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Accepting Difficult Things

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There are many things in life we find hard to accept, and it's usually for a good reason. But not accepting things means that we can just become stuck. Learn how to accept the difficult things in our own lives so that you can free yourself from suffering.
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May I accept this... it is so unwise to try to control situations over which we have no control. However, it is such a human thing to try to do. Accepting the fact that often we are powerless over circumstances is so difficult, it seems to go against our very nature. The advice given in this insight actually hands us back the power over ourselves and the situation. Simply by accepting things as they are, we regain control over our emotions and condition and are able to move forward and not remain stuck. Not easily done, but so effective. Great advice.
“May I accept this “ love this quote.
Would love to be able to learn accepting what happens in life more with relationships.
Katy Jo
Helpful yet distracting
I liked the message, but the background music has an ominous note to it.
The more I went to counseling
If I kept going over the trauma it physically and mentally stayed with me. Counseling twice a week for 8 years. When doing cognitive therapy and planning I was able to slowly desensitize my body’s reaction to the memory. Now... although I’ll never forget what happened I’m not re living it daily. Unfortunately, it took 10 years total but there was a way out.
“May I accept this”. I loved that simple and powerful sentence!
Wish I could’ve listened
Tried listening but unfortunately the music selection she chose to play in the background was so disturbing and creepy-like.
I simply cannot accept the situation I have landed in. I wish I could just turn my back on it and somehow move on, but Social Security has ”awarded” me a settlement on the disability case stemming from my massive stroke, but I've yet to receive my settlement from them. I've been going in person to the local office, and making phone call after phone call, but to no avail. No one has been able to explain what the hold up is! Giving up at this point would mean no money to help my family. Yet, I haven't been able to find and keep a job since my stroke! My family and I have needs! I need this awful chapter of my life to be closed finally! It’s been FAR too long!
This has always been difficult for me because I am so ambitious, either other are jealous or they actually want to see me fail! What I failed to realized was that I was letting myself fail for not accepting or even noticing the decline of my physical and mental health! Now I h e no choice because of the things that have been going on but I think it’s the best set back I could ever have! I am grateful for another day! I am loved and most importantly my son gets to see me healthy and moving forward! This helped me to continue to accept my situation and I still love through the moments and motions of recovery!
Easy and difficult at the same time
I also use another perspective which is letting go. It involves acceptance nevertheless by making it looks like you don’t need to resist at least for this time.
This meditation is shallow, superficial and, at best, offensively incomplete. All the issues she commented on are insignificant. Losing a job? Get over it and move on. A broken relationship? Hopefully, you are still alive, because…… My best friends daughter broke up with her “boyfriend.” He pulled out a gun, and shot her in the back of her head…killing her instantly! She was 19 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tomorrow at Noon (09/21/2019), we will bury our daughter, friend and sister. If you wish to meditate on “difficult” things: MAKE IT REAL !!! Paula, we love you deeply…we will miss you…you are in our hearts forever!!! ❤️✝️😭😭😭😭
New Reality
It is true, what we resist, persists. When something difficult and unexpected happens in our life, it is human nature that we want to try our hardest to change it, to make it better somehow. However, we cannot change what is out of our control, no matter how hard we try. In fact, not accepting reality only induces more suffering on ourselves. For the past few weeks, I’ve been trying to accept an unexpected loss in my life. Grieving is a process and no simple task to undertake. It isn’t only me grieving however. This new reality has inflicted pain upon Kayleigh’s son, Montee also. While I have tried my best to be strong for him by keeping a routine in his life, I see a deep sadness in his eyes at times that literally breaks my heart. Then it dawns on me all over again...we both are trying to accept this new reality. In this new reality, I am guilty of wanting him to in fact, Be more like how his mom used to be. Kayleigh was indeed, my ‘shadow’, in that wherever I was, she was. No matter how much I yearn for his infinite presence and snuggles in bed, I have to accept that Montee is the way he is, much more independent. Even though I struggle with this new reality, it is what it is. May I Accept This...
“What we resist, persists.” Rather than fighting the uncomfortable feelings and trying to resist them, we should lean into them and experience them. After doing so, we should move on and leave them behind. Sit in the space of what we don’t want, feel it, live it, and then move forward.
