence

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Cassandra Carlopio
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This story is about learning to deal with anger and the consequences of our actions.
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212 reflections
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Kristin
Day 1 of journaling
I learned that I should share that story about nails and fences with Jackson and that will help me forgive him.
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Steve
Powerful lesson on relationships
A strong reminder that anger can cause permanent damages to our relationships. Thank you !
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Matthew
Nailed it!🤣
I appreciated the lesson of this story...but if the father hadn’t known the lesson, how would he have known to forgive the son? If the offended parties aren’t a part of the story to begin with, how does the forgiveness happen?🤔
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trinitee
lesson learned
what you say, you can never take back. once it’s out of your mouth, it’s out in the world. you can’t fix it. 🤧
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Eli
Nails Analogy
Really made me think about what I should say and to think before I say.
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Emily
4/1/18 Stressed
I had just received a text from my friend telling me that she doesn’t have her part of the project, and it’s due tomorrow so that has me down.
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Ashley
I learned
I learned that what you say when your mad can actually hurt someone even if you say your sorry. Watch what you say when your mad.
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Hannah
I get the point of the story but--
I get the point of the story but honestly, I'm not going to be thinking about nails in a fence and the holes it leaves behind when I'm angry. I'm going to be thinking about what's happening in the moment. If it was that easy, no one would get angry and say the things they do.
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Nicole
Scars
Your anger leaves lasting consequences and you should think about what you are going to say before you react
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Olivia
After listening to nails in the fence
I learned that when u act out that what I say even if in the moment I don’t mean it can and will affect someone no matter what I say or do what’s done is done
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Tayla
Broken
I took a different approach on the story relating it to me and what I’ve been through. I learned that I was the walls and the holes in the walls were my scars. The son was an ex and the nails he was hammering into me was the lies and deceits he told me. Every time he’d pull out a nail would be every time my ex would own up to a lie he had told me earlier.
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Reina Melodía
Anger
Anger leaves scars and it also is negative on our health. When I was younger, I used to have much anger. I didn’t realize just how damaging anger was on my health. Once I learned to let anger go, I noticed that both my mental and physical health improved.
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Richard
Anger in my defense
Anger only produces negative emotions and I know longer want to feel those emotions any longer. Words are powerful in that once they are said, there is no taking them back.
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Marianne
anger
the story really opened up my eyes on some things. I couldn't believe how eye opening this short little story was. it really let out some things I didn't it could. for this being my first story on here I was really surprised it turned out this well. I hope the other ones are just as good.
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Aliyah
Nails in the Fence
I still felt quite groggy afterwards but it lightened my mood a bit
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Gus
Woah
I’m one of those people who builds anger and let’s it out on someone who doesn’t deserve it and i really go overboard and ruin my relationships. This story related to me in a personal level and I realized that I need to really control who I am
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Riley
Nails in the Fence
No matter what you say, or how many times you apologize, doesn’t mean that everything is fixed.
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Olivia
Never Erased
I learned that whatever you do to fix or redo the past, it will never be erased, you can help it but it will never not insist.
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Becky
Scars
I learnt that you should never say anything to hurt people because no matter what you do it will always leave a scar or a hole inside of them that can never be fixed.
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Auriela
I thought the message in the story was incredibly powerful and so truthful.
I should really think about the impact my anger has on other people before I lash out.
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Crewe
Holes In the Fence
The story was great and it teaches a very powerful life lesson. I loved it!!
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O’Mara
Wow..
I actually almost cried from this! This is my life, I have such a bad temper and I say things that I dont mean to people who I love and dont even realize the pain im causing them!
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Paris
What I learned from this stoty
I learned that words mean things especially to the ones that we care about. We should always consider what we say and how we say things to others.
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Adrienne
Nails in the Fence
Words can hurt worse than a beating. And they leave no visible marks. Victims of angry words have no black eyes to identify them to us so that we may offer comfort.
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Angelina
Anger
When I get angry I usually take it out on other people and then get in trouble 😔but I realized that I shouldn’t be doing that.. so every time I did I would do this ❤️
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Di’Ana
Powerful lesson
Great lesson on the power of the tongue and how even the words we use damage people.
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Vero
Damage
I learned that Word can hier more than beatings and that worda that we say in anger leave scars
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Aashie.S
Nails in the fence
I learned that if you say something bad, something or someone can get wounded.
