To forgive is challenging, especially when living with trauma. I recall the time when my partner was still dating his ex while we were already in a committed relationship, causing feelings of betrayal to haunt me. I felt hurt because, while I worked hard to cope with my trust issues through therapy, he was doing that to me.
At one point, I thought I was the problem and believed his assurances that he wasn't like my previous partners who had cheated on me. The day I discovered he had lied was the day my world crumbled. Since then, I've struggled with trust issues, finding it difficult to trust him again. Forgiving him and rebuilding that trust has taken time.
As a devout Catholic, I've learned about mercy and forgiveness, understanding that if we seek forgiveness, we must also forgive those around us. Despite apologies from him and his acknowledgment of the gravity of his actions, it was a gradual process for me to forgive and trust him again.