Being with Anger-Transformation, Healing

Lesson I need to learn

I’m an angry old man now. My reactions scare me at times. I absolutely need to learn better ways to deal with my daily anger!

I have anger issues because I am a failed perfectionist and have trouble letting go. I’m too emotion

I need to pause and think body mind heart sprit- where am I feeling my anger

Being with Anger

The space between the stimulus and the response is important. This is where we have power to be aware and choose our response. Using that power to choose a healthy appropriate response gives us freedom. It is important to have power over our responses and use it wisely instead of habitually reacting. This is how we learn, grow, and set ourselves free.

Ten Months Later

Still angry a lot of the time, but I have a whole new bunch of things to be angry about! I suppose, in the long run, I'm mostly angry with myself! I guess I let myself get into the situation I find myself in. My poor choices years ago have colored my life now. 🥺 I have been and can be better. Instead of grieving everything everything I've lost, I need to embrace who I am now, how I am now. Fore, my health, and my family.

Dealing...

Cindy gives some great pointers on how to deal with our emotions by feeling and really experiencing them, instead of stuffing them back down, ignoring them or fearing them. Huh!? Who knew it might just be easier going through them & riding them out, than fighting them... I might just get angry tonight and try it out! JK - but what she is suggesting does make sense! Thanks Cindy & my Brother (from another mother) Matthew for uncovering this session today! ❤️😤🍀

Recognizing anger!

Just being able to recognize when anger arises is a good start to coping with anger. If we can see the anger as it arrives we can simply begin to act accordingly!

Emotions need to be heard

Anger in of itself is not wrong, or less favorable, or worse than other emotions. It is a feeling rooted in an often very personal cause. Recognizing and honoring the anger and the cause as legitimate will bring out a resolution-focused response rather than a hurtful reaction.

It’s ok to be angry

It’s ok to be angry, I am allowed to feel it... but I don’t have to let it take over me and damage things around me. I can take a moment to choose my response and don’t have to be ruled by my emotions, I am truly in control

Anger

When feeling angry it is important to pause for a moment to acknowledge what you are feeling as well as listening to the messages it is sending to your body. Studies have shown that holding in anger increases heart disease. I am guilty of letting anger take over my whole well being and just letting it brood. This is something I need to work on. When we learn how to respond to anger in a healthy way rather than react, lies our growth and freedom.

Definitely need...

To take this teaching to heart. Next time I feel my anger bubbling up, I'll pause to reflect on where it's coming from and how it's affecting my body. Perhaps attempt to diffuse the anger before I let it take control of me! I'm known for having a pretty short fuse, especially since my stroke. It's not good for me, or my health, or the well being of my family. ”Hulk Smash” is not a proper way to go through life dealing with problems!

Informational. Good reminder to respond, not react

Importance of backgrounds involving cultural differences is important.

Anger

So much to learn. I stopped feeling. I became numb. Lots of layers and anger resides in all of them. I've always been afraid of my anger because it is so strong and I push people away and hurt them deeply with it.

Anger

For me it’s fleeting but clings in bursts of anxiety and frustration. It comes at times when I can’t do anything about it and I burn myself out before I can address it properly

Oops in a Good Way

Listening to this, it got me to stop and recognize that I’m angry out of defense because I feel so insanely vulnerable lately.

respond don’t react

Thé Space between stimulus and response is the space which is our power to choose the best response and growth - simple and effective - 🙏🏻

My anger stems from lack of control

My anger seems to come from being forced to deal with things outside of my control. As a caregiver for my mother and my children, I am often resentful and then angry because my time is rarely my own. Looking for a way to reclaim my time.

Anger

Thank you so much, that was very enlightening. I learned some valuable insight into anger and how it manifests if not understood. Definitely going to try checking into that space in between anger and response. Will come back to this often to work through understanding. Recommend this to all who don’t understand how to start a journey on a path not decided by unchecked anger to change outcomes and health too. 😄

Anger

Wow, such impactful words on me! I have listened to this a second time now this morning. Going for a 3rd. I really want to understand what Cindy is saying and retain this as it’s such a vital tool for knowing yourself and that there are other ways to express yourself that can be productive if only you check in with yourself when angry and knowing the signs before you react leads to different responses even when you don’t think there is another way. There is, and it’s so much more productive. There is a moment between anger and response. We all need this skill of knowing where that moment is and how to change responses to change reactions to change outcomes. Finding that there is really a connection to higher bad HDL cholesterol (bad) and stress changes so much for me. Very impacting this should be heard by everyone, everywhere and often. Change can only happen when you know change is needed and how to achieve it. Gosh so excited to know this and determined to put it into practice and learn to be mindful of me and what I feel. I think I could rave all day about this “moment” and knowing its amazing existence. I am hungry to learn more. Thank you 🙏🏻 again Cindy for sharing for our benefit. 🖤💜

Helpful for BPD - Helpful reminder of key concepts of managing/challenging BPD rage episodes going forward

Reminder of key concepts of managing future BPD episodes future