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Justice
Control
I learned that every time you get angry with someone, when you say hurtful things out of anger , it stays with them no mater how many times you say sorry for what you have said . So never say something you don’t mean out of anger.. Calm down then talk about it👌🏽
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Dorothy
Regretful
Words can be like an open wound, be mindful of what you say to others because it can cut someone deep
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Tracilyn
Scars
I feel that some healing can start with this, as well as lessons can be taught. Not only for myself but for my child who are suffering with severe anger management issues in their life right now! This Wonderful story will forever stay in my mind as it is yet sad and true! We do need to pause before we say things in anger 🤨
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Alejandra
Nails in the fence
I learned that I have to control my anger because the words that come out of my mouth while I and anger can hurt someone really bad and later I would regret it.
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Hannah
Feelings
I feel like I’ve put holes, like the holes that the boy created in the fence, into a lot of people. I feel like a lot of people have put holes into me. I feel like this story has thought me to be more cool with people and be more loose with my feelings. I feel like I need to cool down and realize that not everything has to be a certain way or perfect. Everything is fine just the way it is, nothing more and nothing less.
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Angel
My sleep
It is not nice to throw unnecessary temper tantrums. I also learned that the father loved the son very very much even though his child was acting devilish.
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Alexander
Control
It’s better to just think before you act, because it’s been said or done, nothing can ever fix the damage.
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Bianca
Think Before You Say Something
You can learn from your mistakes, but you can’t run away from them.
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Jasmin
Lesson
I learned that words do matter, be aware of what you say! Words have a lot of meaning, don’t make the words harmful but make them useful and kind.
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Lucy
Nails in the Fence
I learned that even if we continuously say that we are sorry to the people we have hurt, the relationship will never be the same as before and that to overcome this we must not hurt them in the first place. Take a deep breathe and this before you speak because words are more powerful then you will ever know.
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Cynthia
Anxiety Reflection
I learned that even when I say something the words have a lasting impact on people, especially my angry ones. I need to learn how to better control my temper and tongue. I need to remember everyone has feelings just like I do, and when I say something I could possibly be hurting their feelings.
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alex
Learjng
I learned that no matter how many times you say sorry the wound is always there
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OCTAVIA
New ENLIGHTENMENT
You can't speak out of anger cus it causes deep wounds that can't be fixed ❗️
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Mia
Anger
I learned that anger isn’t good and that anger can sometimes lead to consequences
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Raye
Scars
I learned that no matter how many times you say sorry people are still hurting inside. You must think of a bigger gesture to fix the scar you made.
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Olivia
4/23/18
Recently I broke up with a boyfriend and I’ve been on edge. I’ve been saying things that I don’t mean out of anger. I came to realize that I’m ruining friendships. This story made me realize that my temper does affect people no matter what. I’m a genuinely nice and happy person usually but lately I’ve been on edge. This story helped a lot.
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cristimarjee
Amends not sorry
This story is a life reminder about how words have title meaning if not backed by action. Reminds me of the analogy where we suggest the image of throwing glass plates on the ground and watching them shatter. Afterwards feeling true remorse and saying “I’m so sorry” This can not repair the shattered plates
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Emmy jane
Anger
Don’t let your anger out on others because no matter what you leave a scar. It hurts them. There is never an amount of “sorry” to give what was taken.
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Mia
:-)
Words really matter. This was a very insightful reminder. Great narrative!
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Emma
Cute
I thought that story was adorable!! It really shows something.
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Jay
First session ...
This reminded me of my boyfriend so much. He has a habit of losing his temper easily but luckily he has realized that this is an issue and he is starting to work on it. I love this story and how deep it was because when you are mad you do say things that you don’t really mean and those hurtful things leave holes in your heart. Great story !
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McKenzie
Nails in the Fence
Words mean more than you think and aren’t the easiest to get back after you say something hurtful.
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Eve
Negative Thoughts
I know that negative thoughts can have the same impact on me as negative or angry words to someone else. Both leave feelings of regret for being unkind to yourself or others.
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Miranda
Be Humble
I received more insight on how to think before I speak. Words do leave wholes and marks regardless how much regret is shown.
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Deidre
Forgiveness
I have learned that the tongue is a very destructive and powerful weapon. We do not always think before we speak, which can leave unwanted feelings of despair, sadness and anger in it’s wake.
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Beth
Nails in the fence
I learned that even though I am responding to anger with anger I am also putting holes in the fence.
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Katie
Nails in fence
I learned that what I say has a lasting effect ... so use my words wisely and without anger
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Jorge
Understandinh
This story helped me to understand that thinking before I speak is the best thing to do to no hurt any bodies feelings at school
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Amy
Nails in the fence
I learned that words are the most powerful thing humans have ever created, with word we can heal, hurt, build and destroy, Prosper and fail.
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Gabby
Nails in the Fence
I learned that from this story that what you say really do affect people and also how you feel. The boy first had to control his anger first in order to understand. Then he had to keep that anger controlled. Then, the boy apologized for the wrong doing he has caused.
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Adrienne
Perfect.
