We usually never have issues being friendly with another. But, why is it that some of us have issues with being friendly towards ourselves? Could it be that we equated caring for ourselves with selfishness at a young age? Could it be that we thought that if we are friendly with others, they would return the favor and that would be sufficient?
In this meditation, Mark has us warm up to the feelings befriending ourselves gives by thinking of a person who we have an attitude of friendliness with. We then go within and direct those feelings to ourselves.
Sitting comfortably, I began to think of someone whom I appreciate and have an attitude of friendliness towards. My mind was drawn to my mentor, Lauren. She has been so generous with her time, showing me and others, techniques designed to empower us. Bringing her to my mind, I sent her well wishes and felt my heart smile. Turning towards myself and extending these well wishes to myself, I felt a little awkward at first. Then I remembered that I must befriend myself in order to become my best self. Being reminded of this crucial fact, I asked myself what I needed in this moment. I smiled to myself and said you’re doing it. You’re checking in with yourself and aligning your mind, body and spirit. In this moment, that is enough.
Befriending myself, I know that I am not being selfish for giving myself self care. Befriending myself, I know I am not waiting around for someone else to give me any type of validation of sorts. Befriending myself, I am learning to accept myself for me, my flaws and everything, and to always have an attitude of friendliness directed towards myself.