Help for Resolving Conflict - What You Need to Do

Not as helpful as I’d hoped

I feel these strategies can work when both parties are reasonable and coming from a healthy place. I feel for myself though I have been walked over most of my life as I have always tried to see the others viewpoint, be compassionate etc. beyond when it was helpful. I feel that this doesn’t address the fact that if a family member is abusive and unreasonable you have every right to walk away and not just stick around and keep trying to understand them and be compassionate. You can do that from a distance and not feel bad about it.

I love this

New ways to deal with conflict. With my fiancé’s mother. I’m gonna to use these methods and hopefully they help me get threw the holidays !!☺️😎😎⚡️🙏🏼❣️🌙♾🔙

Alone

You made me feel alone when all I wanted was you. I hope to understand why you hurt some one you say you love. I love you still but I am lost because of you. I need to find myself.

Why?

Why did God give us the same birthday but not the same year? Do you love me or hate me for infringing on your birthday rights big sister, because you make it hard to tell sometimes. I didn’t believe you about your abusers at first until they came out of my memories and became mine, too. You didn’t believe me about the one who never touched you, because you felt unworthy to be even abused by that one. Now, now, that I am a young widow, you become cold and indifferent even harsh and abrasive one minute and loving and open the next. I cry for the old you, but past is past. Now, let us meet on even ground, and say a truce. Be my sister once more. Teach me your wisdom and I will teach you mine. Teach me how to love and I will show you my love.

Exactly what I needed

There are many ways to solve or ease conflict especially with family members. We all have our own memories/ experiences/value systems and are coming from different places of healing. Patience is key.

Confused??

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I miss you

I understand this is scary for you. I wish you knew how it was hurting me.

Interesting

Understanding can help with conflict resolution. How do you handle situations where you fully understand and are still hurt or upset?

Kindness is a choice

Kindness can be practiced with slowing down and thinking first before speaking. It’s my normal to be kind, escaping frustration can be done by being kind to myself first.

Relationship meditation

I felt very calm and present when listening to this I felt calmer after the session was over

Need to be on the same page

I felt that these strategies would work if both people were on the same page to start but if one side is irrational I can’t see these steps working. J

Grounded

This took me out of my own perceptions and helped me focus on the other person more compassionately.

I feel numb

I learned that I have to take a step back and look at the situation from a different perspective

I feel unheard

I learned that I need to step back and view from a different perspective.

Conflict story or coaching

This is something I needed probably need to listen to a bunch of times and try to apply to my lap personally in the situation that individually go through or have gone through recently or in the past to try to help for a better future

Dealing with conflict

I learned that there are 2sides but I also know that some people are plain hard to deal with!

Conflict resolution four steps

1. Understand the other, without judgement 2. Apologize for the rift Err, where are the next two steps?

These meditations are great and helping through out the time

I’m absolutely loving these meditations because I’m loving how much they are relaxing you and I love that they get you through the day and and I get relax and everything is fine and I know that I am at peace and I always knew the color blue was a relaxing color and I love that I get to just relax and chill out and enjoy every minute of the meditation and it’s enjoyable I love it

I feel aggravated with myself today

I felt aggravated annoyed with myself today and because I did feel those things I meditated feel much better and I learned that if meditate things will zap straight out of my mind and positive things come to my mind and my mind fill up so fast I just can’t take it anymore because I’m praying to god for peace that is why I love meditations because they relax you

I’m seriously getting annoyed with all the nagging through out the days so I just meditate

I’m seriously getting annoyed with all the nagging throughout the day so I just meditate saying you need to do that you need to do this I don’t like that you need to start that I don’t like being nagged and I have noticed that when I meditate all the time that just zaps right out of my mind and positive things come to my mind and god’s peace is really ready to come in my door again and god’s always with us and I’m grateful for my friends and all but not when they are always nagging me and asking me questions about my phone and meditate so I can get it off my mind and I have learned that when I meditate all the things that stress me out just like go away right away that is why I love the meditations

Introspective

Conflict is a part of life, I have a need to resolve a larger part of my conflicts so that I may be free of them.

Meditation is always the key to keeping calm

I learned that if you meditate it helps kill all the things that stress you out through out the days like people that always have to yell at you and god’s here with you and it’s god’s way of saying I’m here with you and I have noticed that god’s peace is a good way of saying that prayer is good for you because it helps you not stress I recognize now that meditation is helping me relax and relaxing is the key to stress and I love that relaxing music and watching the things are like yoga and I love that the people are like great they helped me clear your mind and one thing I have noticed that when I meditate I feel less stressed out and sometimes all the negative things just zap right out of my mind and positive things come to my mind

Understanding one another

I learned that having a deeper understanding of your partner is key. That old abusive relationships resurfaced themselves in my new relationship and it brings negative vibes. Learn to co exist. Understand your lover. Say you’re sorry when you have done something to hurt them. There’s a lot of power in the word sorry. Love one another with deep understanding of each other’s needs.

Wish I heard this a long time ago

It is better to get a skilled, neutral third party involved.

Putting in perspective..

I am struggling right now and have been for a few months now. This past month has been not only difficult for me but a challenge to see where my mind and heart is. It’s been and still is a struggle. I am very optimistic and positive that things will change for the better but there is still some fear and doubt. I am using resources that with further my progress and help me to understand myself and others. I just don’t have the answers yet which finds it to be a little difficult to have patience at this time. I do put others before me and I try to walk in their shoes and for the most part it helps but there is that fine line between right and wrong. I truly enjoyed listening and learning from your view. I thank you for sharing and putting it out there to help others like me to flourish into a more healthy lifestyle.

Early stage of conflict in new relationship…

What began as something casual and sweet, progressed a little too quickly and turned into something a little more serious than either person was ready for. Regardless, real feelings sprouted and the other person is extremely sensitive and not as experienced in self reflection and personal growth. I have been practicing personal growth for many many years, but still struggling with this current situation. I am in a state of regret, confusion, and deep hurt. I think I am mostly afraid of this person completely cutting me out of their life, never allowing room for closure or reconciliation. I am afraid they did not understand my honesty and choice of words which caused this conflict. I know they are blaming me for everything. I tried to explain but the person shut down. I ended the last communication with “No need to text me back or call. Just take care of yourself and I’ll do the same.” And I’m in a viscous cycle of rereading the last texts and over analyzing them to death. I am scared they will interpret that last message as me ending things permanently… telling them NOT to contact me and go live your life. I just want to desperately reach out to make sure that they know that I am patient and understanding and they can take all the time they want, but that just defeats the entire purpose of being patient, lol. Some time and space apart is what I need as well. But I’m struggling and hurting with the not knowing… And this is not like me. I always have confidence in my words in my communication. Speaking truth and expressing feelings can be painful, but necessary. I always leave a situation feeling OK about it because I know it was the right thing to do. I don’t know why this is bothering me so much. I wonder if deep down I lack that reassurance because maybe I really messed up, maybe it wasn’t truth and expression… maybe it was selfish and poorly timed. I can’t tell and the confusion is eating away at me.

Resolving

I am resolving to reclaim my relationship with my sibling, not by being right or wrong but by trying to put myself in their shoes

Conflict

I noticed that I’d forgotten how important it is to put yourself at a higher point to understand better where -why the other is bothered and what she may be feeling