That was exactly what I needed. Anger never helps anything, we always think that it somehow expresses how serious the situation is but it always just makes it worse.
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Thalia
Beautiful put
It’s never worth it to express your anger at someone even though you might think it will make you feel better in that moment. Instead, in the long run, it does more damage than good.
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Erin
Nails
It made me realize all the hurtful things I’ve said to my parents or significant other or friends. Works can hurt. Even though I’m angry I should never hurt anyone. Deal with my anger differently.
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Mackenzie
Nails
I’m a terrible kid. I leave all my clothes laying around and unfolded. I would love to clean them up but it’s finals week and I spend all my time studying. I try to tell my mom. 4 more days and I will be done with School and I will clean them up, but she still doesn’t understand me and I don’t understand her. When this happens, we drive nails into each other.
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Sophia
Words hurt
I learned that angry hurt can leave a mark for a long time. When anxious, focus on kindness
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Brandy
Powerful words
Hurtful words are things that people never forget. For a long time I always said hurtful things to someone I was angry with just because I knew it would hurt them the most. I was in a bad relationship for 5 years and it completely changed everything about me. I was never one to get angry easily and I was always quick to forgive, but all of that changed because of me going through what I did. I am now married to a wonderful man and he is my life saver. He has helped me find myself again and I am slowly starting to get better. My anger is so much better than it use to be and I know one day I will be able to let go of my past completely and be that person again that can be quick to forgive and not easily angered.
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MiMi
Control
This story teaches you that control is important. And that know matter how lo of an impact/power you may think you have, it's actually much more.
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Ida
Insight
I learned that you can inflict pain when you are angry , but we tend not to think about this when we are angry . So I should consider if I am inflicting pain to someone when I am upset or angry because words do matter and they do hurt .
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Emmy
I felt very relaxed, and that I learned something from this awesome story
When you get angry and loose your temper, it leaves a hole in you, or the person that you hurt, or yelled at.
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Victoria
Very true...
I known alright that your words can hurt a lot and can’t just go away. But this reminded me that your words , my words effect others and sometimes not for the good and I should think before I speck.
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Kaelin
Paper
This reminds me of an exercise a guidance counselor once gave to my class after she got wind of the number of malicious rumors and hurtful gossip being spread throughout the class. She told us all to take a piece of paper and at once say all of the names and insults that had been said about us and to us while crumpling the paper. After that was done, she told us to open the paper. No matter how hard we tried, we could not smooth out the wrinkles. She then said that the wrinkles were the scars that were left when you say hurtful things and no matter how hard you try, you can never truly take it back. She warned us to think about our words and actions before we did and said them. I’ll never forget this lesson and this story reminded me of its importance.
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Aashie.S
Nails in the fence
I learned that sometimes you need to control your anger even though you don’t want too
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Iris
Nails in a fence
I learned that words hurt and outbursts of emotion can leave scars.
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Adrian
Nails in the fence
I learned that you should never say things out of anger try to control yourself so you won’t say anything hurtful.
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Kalina
Nails in the fence
That you shouldn’t say things out of anger, but also it’s not good to hold everything in sometimes you need to let it out or get you point across but that it’s best to do that by sitting down with the person.
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Parus
Nails in the fence
I learned that just because your life is going bad doesnt mean it’s always gonna be bad.
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Brooke
Nails
I learned that before you speak you should really think of how the other person is going to feel and how it could leave a scar forever. Life is to short to be upset or angry.
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Liam
Nails in the Fence
I used to lose my temper a lot when I was younger. The story made me realize that when we say things in anger, whether we mean it or not, it leaves a scar on someone because it hurts them. Words are so powerful and most people don't understand that. The little boy learned a very valuable lesson, and so did I.
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Besali
Nails
As a woman, I react quickly off emotions. I was able to connect to the little boy in the story. The father’s message was so clear and powerful. In this world we are quick to get caught in our feelings and spend less time processing our emotions and considering the consequences of our actions. I was in a marriage full of nails and when my husband removed the nails from my heart and soul, I was to far damaged. The holes in my heart left me broken and alone. My soul was not longer beautiful but an eye sore just as the fence in the story. The fence may not be completely broken or useless but it will always have a history of pain.
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be mindful
ya words can hurt others n cause damage. be mindful of others n their feelings.
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Andi
Nails in the fence
Being angry leaves scars to the people your angry at SO DON'T BE ANGRY
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Madison
Scars
This story taught me that sticks and stones don't break bones, but words will always scar you. Many people say hurtful things out of anger. Even though they say "they didn't mean it" it's always scared into the victim. I learned to hold in my temper words I want to yell out because they can and will hurt whomever you say them to.
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Mk
I really do possess within me the capacity Of slowing down.
