My bad habit started to reduce stress and feel sleepy enough to avoid conversation and the through social norms just became a habit. Glass of wine at dinner and another to go to bed.
I learned that my fear of stress created more stress so I just kept up the habit mindlessly.
I intend to think first if I really want that wine ( I don’t really even like red wine) and instead deal with the fear and replace the habit with something the wiser me knows is better- tea and more time breathing