Building a More Confident You

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Dorothy Ratusny
Life Coaching WISDOM
Do you sometimes struggle to feel confident about yourself?  Do you at times, dismiss what is positive - focusing instead on self critical or self loathing inner dialogue?  Do you often compare yourself with others that you deem to be more successful or better in some way? In order to build a more confident YOU, it's important to be able to witness all of who you are - from a perspective of loving kindness.  We can all benefit from using kinder words in how we think of our self.  We can practice speaking words of encouragement and kindness to our self - and holding belief in who we are as being more than good enough, capable, intelligent, and any other adjective that describes what is true rather than what we might currently tell our self. In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, I offer the strategies for building a more confident version of yourself, and for how to practice loving kindness directed inward. If you would like my help in building greater confidence and self esteem, please reach out to me - let me help.  Namaste!  xo MUSIC:  Justin Woodward & John Murphy, 'sunshine adagio'
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30 reflections
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Matthew
HOLY CRIPES!
I’m SO glad I chose to dig a bit deeper and try a second meditation session tonight! This was the perfect follow-up to my last session!
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Tiffany
I am amazing
A counselor wanted me to walk into a room and shout “I am amazing”. I never did get the confidence to do this. While I agree with the statement. I always told myself I was too humble to brag. I want all of you to know that we are amazing.
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Bara
Me as a young vulnérable singer...
Twenty years ago, I chose to follow my passion and I went to university to learn music as a singer. I then discovered jazz... and my own voice. 😃 But at this time, I was the only singer there with a sweet and high voice. My voice have always sounded pretty young. And I was shy and different than the other singer students that appeared to me to be so confident! So, I felt like the vilain petit canard ». And there, I was kind of apart. Unfortunately, I wasn’t well accompanied during those years, and I stayed with this big lack of confidence (but not lack of talent). So now, I founded my singing school for which I’m really proud of, by the singer is almost dead... 🙁 Yes, I now know that I had a unique talent, but I’m also far from the performance. The joy of singing is gone... 😕
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Nadir A.
Confidant.
No matter how much pressure I’m under. I will still operate twice as fast. Carefully and finish first cause I’m not gonna spend any amount of time dwelling over it and stressing before I even begin the project which gives me extra time. That I can focus towards the project. Which causes two intervals, project. Then summery.
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Angela
Self Recognition
Hearing these words, allowing these words to really sink in, made me realize that I give myself very little recognition for much of anything. I need to acknowledge my accomplishments big or small
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Leslie
Recognizing Me
I do realize that when I am feeling happy, I notice more things that make me happy but only when I am feeling that in the moment. Trying to prime my mind to always think about myself as an amazing human being is difficult since I am my harshest critic. Hopefully with this reminder, I will be training myself to know what I am amazing even with good and bad days! It’s what makes all of us awesome 👍🏽
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Charlie
Reassuring
I’ve enjoyed this speaker and this coaching session is very reassuring and self-affirming. Appreciated.
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Ashley
Emotional
I noticed that during this session I became very emotional connecting very deeply to every thing the life coach was saying. I think I should listen to this often.
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Jenn
No more dimming my light :)
I felt immediately confident and confortable in myself listening to this. This has given me the inspiration to “stop dimming my light” and be happy with who I am.
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weren
heavy heart
i’m crying😌 but my heart still feel stuffed 😭 i still need a lesson .. i’m tired. i still lost confidence bout myself😌
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Taren
D1
I learned that I need to embrace who I am and to be positive with my innermost self.
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Kimberly
Yes
The first wife is the soul I have a great soul and have been learning about it for years now. Trust in this process
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Oliver
Loving myself
It’s been a long road to self love and I feel as though I’m not anywhere closer But I will try to think of one positive thing about myself every day.