By not reacting at the exact moment of which our emotions are heightened we will In turn make better choices. We all know this. The hard part is practicing it. My struggles right now deal with slowing down. Seeing a big picture. How are you to see a big picture when you’re not fully sure of your goals, for the first time in my entire life. I don’t have them, so there’s such beauty in knowing that I do hold the ability to make it a better outcome just in my reactions to situations...having lives with a schizoid borderline man for the past 2 plus years and being free of that - it taught me so much about pausing. About not intoning the little things your intuition is intoning but to not also react on them. Balance is the key and just as it is always - There must be both a reaction and non reacting. But your reacting must be planned rather than ignoring things all together...there’s always some semblance of repercussions on both ends of the spectrum
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Charity
I cried when the father noticed the scars in the fence after the nails were pulled out
I have holes in me that need self love to me and by me. And doing daily reflections and mindfulness will help
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Abby
2nd Day
I learned that you have to forgive and forget but that memories still exists and those are the scars left in peoples mind.
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Jacob
Everyday
I am now going to think about what i say in my everyday life now because of this story
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Joe
I felt like this is a good analogy, and that this is a true fact and that when one is feeling anger
They should take a step back a think of they really want that hole in the fence
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Angel
Sorry
It made me realize how many times i might have hurt my family; and no matter how sorry I might be, they’ll be scarred. I might be more careful with my words now.
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Layla
Depression
I am suffering from depression. And this lil clip calmed me down . I really enjoyed her voice. Thank you
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Nykkolo
Nails in the fence
I was reminded of the impact of hurtful words and statements.
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Michelle
A much needed and impacting story ... Thank you !
This is a story that I really needed to hear ... I have hurt so many people with my words throughout my life ... I am trying hard and doing better and making myself think before I speak ...
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Marcy
The scars that remain.
I learned the life lesson long ago at a younger age that forgiveness is for ones self? Holding that hate is like cancer to the soul. Releasing your mind heart and soul from hate and grudges is like cleansing your complete inner self. .....But the scars remain and this is where I currently find my struggle.....
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Madi
Nails in the fence summary
My angry can perminatly affect someone and maybe hats y I feel it does the same to be when someone goes off on me I loved the story because I felt personally related to it it was touching
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Katey
Our Anger Leaves Scars
Even if I feel like the bad temper I’ve had with people is made up for by my apologies, that anger still leaves scars. What I particularly liked about the story was the end when the son asks his father to forgive him for leaving scars, and his father replies- “Ofcourse I forgive you”. It’s a lesson for recognizing the effects that our anger or bad attitudes have on those we love, and it also is a lesson for the power of forgiveness. Good story with important morals!
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Alyssa
this it me hard and put me deep in thought
i learned that i need to breathe and think before i speak which i know will help me more in my future
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Lujain
Anger
I learned that i able to control my words when im angry,which its really hard to control ur anger,but u cant hurts others feeling because u are
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Shelby
Depression
No matter how I am feeling, to not take this out on other people who don’t deserve it and who are just trying to help me through the tough times or don’t realize what I am going through.
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Maria
It really helped me
It is great. You have to relax and not worry so you can sleep well.
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James
Grudges
Words can scar people. Please be considerate. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
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Carolyn
I wrote an entry-
It disappeared. Where is it? It was long. Don’t want to write it again.
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Kate
Aware
I felt aware of words said, heard, thought. Aware of the scars that get left behind.
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Matthew
Anger
My temper and anger have got me in bad situations. They have caused me to hurt the one’s that I love and care about. It was difficult for me to even think that I could be capable of such a thing. But when the rage comes I feel uncontrollable.
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Bailie
Nails in the fence
There is always room to heal and improve and also forgiveness even if it takes a long time. In a period of time things will get better.
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Emmaleigh
Nails
Just like the nails in the fence, Jesus had the nails on his hands. The only difference is those nails in Jesus' hands represent the story and the meaning of the war and the outcome. "Forgive those who persecute you." "Treat others the way you want to be treated." "Speak to all nations." What do your holes say?!
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Dee
Nails in the fence
I learned that words are powerful. Words can be used to hurt but most importantly words can be used to help. My desire is to use words wisely to help others.
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Cailyn
Losing temper
This teaches such a great lesson about what you say and do and the fact that even out of anger what you did will always be there and there is no way of taking it back. It teaches to hold back things that will leave these bad scars and keep them to yourself because what you thought won't always be there but what you do, will
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Mary lou
Anger
Anger can leave marks on our hearts. We must learn to temper our words for everyone’s sake!
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Ana Sofía
Scars
When I say stuff that could be hurtful, it’s better to think twice before you say them, for they can scar someone for life.
