Unconditional love is the purest form of love. It is love that does not require anything in return.  When you are unconditionally loving, you inspire and evoke others to be loving.  Learning unconditional love means being a source of love; it means allowing your heart to be open in willingness to be loving and kind - to not be afraid of getting hurt because you love so deeply and fully - since you know that you will continue to honour your needs and to uphold healthy boundaries that protect and cherish you.

Learning Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is the purest form of love. It is love that does not require anything in return.  When you are unconditionally loving, you inspire and evoke others to be loving.  Learning unconditional love means being a source of love; it means allowing your heart to be open in willingness to be loving and kind - to not be afraid of getting hurt because you love so deeply and fully - since you know that you will continue to honour your needs and to uphold healthy boundaries that protect and cherish you.
Music Credit: Wavesource: Wavedream Healing Music (432 Hz) Meditation and Theta Tones


This coaching session will help you to build the confidence and inner-strength to face any challenge or situation that brings up fear, anxiety or avoidance e.g. Difficult conversations, giving a presentation, asking for something you deserve. 

Facing Challenges with Confidence

Daily, if not hourly, we tell ourselves we should DO something or should BE something...we constantly use "shoulds" when we talk to ourselves in our daily thoughts. Shoulds usually represent guilt or fear about not living up to someone’s expectations. Even guilt or fear about not living up to our own expectations. Follow along as Primal Health Coach Marisa Moon shares a strategy for reframing these thoughts. 

Learn more about Marisa's philosophy on her podcast called The Foundation of Wellness at marisamoon.com/podcast (also on iTunes, Spotify, Google Play)



Reframing "Shoulds"

When we hurt it is because we have allowed someone to affect us negatively; to cause us harm, to feel doubt, fear, insecurity, or discouragement, when really - each time that we experience someone's negativity (their harsh words, their criticism, their anger, their fear, their insecurities, their pain, their lack of knowledge) - they are simply showing us their reaction, their choice, their feelings and thoughts in that particular moment.

Your decision must be to step back, to step away from taking on whatever hurts may be directly or indirectly pointed at you.  You may choose to offer a kind word and lend your ear - and then to return to your inner knowing; to knowing that you are remarkable, you are perfect as you are - you are a work in progress as you choose it.  You are the loving inner being and the kindness that flows from this.

I hope this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM helps you feel empowered to no longer allow yourself to remain stuck in being hurt.  Namaste!

in gratitude and peace,
dorothy xo

No One Can Hurt You Unless You Allow It

In this episode I want to remind you of the power that you hold to choose for yourself the right and best relationship, and how you can stay clear of relationships that are damaging and abusive.
I also wish to illustrate how living with abuse, perpetuates a cycle of dependency and the eradicating of one's self-worth and sense of self; and I will share the story of my client 'Beth', and the four strategies to prevent you from finding yourself in an abusive relationship and enable you to leave.
TRUTH SERUM:  There are many forms of abuse. Abuse is, by definition, the mistreatment of another; whether intentional or as a facet of one's consistent actions that one may not be self-aware of.
A-HA MOMENTS:  Abuse in the traditional variant forms that we categorize as physical, emotional, and psychological all originate with one's thoughts and beliefs; that is what one tells one's self and justifies in being discriminating, hurtful, and disrespectful towards another, and how one's misguided intentions can lead into a situation and a relationship that is both damaging and abusive.
 
PRACTICAL WISDOM:  We know that relationships that are unhealthy and abusive are also complex and complicated. We stay in these relationships for different reasons; whether because we have convinced ourselves that there is something of benefit to us in staying; or we anticipate the enormous effort it will take to execute our decision to leave. We stay because we tell our self that the "relationship is really not that bad"; that maybe "we deserve how we are being mistreated"; and in some cases, we may tell ourselves "we don't care."
If you are listening to this episode because something deep within you is yearning for help, guidance, and perhaps validation of what you know but have been afraid to believe, I hope that in listening, you will allow your inner voice to become louder, to rely on it for what you know is true and to be willing to care for yourself first with the knowledge that you are not alone, that you will get through this; that you will feel better, happier, and stronger; and that if and when you choose it, you can and will find the right partner and the love that you truly want.

If you need my help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com
Namaste! xo

Escaping Abuse: Why We Stay, How to Leave, 4 Strategies to End the Cycle

TRUTH SERUM: There will continue to be uncertainty. You must become certain about what you want and how you wish to live your life. 
A-HA MOMENTS: This time is a time of freedom – freedom from what has held you hostage from yourself. What you will choose to be a new set of practices and beliefs that you will hold; will allow you to rebirth yourself into something more, something better.
PRACTICAL WISDOM: You need this time to awaken; to set in motion this new stage of your life. You already have everything that you need for this.


In this episode, I share real life client stories as we discuss reliance and self-responsibility; to no longer give away our power to those who are truly not responsible for it and to make new choices that will honour our integrity and authenticity over greed, ego, and a fragile and fear-based model that has up to now dictated to us what we should do.


