It is good to look at experiences as they are; as mentioned in this meditation “not as something good or bad”, because they are just that, lessons. In this meditation, it is being asked of us to remain neutral when our emotions are being compromised, that, instead of saying “I’m angry”, to say “I’m experiencing anger”... that doesn’t sit well with me because we are human beings, & those emotions are within us at that specific moment. We don’t want our emotions to be invalidated! And while this meditation is reinforcing self care & self love, I believe self love would come regardless your flaws, emotions, experiences, etc. To be kinder to others is to be kinder to yourself & vice versa. To be kinder to yourself, you must accept yourself just the way you are.