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Maggie
Kindness
I need to be kind to myself. It’s a hard thing for me but this was a good reminder to do that and really be mindful of what I tell myself
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Cherish
Building Confidence
Growing up, I didn’t have much for self esteem. People wouldn’t know it, as I hid it well. But, behind closed doors the way I talked to myself, the thoughts I held for myself were absolutely brutal. Having low self esteem transcended into negative thoughts and actions that would reinforce how I felt about myself and my abilities. It was a vicious cycle to say the least. Since meditating nearly a year and a half ago, I have been on a journey of self care, of learning about the power of nonjudgmental thoughts and living mindfully. Even though I feel I have come a long way in quieting that negative self talk, I find I still question myself at times. Perhaps it is that I don’t trust my intuition. Perhaps it is that inner voice still fighting for my attention. Either way, I am ready to build more confidence. While listening, Dorothy gave me a few ideas of how to build confidence. These include being mindful of what I say to and think of myself, making an ongoing list of what allows me to feel good and speaking my truth. I will include both physical attributes and intellectual ability, such as character strengths in this ongoing list. I will speak my truth and remind myself of my worthiness. And, most importantly, I will be mindful of that inner voice and counteract any negativity with kind and encouraging thoughts. I will continue on having an attitude of gratitude as I have seen and felt great improvement in my overall happiness. By seeing and acknowledging good, I will increase my confidence. By writing down a list of positive attributes about myself, I can go back and look through this list when I need encouragement. By being more mindful, I can counteract any negative self talk. Thank you, Dorothy! Namaste 🙏🏻❤️☮️ ***If anyone is having difficulty with self esteem and self confidence, I highly recommend listening to this life coaching wisdom session from Dorothy.
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Sari
Working On This
I used to down play compliments and positive words from people almost by instinct. I could never accept someone acknowledging it, even though I knew the compliment to be true. I’ve always been uncomfortable with any kind of attention being drawn to myself. I am learning and working on allowing my true self to shine naturally, authentically, and if other people notice it and like it, that’s okay. Smile and say thank you and carry on.
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Marisha
Day 3
I’m learning how to start accepting me. I have not had very much confidence in myself and I have a hard time accepting compliments
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Natisha
Noticing
I’ve noticed that I’m not really happy about where I am in my life and I’m learning to make it better for me.
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Isabella
Intenté hacer otro como el 1 primero me hizo más tensa
Me gustó mas este, nose como como o en que manera porque no me entiendo a mi misma pero si.
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Kiara
Confidence
I used to be so confident in myself, I’m not sure what happened. I catch myself comparing myself to my friends, like they are so happy in life and I’m not. I’m always there for others as if I have it all together, but all along I’m really torn and can’t help myself. It’s time I work on me again. I can’t keep letting myself down. I have to start being more confident in the decisions I make, stop second guessing myself. I feel like I’ve came a long way over the past years, I can’t turn back and go back down that dark gloomy road.
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Mariyam
Hope
I learned that hope and positivity are never to lose. Whatever the situation be, learn to control your reaction and thoughts to it and direct it in a positive way.
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Leshia
Self Confidence
My grief in loss has sapped my self confidence. I am following this coach for help.
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Hannah
I felt heard
I learned that I need to start being kinder to myself. I will listen more to this session.
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Blair
Confidence
I’ve noticed lately it has been easy to compare myself to others when I am not feeling like I have reached my own potential in certain tasks. This reminds me to be kinder to myself as my situation isn’t everyone else’s and I have accomplished so much to make it to where I am at.
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Chintu
Focusing on me
Before I turned on my aura i was just self loathing on the fact that I am losing my hair and for long time thats where I drew my confidence from atleast i have long thick hair but I have lost that i don't know am kind of at a loss but I will not dwell on that i am more than my hair and I know that. So I have learnt not to compare my self to others which I do a lot but focus on me and not focus on things I don't have or insignificant so yeah
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Jamie
It makes me feel good starting of the day with positive thoughts
I learned I need to trust myself and my abilities. I am capable of achieving anything that comes to my mind and the uniqueness that makes up me is great! Trust the process 🙏🏾😊
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Lutie
Older
As I grow older, I feel and live my life in a swirl of forgetfulness. It often impacts on others and makes me want to just lose myself in my own comfortable private space.
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Kelli
Confidence
I need more self confidence. I dismiss my positive attributes and replace them with diminishing thoughts.
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Monique
Confirming
I learned that as confident as I feel I still inwardly question my worth. Not as a human being but as a contributor to society as a whole. Striving to become more in tune with all that is around me. I’m much more comfortable in nature than I am in communing with people.
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Theresa
Interesting
You need to always be mindful. Positivity will help your confidence and happiness
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