Dorothy does a good job getting us set up to start developing more confidence. Not entirely sure of her 3 steps but here are my thoughts...
Becoming aware of what is and where we are, is always the first step in self improvement.
Becoming aware & defining what we want is a good second step. This reveals the “Gap” between the two points (where we are & where we want to be)
Affirming the traits we need to have to be at the second point is the tricky part. Start by Imagining ourselves already at the second point... how good does it feel to be here? Describe it - what does it sound like? Smell like? Taste like? The more senses we can attach to the desired state, the more we can start to vibrate with it.
Finally create the affirmations to get you to build your confidence. We need to write down, in first person, in the present tense, with descriptive words, the good feelings you are having being at this new, desired state/place. I like to add a date to make it into a goal.
Example -one I used a few years ago to reduce my weight and get in better shape from the winter of 2009.
“I am enjoying my 220# buffed body by July 4th 2010. I love looking good while on the beach, body surfing with my boys. The salty taste and sea smell makes my whole body excited to be working out naturally again in the ocean waves. And the warm sun tanning my muscles makes me look even better!! Thanks for eating right, drinking plenty of water and exercising/moving now so I can enjoy my 220# buffed body on the beach this July!”
I started at 235# in February and by July 3rd when I got back on the scale in front of my boys - it read 220.0 and I did look good on the beach that next week!! It works-try it on something you want to change!