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Emily
Beautiful
It told me to stay nice the words you say may be forgiven but never forgotten
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Tracy
The holes I put in you
I learned that holding in tempers make you grow to be whole and that when u find you cannot, you not only hurt yourself by saying something you can’t take back, but you leave irreparable wounds in the people you love.
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Marlane
Finding love again.
I learned that I can love and be loved. I need to remind myself that the past is history and I can be open and hopeful to share my life with one single man.
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Jenn
Nails in the fence. . .
Wow... Probably the shortest story i've listened to but very very impactful. What actually took my breath was the realization that my scars from each hurt were valid. I was validated- I should not allow others to hammer their nails into me to help assuage their anger, guilt or sadness. I should not allow it -but when I just tried to say "I will no longer allow this" -well, I guess I'm not quite there yet. Just 1 more thing to put on my list of things to work on I guess. 😩
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Minerva
Nails on the Fence
We forget how powerful words are and how we can easily hurt or scar someone . Practicing self control when I’m about to lose my temper is something I’m constantly working on , but I think practicing self awareness is one we shouldn’t forget. Because , all though I may not be upset, I should be mindful of the words I choose
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Mirissa
Attitude
We forget how much our moods, decisions, and reactions affect the world around us. Loved this little reminder.
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Anita
I felt relaxed and energized.
I learned that there is strength in persistence and even in difficult times, it is worth working at oneself for long term betterment. It was also meaningful to know once the work is done and one is better, to reflect on the past bad impact to bear in constant mind to not lapse into bad old ways.
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Pj
Words do have meaning
This story made me realize the consequences ones words may have on another, we all just need to be nice to one another.
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Verenise
Wounds
Careful with words. Even when you say you’re sorry the holes on the fence are still left
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Linda
Nails in the fence
The ending surprised me. I was so focused on the boy’s learning to control his temper, I forgot about the damage to others. This was very helpful to me. As a great grandmother to 3 toddler’s, I’ve noticed lately how much I resist the fussing that comes so frequently with these little ones. I’ve been thinking how unhelpful it is for me to fuss back at them. After this story, I wonder if I’m leaving scars, too. It will help me be more compassionate.
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Tyler
Compassion
I found the lesson a bit harsh. Anger is a normal reaction and while it’s not helpful to stay with it longer than you need to, it shouldn’t be pushed down and not expressed at all.
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Hannah
Taking a Step Back
From listening to this I’ve reminded myself that it is important to feel the anger, but to also to take a step back from the situation and address it when some of the initial rage has subsided. Taking that step back can help to put the pain you felt at that moment into a better conversation that is productive rather than hurtful both to yourself but also to the other person
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Ruby
I'm now
I'm now going to think before I say and that getting angry is not the way to deal with things
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Mia
forgiveness
I learned that it’s about forgiving not about forgetting and that you should be careful with your words and actions
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Time
Inspiration
Fully engage in the commitment of implementing loved towards
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Jennifer
Nice story
No matter how sorry you are, scars will remain. Choose your word wisely
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Isabella
Nails in the Fence
This short stories really taught me that my words are actually really maybe hurt full to a person and they affect the person , like the father told the boy about how the holes will always be there and the fence will never me the same . That’s as if I tell somebody something that really hurts them it’ll change them and they’ll never be the same .. so I need to control my words and actions .
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Tiffany
Forgiveness
Is not forgetting. Forgiveness happens so I may find joy, happiness and peace. I forgive others so that I may be forgiven. Forgiveness is about letting go of anger, bitterness and contempt. So forgive often.
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Madison
Forgiveness
That what you say has an Impact on people and that you should chose your word wisely
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Aastha
Power of words
My words are something that contain worth i should use them properly
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Renata
Choose your words wisely
I should choose my words wisely. It could make someone hurts. People can forgive but did they forget it? So I should control my words and anger to someone
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Victoria
The story
This story was very good and i learned a lot but it doesn’t really tie into my feelings right now
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Walter J
Temper Training...
Imagine the impact on the world if every parent would have the wisdom, time & patience to teach their children this story...!! I hope I can live by not having to drive another nail myself. I never thought about the scar it leaves after you say “I am sorry”. Great story! 👍🏼
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Sage
June 28, 2018
Can’t sleep. This story elaborated on something I’d always tell my boyfriend in my most recent relationship and it was to never speak out of anger or argue while angry. In the heat of the moment words flow, projectile word vomit everywhere.. a lot of the time those words said have absolutely no truth or value, just shallow jabs, quick to think thoughts that leave a permanent mark in the other persons mental. I learned many valuable relationship lessons from the one I’m referring to above ^* and I value the shit out of this one. Words are ruthless when spit with fire.
♥️
Anger
This has taught me that I should remember that every action and word has a consequence.