Death is always difficult
Grief is the result. DABDA 1 Denial 2 Anger 3 Bargaining 4 Depression 5 Acceptance —Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
May I accept this...
Pain. Hurt. Betrayal. Trials. Struggles. Worries. Anger. Anxiety... Accept. Let it go. Dont resist. Reasons for all of these. Reasons that I may never know. Reasons that I may never understand. It is what it is. It is hard but I will accept. Acceptance is a new beginning.
Recognize it (Recognize RESISTANCE through thoughts and physical reactions, i.e “It shouldn’t be like this...” , “This is unfair”, tension in body) - Remind yourself (This unpleasantness will NOT change by me resisting it) - Practice Acceptance Mantra (“May I accept this” using open/relaxed body posture and keep trying to relax the body and repeat the Acceptance Mantra whenever resistance resurfaces. 📝❤️
I realised
That I am being so unaccepting of my break up because I am pushing him to tell me when will we be together again. I need to accept the current situation better and stop living in a version of the future that will unlikely happen
I need to accept all these difficult things.
I learned the need to be kind to yourself and just let go of these difficult things and worries
Everything has a cause
Everything happens for a reason. Some things happen in life which are heartbreaking, sad, annoying etc. They also may be OUT OF MY OWN CONTROL. I.e job placement. My not allowing myself to accept this and instead question ‘why me’ ‘life is so unfair’ I’m actually making the process A LOT HARDER. Accept changes, adapt and grow from them. Most likely you will benefit from this - I lose a job but find an amazing one where I am able to grow and learn so much! •ACCEPT AND DON’T RESIST •I WILL NEVER CHANGE WHAT I CANNOT CONTROL •EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON X
I learned that accepting things for the way they are is the best strategy for moving inward to heal. I cannot make the past to be unwind but I can accept this today and make a change to accept what I feel. Let it be. You can only change yourself.
I'm learning very slowly that most my anxiety comes from trying to control things that I shouldn't
I've learned or am learning to stop and ask myself. Can I except this......
Accepting difficult things
Acceptance builds resilience. Sometimes my own expectations make life more difficult, and resisting that does not serve me. Accepting life does not mean that I give up, or love what is happening. Accepting life means I acknowledge that some things are out of my control. Instead of resisting those things, I can deal with them and work with them, which will make me stronger. Thank you.
I think this is a very good reminder about how to let go....and just float “to the top”......sometih
Acceptance feels so much lighter....sometimes the cause isn’t worth the fight.....but it is hard to see this when you’re bogged down by a situation..Give it to God and simply float to the top🥰
Acceptance of difficult experiences is the first step to release and freedom from pain, anger, and feelings of helplessness. Acceptance leads to objectivity and calm assessment of reality, solution and resolution. 💕
So many things in my life I have agonised over...the Why? The not fair. The injustice of it all and then the despair of facing the reality. This is brilliant in allowing me to ask May I accept this? Thankyou! 💝
Moving on
Agonising and dwelling on injustice only prolongs pain for me. Focus energy on the the things you can change and move forwards
Moving on
Agonising and dwelling on injustice only prolongs pain for me. Focus energy on the the things you can change and move forwards
I am having trouble accepting a break up. I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this today.
That I’m no longer apart of a family that unknowingly served as a toxic strong hold in my life.
Have to learn that things will just be as they are whether I like it or not
The more I try to control something the less I will be able to. There is too much stress involved in trying to please everybody.
I need this one
So so relatable. I should save this for future (re)listenings! Your unpleasant challenge won’t change simply as a result of your fighting it. You might not always know what the cause is, but you can still accept it. (1/7/22)
I learned that trying to control things that are beyond my control is making my life more difficult. Resisting something I do not like or agree with just makes that thing persist even more. One of the main things I am resisting is the way my stepdaughters behave, who they are as people, the steps they take on their own journey to adult hood and navigating the teenage rapids. Their actions are not a reflection of me. Their behavior is not a reflection of me. Their attitudes are not a reflection of me.
Fighting Reality
I love her voice and the words in this lesson. Being able to release and accept life as it is. Exactly what I needed to hear at this exact moment. Thank you!! 💜