I make my own happy. I will not rely on a man to love me or make me happy. Not anymore. Been there done that. If you allow it, a man can retrain your vibration! As you said, it all starts with me. I fill up my own love tank. Falling in love with myself sounds awesome! The good, the bad, and the ugly. I've groveled when a man dangles his attention above my head like a carrot. Or ghosts me for however long he wants, only to contact me. Right when I'm doing great without him!!!! I've blown up his phone. I used to open myself up to so much pain. There is no blame here. Other than, I own it. My decisions that led to all this were the reason why it all happened. Well, actually, lack of self love was really key. Thank you, Teena!