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Jennah
Filing the holes
This story went deep within me- I struggle/struggled with anger for so long and have lashed out at people who mean the most to me. It hurts me to know how many holes I caused in people’s fences... but what takes the hurt away is knowing that if anyone truly loves me unconditionally forgiveness is not something they would hold back or from me.... holes don’t just disappear they must be filled, and the holes I’ve caused should and shall be filled with love.
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Aidan
Anger
I learned that anger can be controlled within, inside of finding something or someone to hammer. Words put holes on people, words are powerful.
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Ana
Anger in words
I learned that words can really hurt people, so we need to be careful what to say when to say and to who.
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Anna
Not just anger
I realized I need to watch how I react when I angry, but not only then. When I’m upset, anxious, stressed and all of the above. I don’t always see how my words or actions affect others so this kind of pointed it out for me.
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James
Effects of Anger
Anger is an emotion that when left unchecked can do some serious everlasting damage. I myself have sad things that I wish I could take back. I’m now signing up for anger management to help me with this. I don’t wanna turn into someone who is known for losing control of himself. I shall conquer this.
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Shannah
Nails in the fence
This was a good reminder of what and how we say things to people can leave an ever lasting impression, good or bad.
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Saffron
The nail story
I have learnt that words are powerful and that sometimes even if you say sorry 100 times that there will be a scar that will stay there
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Kristina
Anger
I learned that losing your temper and angry actions can be much more powerful than you would expect. They can really destroy relationships.
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Gionna
Nails in the Fence
I was able to immediately relate this to something going on in my life right now. After fighting on and off for weeks with my boyfriend, this hit me. It made me feel a bit shameful regarding the conversations we’ve had that were almost entirely full of anger. I hope that this will help me as I move forward with all of my relationships.
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John
Stop cycle of hurt
In our lives, we’ve hammered down these nails to someone thru our angry words and actions. We should acknowledge this human tendency so we can be mindful and aware in future situations. And stop the cycle of “hurt people hurt people”.
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Lauren
Understand that words hurt
When you are hateful to others sometimes you are so blinded that you don’t see how bad your words hurt. Think before you speak and understand that words hurt.
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Milly
good
I always fall asleep in these, they are very calming, thanks Aura
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James
I learned that I can wake myself up on my own.
I learned that my dad doesn't have to be a threatening figure.
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Jules
Great
I learned that you need to think about what you say and that I need to have more self control and do my best not to lash out
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Jules
Great
I also learned that words hurt and that you can never take back the things you say and that’s why you have to be careful and more mindful
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Lilly
What I learned
I learned that I need to think before I speak when I angry or upset. This story reminded me of a “friend” I think she could use this...
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Jose
I felt a lot better after my meditation
You can’t take things back if you say them with anger, you can’t change the past only hope for a better future.
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VictoriaLoveLee
Story time goose bumps
Listening to this story, I felt the fathers equanimity and understanding for the boy. I got goose bumps and the corners of my mouth turned up as the father explained that the boys words spoken with anger leave scars and the boy asked his father for forgiveness.
Ади
It was powefull meditation
The most charging meditation was that you have not to wait your anger to come, you have to controllyour emotion and to hold your anger away from your phsycological world.
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Olivia
💝
I loved this story it had a great meaning and I noticed that I have to said things out of anger and.cant take it back
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Maya
amazing
I loved that the story helped me to relax and at the same time had a lesson
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Julie
Sad Story
I understand the lesson here. It just makes me feel sad to think I’ve scarred people for the things I’ve said. That certainly doesn’t give me piece of mind.
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Alex
Biting your tongue.
i’ve learnt that no matter how angry i get i should always think before i speak because i don’t want to cause further problems for myself and other people and i’ve also realised i should learn to hold my tongue and even if i want to say something out of anger i should learn to calm myself down before speaking.
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anna
Anger
Letting your anger out can be done in 2 ways and only one is right,, softly and in a way that won’t hurt people in your path.
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Kyrra
Mindfulness
I learned that words said in answer or frustration leave scares that aren't always seen at first.
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Ry
Anger
I found that my anger was creating holes in the people around me, so I redirected it to myself. Now I know the pain I caused, and I wish I could take it back every single day
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Stephen
History of scars
Probably the most amazing story in this series, I truly understood it. Unfortunately, I listened to it on a day I needed to be inspired, and now I find myself reflecting on a life of scars, pain, and holes I have left in the lives of those that have come across me on my bad days.
