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Letting Go of Your Story - Spoken Word

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Bill Scheinman
Mindfulness Teacher & Coach
Exploring how mindfulness helps us let go of self-limiting narratives and habitual thoughts. Photo by luizclas from Pexels
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I liked the example that we choose to personalize feeling disrespected. It is absolutely true that when someone demonstrates a disrespectful behavior, they are saying something about themselves. Why should I allow their behavior to be about me, at all? I need to remember that when someone acts in an inconsiderate way, I still choose the story.
Easy does it
Having a clear and calm mind is everything it makes life 10 times easier
Mind opening
I learned to read my story instead of living it. Very helpful
This is some of the most wise advice I’ve ever come across.
Though I find there is some truth to my story. I have a lot of extremely difficult health issues. But I’m going to really evaluate how much I’ve use that as an excuse to not do things I really can do.
You aren’t what you think
While it’s true that my stories return to me again and again, I just don’t believe them so much anymore
Bonnie Jeanne
I think this is closest to what I need to hear. It is mindfulness almost as Ellen Langer writes about it. She talks a lot about letting go of evaluation, our own and others.
Changing my story
This is more of a short talk rather than a meditation, but it’s really good. There is a lot of good information here and I will definitely be coming back to listen to this again. I definitely recognize a few of those narratives. Thankfully, with mindfulness I am learning how to change my story.
This lesson proved the importance of continued meditation;
That though our inner narratives may continue while we breathe, the more we acknowledge them and let them go in practice, the more it will expand into our daily lives and promote a healthier, clearer mind.
10/18 Stories
I realized how many many stories I have accumulated over my lifetime. We have stories and facts of what we tell ourselves of what has or will happen. I will try to see the facts thru the story, be aware of both, accept these facts, and ultimately find peace.
I love this meditation. I think this thought to myself once every few years doing something mundane yet going through a difficult time, such as taking a shower while my family is in a tough struggle (besides their usual). I haven’t had this thought in a long while yet the other night I did while washing my hands; yet instead of during a struggle, it was after a solution to a problem. This solution made between me and my partner changed everything about my perception of my current life, that my past is gone and not returning, and it clarified how I’ve been on my Devine path all along. I haven’t heard this guide before either, so it was refreshing to hear a new voice and a life coaching story. He is speaking my kind of truth when saying that it is the narrative of the story that shapes your current moment, and vice verse. Thanks for this!
My Stories
I gave this a really good listen. It is full of truth and wisdom. In self-evaluation, in any circumstance where I experience discomfort or an inability to cope with another’s actions towards me, I will now consider what is actually occurring and whether I feel the way I do because of an old story I have been telling myself over and over again. We all tell ourselves our stories, so it will be interesting to me to find out whether my feelings and responses are truly due to a situation or to a story I have told myself to explain the feelings or response. Worth a listen.
Interesting listen
I know Kathy and Walter and others have reacted positively to this session. I only seem to have one story recurring nowadays, and on the advice of close family, I AM attempting to limit the extent to which I use it as an ”excuse” in my day-to-day life anymore. Yes, I DID have a massive stroke. But contuing to fall back upon that reality to explain my day-to-day suffering or failures still is not earning me any points or according me any additional benefit in life. In fact, it may be that my continual referral to this life-changing event is actually aggravating others! So far only a couple of people have pointed out to me that I have been constantly referring to the stroke by way of excusing my current failings and perhaps to elicit sympathy (albeit subconsciously) from others. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Our stories aren’t our truth!
I noticed how I commonly tell my stories, it’s a way I find closure or self pity. At these moments I give out my power over the control of my life. And I fail to understand what I am truly feeling inside or even deal with it. It’s like an escape route. Recently I have really been trying to have that self talk n I would simply imagine talking to the best version of myself. This has really helped me feel safe to explore my fears, traumas and beliefs while unlocking myself
Mental Prisons
The stories we tell ourselves are profound. Our stories can control how we treat ourselves and others, how others treat us back as well as justifying the circumstances we find ourselves in. Our mind is programmed to keep us safe. In this way, it justifies these stories we tell ourselves over and over again in such a way to protect us. After so long, we become compelled into believing these stories. This would be fine and well if our stories were positive. However, a lot of the time, these stories that we tell ourselves are the exact opposite and therefore, can be extremely detrimental to our psyche. It is in this way that our stories can become our mental prisons. As Bill says, these stories become the water we swim in. Because we do not notice, we are fighting an upstream current our entire lives. Eventually, we become tired and it is our stories that will live on. There is a way in which we can begin to ‘see’ our stories instead of living our stories, obtaining and maintaining a mindfulness practice. When we take the time to be mindful, we become aware of our thoughts that ultimately make up our stories, whether they be good or bad. By becoming aware of these thoughts, we find calm and clarity. It is within this calm and clarity that we can begin to ‘see’ our stories instead of just swimming in them in an endless upstream current. In becoming aware and ‘seeing’ these stories, we realize that we have Choices. We can Choose to continue to be in our mental prisons by believing our stories or we can learn to recognize when the little voice inside of our head begins to narrates them, listen to how ridiculous they sound and ultimately break free from their chains by becoming aware. The Choice is up to us! Choose wisely! Namaste 🙏🏻❤️☮️
All but one of those stories are true for me.
All but one of those stories are true for me. ALL BUT ONE. I cried a bit at that part. I felt like an egg, finally cracking open. I need to keep this recording in mind while also seeking out positive affirmations. My issue with my recent anger has seemingly revolved around being passive and a people pleaser, then "finally realizing I'm being treated unfairly". But this has been my story my entire life. Not just recently! And it took this recording to realize that. 🙌🏼
Freeing our emotions
I learned that my thoughts are simply that, thoughts. To stop, breathe and take a step back allows us to see how we’re feeling outside of the situation at hand and helps us understand the reasoning behind our feelings. Afterwards, we can let go of the thoughts and they float away like bubbles in the sky. We confronted ourselves, and that gave us an inner key to unlocking each moment, each emotion on a clearer level. We set ourselves free.
Todays lession
I learned that our stories repeated through life as said in mindfulness session had a very similar message to the Ho”onopon prayer I listed to last night
My story - if I don’t do more, be more, earn more, learn more, we won’t survive.
People are inherently untrustworthy. If they’re nice to you, they want something from you. All people will eventually let you down, abandon you, hurt you or betray you. Don’t rely on anyone.
My story
Wow. I learned so much from your session. I have wondered why many meditations I have done always tell me to notice my thoughts! I also learned that not only do each of us have our own unique story, but we also have different struggles. You spoke of "if you don't respect me, you're a bad person". That was your experience. Mine is more like what did I do wrong, he or she mistreated me. I don't understand. Maybe if I make changes, they will be nice. Thank you.