Soften, Sooth, Allow
In this meditation, we are introduced to three words that can help us when we are experiencing difficult emotions, such as anger, shame, sadness or grief. I’ve been experiencing grief for a little while now. I am moving on with my life, but sometimes a memory, a chore, or sometimes whatever comes up and it reminds me of my beautiful sunshine, Kayleigh.
As I began listening, I thought of my Kayleigh and these difficult emotions engulfed me. My heart was screaming with how much I wanted her presence to be next to me, how much I wanted to see her smile and how much I wanted to hold her. Thinking of this difficult loss, my heart and mind are racing, my stomach is uneasy and my shoulders are tight.
Then, I began repeating the word soften. Breathing into these areas of my body, these sensations I’m feeling began to soften a little bit. Placing a hand over my heart, I repeated the word sooth. Doing this, my heartbeat and thoughts began to slow and I began to feel the soothing touch of compassion wash over me. Finally, I repeated the word allow. As hard as it is, I allowed these emotions to ‘just be’ with me. Having wisdom that they will pass in their due time, I began to gain some comfort.
These three words, soften, sooth and allow actually can be turned into a mantra we can tell ourselves to help us during any situation that we find ourselves experiencing difficult emotions. After listening, my body, mind and soul has a sense of ease. I know eventually that this pain I feel will lessen and I’ll be able to think of Kayleigh without crying and feeling sadness. Until that time comes, I will use this mantra to help me through this difficult time.