I hope this episode inspires you to be self-reliant; and to choose with greater autonomy what will allow you to feel, innate happiness. 
Namaste! xo



Why You Must Be Self-Reliant

In the recent weeks and months we have witnessed much political up-cries as our leaders are being asked - demanded - that they consider how policies and political influence needs to stand for what matters; that they need to think far into the future. It is not only the economy that needs an uplift but perhaps more so, it is how we think. We must open our minds to what needs to change is at the forefront of everything.


 


Gravely the violence, the prejudice, the racism, the fear and the lack of knowledge that we have witnessed is but a microcosm of what needs to change; of what is changing.  Our lives stand for something; they matter.  They inspire and drive conviction; to be a never-ending voice that teaches our children; that retrains our way of thinking and the beliefs that we hold so that we may all live in light; no longer in the darkness that has shrouded our minds for so long.


This is our global awakening; this is our new world. This is your opportunity, your time, your free will that will choose what will be. When you feel uncertain; and there is much that is still unknown, remember to decide what is in your power to choose; to reclaim, to live awake, because in this time everything that you have ever wanted and desired now is before you. It is of your choosing.


Only you can choose this.


You are not alone, everyone has their own path to walk forward in. The life that you once lived is forever changed. You embrace the present. You may witness all of the moments of your life as you look forward and feel grateful of these many joys that are possible because you choose this. Everything becomes significant. Everything becomes a possibility and something worth asking for. Your life and what you live begins now. 


Choose your life. Live in peace. Begin this now.


I hope that you will have the experience of listening to the full episode; there is much here to inspire and uplift and to help you set your course into the future.  Namaste! xo 

Your Life and How You Live Begins Now

The feelings of nervousness, anxiety or fear can interfere with your performance in life.  Sometimes performance anxiety can cause “performance choking” in sports or fighting fires or when facing fears in certain circumstances.  This is an internal issue that creates the feelings of stress, anxiety and fear.  



How  Sports  Psychology  Helps  Nervousness

Here, I share with you the research-based knowledge of how to alleviate fear and how you may choose to live as love in far more moments of your life.   Namaste!  xo
In this health pandemic, there is a lot of information that can heighten your fear; the overloading of information some of it inaccurate, some of it truthful; can still cause you to feel fearful when you have not previously. Sometimes, as you seek to have all of the right knowledge and information; focusing on the finding and having of facts can cause hypervigilence - acute focus on this problem even if your facts can now offer ideas for what you need to do. It is only when you are fixated on a problem that worries surface: your mind directed towards what is unwanted and what causes you to suffer.
Let this help you!  
love dorothy

From Fear to Love - Three Best Practices to Alleviate Fear and Live as Love

Life is a continuous process of change and transformation. I share with you some ways I have navigated storms in my life. We explore anxiety and fear. Learn compassionate ways to deal with these states.

Anxiety & Fear During Uncertain Times

The Three Best Practices for Alleviating Fear Specific to the Coronavirus
 What Does it Mean to ‘Flatten the Curve’ and How Can You Best Do This?
Why NOW is The Best Time to Re-Examine Your Health Care Practices
What You Can Do To Improve Your Immune System
A Cognitive Therapy Best Practice for Alleviating Fear
How to Best Protect Yourself From COVID-19 (Coronavirus)
Self-Awareness Tools for Alleviating Fear
What Three Tendencies Predispose You to Fear?

Please find the additional resources mentioned in this episode, on my website: dorothyratusny.com  
Please take gentle care of yourself!! Namaste!!


The Psychology of Alleviating Fear - the Covid-19 Crisis

We usually associate vulnerability with fear, discomfort or rejection. But when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we can experience the joys of life. 

Choosing Vulnerability

In the recent weeks and months we have witnessed much political up-cries as our leaders are being asked - demanded - that they consider how policies and political influence needs to stand for what matters; that they need to think far into the future. It is not only the economy that needs an uplift but perhaps more so, it is how we think. We must open our minds to what needs to change is at the forefront of everything.

 

Gravely the violence, the prejudice, the racism, the fear and the lack of knowledge that we have witnessed is but a microcosm of what needs to change; of what is changing.  Our lives stand for something; they matter.  They inspire and drive conviction; to be a never-ending voice that teaches our children; that retrains our way of thinking and the beliefs that we hold so that we may all live in light; no longer in the darkness that has shrouded our minds for so long.

This is our global awakening; this is our new world. This is your opportunity, your time, your free will that will choose what will be. When you feel uncertain; and there is much that is still unknown, remember to decide what is in your power to choose; to reclaim, to live awake, because in this time everything that you have ever wanted and desired now is before you. It is of your choosing.

Only you can choose this.

You are not alone, everyone has their own path to walk forward in. The life that you once lived is forever changed. You embrace the present. You may witness all of the moments of your life as you look forward and feel grateful of these many joys that are possible because you choose this. Everything becomes significant. Everything becomes a possibility and something worth asking for. Your life and what you live begins now. 

Choose your life. Live in peace. Begin this now.