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Ally
Nails in the fence
My words and actions have impacts on people and that thinking before I speak/act will make me feel better in the future
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Jaycee
Soften
I really enjoyed the pauses between breaths. I loved how I was focusing on different aspects of my body to soften, some I didn’t realize were tense until attention was brought to it. 10/10 would recommend
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Paula
Hoy
Hay que ser cuidadosa con lo que se dice y hace. Cualquier acto bueno o malo puede dejar marca en la vida del resto.
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Jesse
Words
Saying words in anger leave a scar like holes in the fence, there is always a wound
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ciara
everything means something
I learned that it is very important to think before you act, and even though things agitate you, we all need to keep our temper, let loose, and be happy
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Susan
Nails in the fence
This story can change the world. I mist remember that words are not just words but have consequences. Things said quickly can have lasting effects. Two ears, one mouth. Listen, discern and then speak.
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zeren su
2th
I learned that thinking before acting is really important for ourselves or other people's selves we can break hearts if we don't do this
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Francesca
10/8/18
I learned that I need to be very careful with the words that are said when I am upset because words are very powerful.
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Aidee
Nails
i noticed how important our words are, and how in anger we say things to hurt other people, but in reality we are hurting ourseleves and leaving scars of hurt.
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Leo
I felt stressed
This app doesn't *always* help that much. It didn't relate to what I was going through
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Kyle
Awareness and Reminders
I think we all know that our words our of anger hurt people. We simply needed constant reminder.
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Cam
Day 14
I know that I slush my frustration sometimes onto those I hold dearly. Sometimes they are small. Sometimes big. I am kind and caring. Not arrogant and foolish. Immature. My actions have consequences and are often overlooked. I will practice this patience.
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Erin
Perspective change
I love this! It really put some perspective into my life that I was missing. I really need to try to be better at appreciating those around me and focusing all of my negative energy to something other then them.
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Tayler
I need that story every day!
Some times when I get angry, I lose control and get it back at the end of the day.I really should get control and listen to this.It really help😋👶🏻
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Teah
This is one of my favorite meditation visuals
The feeling of being connected with nature is so soothing during any time or emotion. This meditation visual has helped me in sessions on my own, and the connection with nature allows me to feel more comfortable surrendering to the flow of things.
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briana
lesson.
the apologies and the hurt will never collide. they can say sorry, and u have forgiven them, but I still feel that pain and it will always be in the back of my mind
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Kyrie
Nails in the Fence
It’s important to be able to control your anger because what you say in anger can be forgiven, but the damage can not be undone.
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Keely
nails in the fence
an important lesson about learning to control your anger and learning to recognize it
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Beth
Watch my. mouth
I need to remember this constantly! Words hurt! Words do hurts and leave a lasting sting. I have been hurt by the words of others
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Carlos
Words
I didn't necessarily learn anything new from this story. However, it still spoke to me. The visualization of the holes in the fence still there after the nails were taken out reminded me that words are forever. They can't be taken back. Scars will always be there.
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Alexis
Pointless
What does a story about temper have to do with me being sad and depressed?
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Justinne
Me!
Is this story me or what? Ako ito e. Gets ko naman ito, kahit dati pa. Pero hirap lang talaga akong imanage ang galit ko. Pero kailangan ko talagang imanage ang galit ko. Kasi hindi naman lahat ng tao ay kagaya ni Momma na maiintindihan ako at papatawarin. At hindi dahil ganoon sa akin si Momma ay excuse na 'yon para lagi akong magalit sa kanya.
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POOJA
pointless
I am suffering from overthinking....not from short temper....story was nice ....but not relatable for me
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Ella
the power of words
the story made me think about my own actions and about what I've said before I the past. its nothing new I've learned but it really is important to think about what you say
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Magdalina
Your words make a difference in people
its easier to get angry and say things out of anger, but words do hurt people. Dont let anger destroy someone elses confidence.
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Shivani
03.11.2019/23h45
Wow. I never heard this story before. Perfect because I did feel angry today for a bit and it made me realize that in anger we say or do things without actually meaning it or even realizing the damage we did and it can hurt people. People can get hurt.
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Kritzia
Anger is costly.
Midway through this piece I not only realized and agree with the end result of how anger leaves scars but also, that anger comes with a price. Not only does it clearly affect those on the receiving end of our wrath but also, it takes a toll on ourselves as well. Imagine the amount of strength it takes the young boy to fetch the hammer and nails, to then walk across a yard to face the back of that fence and then exert all his energy and strength by forcing those nails deeply into the fence with each blow of the hammer. As it is with us, it takes us so much energy and effort to be angry and act upon it rather than acknowledging it, and controlling it. The end results of how we go about things is quite rewarding when dealing with situations in an orderly fashion. Therefore, it's better to use our strength to overcome our anger than to act in an instant and then deal with the consequences of our actions/words.
