Toxic or not Toxic, that’s still in ?
It’s hard to really know and let go of the feelings and happiness that was there from the beginning, and the gratitude I feel towards him for being the sun and pulling me out of my darkest days, and then giving me my greatest joy that I was told I could never have, somehow we managed to have a beautiful baby girl. But something changed, I look back and I see all the manipulation and gaslighting and bad behaviors, but it never really bothered me before maybe I was just so numb or blinded by lust/love, cuz it’s always been there, it didn’t just start up one day, but one day I stopped being ok with it, and now every single “little” thing, lies, gaslighting, manipulation, coercion… sets me off. Then he flips it on me like I’m overreacting, and I constantly war with myself wondering if he’s knowingly doing this, if he has some mental disorder. I love him, and am so grateful he came into my life, I feel a lot of sorrow for him, but I am trying to make my mental state at peace with my past and better it so I can guid my daughter into an emotionally and mentally strong woman so she doesn’t suffer the path I’ve gone through, and one weekend with him feels like I’ve taken steps back from the little bit I’ve managed to achieve in the 2 months since I’ve left. It’s exhausting and confusing