Try this experiment: think back to a time where something unpleasant occurred and feel in your body. Now, think back to a time where something pleasant occurred and feel in your body. What you are feeling in your body are your emotions associated with those experiences.
Emotions are a gauge for exposing our inner state. Once we realize this, we can begin to use our emotions as a barometer for accessing how we are in any given moment. In this life coaching wisdom session, Dorothy identifies three ways that can aid us in deconstructing our emotions and thus, help us to regain our balance.
The first way is through the practice of meditation. Meditation allows us to create a space of stillness and silence in which we can be present with what is. Because this amazing practice soothes our mind and body, we can get intimate with how we are feeling. The second way is through the practice of journaling. Jotting down how we are feeling gives us an outlet to spill out our emotions. As we write, our thoughts are deconstructed. After we write, we can go back and read what we wrote, which allows us to reflect on our inner world. The third way is through the practice of self awareness or rather mindfulness. In this embodiment practice, we take note of how we are feeling in any given moment. Anytime we notice our state has changed to something unpleasant, it is our cue to ask ourselves a few questions. These include, what am I feeling? What are my thoughts? How do I want to feel? And, what can I do to feel that particular way? All of these questions remind us of our responsibility to care for ourselves, first and foremost. In caring for ourselves, we are more apt to identify our needs. In identifying our needs, we know ways to nurture ourselves. In nurturing ourselves, we regain our balance.
We always have a choice in how we want to feel and be. It is in the knowing and the utilization of this wisdom where we find ourselves no longer dependent on external factors for dealing with our emotions.