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How to Get Along with Difficult People

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Life Coaching
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Alyssa Luboff, Ph.D.
Philosopher & Meditation Guide
Difficult people – most of us have at least a few in our lives. These two secrets will help you to get along with them much better than you’d expect.
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Difficult people
That's a tough one. Acceptance of difficult people with no anxiety is a skill that develops over time. At least for me. I usually get really quiet. Of course, avoidance and not engaging are quick exit strategies for me. I'm not around a lot of people often. Not one on one. I keep my circle small. Not out of fear. I'm just accustomed to living alone happily. I love people, don't get me wrong. But when someone verbally judges or attacks who I am, I used to explain. I've learned I don't have to. And I don't. I just let it be. Inside myself I want to react. That doesn't usually help matters. I encountered this situation a few days ago. I did well, but towards the end I became frustrated. I wanted to flee. I reacted badly. I feel guilty about that. How can I gain skills to make sure I control my words as to not judge or say hurtful remarks. It doesn't happen frequently, but when it does I feel terrible. Even if the person was u kind. Because I've always owned what I do or say. Noone causes it. I'm responsible. Thank you.
Working on this daily with difficult family members
It’s a practice for sure. And some times In my life I’m better at this than others. Have never been great with boundaries but I’m learning how loving boundaries can help me get from the spaces where I’m not in a place to handle their more difficult personalities to when I can handle them and even enjoy them despite their difficult personalities.
this analysis is very very brilliant and concise Alyssa
extremely helpful as a basis for a solution process... thank you