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Joyce
Making amends
Life is a journey and we all make mistakes along the way that need to be both acknowledged and forgiven. Namaste
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sam
i learned that...
your words can impact the persons life and no matter how much you apologize that hole that you made in their heart will stay in their heart forever. so watch what you say to others.
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Cherish
Words Matter
When we are filled with anger, we do not know how painful words can hurt. In fact, as this story suggests, we leave holes in other people when we say things in anger. Be mindful of this and the next time anger begins to boil up, perhaps we can learn to bite our tongues instead.
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David
nail in the fence
lmao I'll nail you on the fence, and not the sexual way 😉 "reflection too short please write more"
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Vincent
Mindblowing
I saw myself in my imaginazion in my backyard, angrily hitting those nails in the fence. At the part where the father said that words leave scars, it hit me. I immediatly thought about my girlfriend. I will try to be more carefull with the stuff l say when we have a fight. This will bring more peace, love and understanding in our relationship :)
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Jeffery
What a Day.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. To my kids whom will probably never forgive me, please get what you can from this and practice what it says.
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Susan
Each individual is powerful regardless how they are measured by society
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Yasmine
Nails in the fence
I realized everything leaves a scar so be thoughtful of what you say
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Nicola
Nails in The Fence
I learned that no matter how many times you say sorry, you still leave a scar behind. It’s a pretty important lesson.
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Walter J
Controlling...
Such a simple story with a powerful message we could/should teach all of our youths!! This story reminded me there are a few things in life that we should control - our temper is a biggie, our Attitude in general, and our words! The better we can learn to control these 3, the better everyone’s life becomes. I call it for The BOM! The Betterment of Mankind! Namaste, 💚🙏🏼🍀
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Wayne
Scars
I have many holes in my fence. My words, like the nails leave damage that can’t be undone.
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Maymertz
Nails in the fence
This is exactly what I need to hear and come to realize that words you say can be undone I do have short tempered sometimes and thank you for this short story it took me a while to realize I leave a scar and I need to change things while I’m angry and I’ll try my best ❤️
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dani
Thoughts this Story Gave Me
This story reminds me of a friend that didn’t treat me kindly. I hope they learn one day the scars they have left behind for me. Besides that, this story reminded me how grateful I am to have friends who treat me with respect.
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Christiane
Distracted
I noticed it was very hard for me to focus on following the story because I am upset. I just keep trying to calm my mind though
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Chaz
Promotion
The story reminded me of time I trusted my supervisor for support and encouragement in a new position. Instead, she turned on me and treated me with disrespect. It hurt me and scared me even to this day. The year 2018 will always be etched in my mind.
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Susanna
Listening
I learned that my listening and meditating, I’m a lot calmer and happier
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asteri
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i feel good, i dont usually lose my temper but when i do, i could freak someone out. thank you
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Araceli
I felt inspired.
My words hurt anyone and everyone i choose to say ugly things to.
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Nanie
Words are like a wound!
Patience is crucial in our lives. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes ans see how it feels. Positive regard, emotional resilience and hardiness.
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Alyssa
Wishing I could send this to my dad. He’s dead. So I sent it to his heaven phone. Love u
I should have spoken more often to my father and was able to tell him all about me and now all that I’ve overcome. I’ll take care of mom for you.
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Claire
Nails in the fence
Yes , this has made me realise that my relationship of 27 years did this to me .
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kz
Swap
Instead of being stuck in my own head and focusing on my own scars, this story really illustrated how much more time I need to spend on preventing any permanent scars on my friends and family because they get caught up in the wake of my rage.
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Michelle
Hopeful
I have a bit of a temper I get very loud and I see red, most times after an outburst I can’t even remember what happened in the moment and I hate myself so much afterwards. This story helped me understand just how much energy I use when I have these outbursts and how it negatively affects the people around me. I know I can do better, just like the little boy did.
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Natalie
Insightful
I enjoyed that story. Very creative and effect tool. I wonder if I could use that lesson to help someone I love 🤔
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Maryann
Wow
I learned how taking my anger out on others can hurt them. I hope my children will forgive me for all the holes I put in them . I didn’t realize how bad it was on them.
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Adrea
Nails in a Fence
I found this story showed me how emotional responses can inflict harm in others. Sometimes we should wait and reflect prior to responding by littering others with the holes from our emotional gunshots and poor responses.
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Kharlotta
Nails in the Fence
Words are powerful. I’ve tried to dedicate throughout my life that I’d never speak out of anger and say something I really didn’t mean, for if you say it that’s really how you must feel in your heart. However, i do slip up from time to time. I don’t know if I need to do away with that thinking, but this was an extremely powerful exercise. I do know that I need to be kinder with words and/or how I say them... and need to reaffirm with those I communicate with that I’m doing an okay job with that.