I hope that you will have the experience of listening to the full episode; there is much here to inspire and uplift and to help you set your course into the future.  Namaste! xo 

Here, I share with you the research-based knowledge of how to alleviate fear and how you may choose to live as love in far more moments of your life.   Namaste!  xo
In this health pandemic, there is a lot of information that can heighten your fear; the overloading of information some of it inaccurate, some of it truthful; can still cause you to feel fearful when you have not previously. Sometimes, as you seek to have all of the right knowledge and information; focusing on the finding and having of facts can cause hypervigilence - acute focus on this problem even if your facts can now offer ideas for what you need to do. It is only when you are fixated on a problem that worries surface: your mind directed towards what is unwanted and what causes you to suffer.
Let this help you!  
love dorothy

From Fear to Love: Three Best Practices to Alleviate Fear and Live as Love

Our greatest fears and doubts usually hinder our success.

Defeat Your Fear in 9 Ways

In order to move beyond fear and self-doubt, we need to unlock the beliefs that keep us stuck within our comfort zones. Learn how to move into the possibility of your life. 

Unlocking Our Fear Based Beliefs

The Three Best Practices for Alleviating Fear Specific to the Coronavirus

 What Does it Mean to ‘Flatten the Curve’ and How Can You Best Do This?
Why NOW is The Best Time to Re-Examine Your Health Care Practices
What You Can Do To Improve Your Immune System
A Cognitive Therapy Best Practice for Alleviating Fear
How to Best Protect Yourself From COVID-19 (Coronavirus)
Self-Awareness Tools for Alleviating Fear
What Three Tendencies Predispose You to Fear?

Please find the additional resources mentioned in this episode, on my website: dorothyratusny.com  
Please take gentle care of yourself!! Namaste!!

Where in your life are you playing small? How many times have you had a big idea or a great opportunity, and before you know it fear pops up. Learn how to move beyond this fear and doubt. 

Sick of Playing It Small?

Each time a challenge arises in our life, it's only normal for fear to come up. The problem with this, is that we can then avoid taking healthy risks in our lives. Learn how to move beyond this fear. 

Moving Beyond Fear

In this episode I want to remind you of the power that you hold to choose for yourself the right and best relationship, and how you can stay clear of relationships that are damaging and abusive.
I also wish to illustrate how living with abuse, perpetuates a cycle of dependency and the eradicating of one's self-worth and sense of self; and I will share the story of my client 'Beth', and the four strategies to prevent you from finding yourself in an abusive relationship and enable you to leave.
TRUTH SERUM:  There are many forms of abuse. Abuse is, by definition, the mistreatment of another; whether intentional or as a facet of one's consistent actions that one may not be self-aware of.
A-HA MOMENTS:  Abuse in the traditional variant forms that we categorize as physical, emotional, and psychological all originate with one's thoughts and beliefs; that is what one tells one's self and justifies in being discriminating, hurtful, and disrespectful towards another, and how one's misguided intentions can lead into a situation and a relationship that is both damaging and abusive.
 
PRACTICAL WISDOM:  We know that relationships that are unhealthy and abusive are also complex and complicated. We stay in these relationships for different reasons; whether because we have convinced ourselves that there is something of benefit to us in staying; or we anticipate the enormous effort it will take to execute our decision to leave. We stay because we tell our self that the "relationship is really not that bad"; that maybe "we deserve how we are being mistreated"; and in some cases, we may tell ourselves "we don't care."
If you are listening to this episode because something deep within you is yearning for help, guidance, and perhaps validation of what you know but have been afraid to believe, I hope that in listening, you will allow your inner voice to become louder, to rely on it for what you know is true and to be willing to care for yourself first with the knowledge that you are not alone, that you will get through this; that you will feel better, happier, and stronger; and that if and when you choose it, you can and will find the right partner and the love that you truly want.

If you need my help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com
Namaste! xo

There is something else that we must look at now.  Now as we continue to navigate life; as we return to some of what has been absent; finding our way to a new and better way of life even as some aspects of this may take time to become what we are used to.  There is something more that we are being called to examine; to change if these beliefs conflict with what we know to be the right choice.
Right now in a world torn by differing beliefs; beliefs that have been taught to us by those who also did not have all of the right information; those who may have been living in fear, unknowing of what it truly means to live with your heart open and to be of kindness first and foremost unto yourself.
 
Because when we learn how to treat ourselves kindly; how to change the thoughts that we want to hold that are remarkable; that instill within us the examples of love and compassion; of resiliency; and inner strength; of teaching ourselves and our children how to live as our inherent goodness and to always do the right thing. 
Then we become a home, a community, a nation and a planet in which amongst our differences we share the commodity of loving grace; of treating each other with dignity, respect, kindness - for beneath the colour of our skin, the clothes we wear, beneath the thoughts that we might hold or our learned beliefs; we are all of the same physical structure; our hearts beat - we walk and run, we can use our hands to form the universal symbol of peace or to disrespect another.
 
What we are reminded of in the world at this time is a global pandemic of a different nature and one that is equally important. We are reminded of how intolerance, rage, suffering, violence... spreads. It is a disease - a virus of its own nature, if allowed to persist.

 
This brave new world that we are being thrust forward into is a world that must be founded on the protection of love and kindness. Kindness is Love.
-enjoy this and with it, the remembering of kindness as love..
xo
dorothy

Kindness As Love + a Tribute to George Floyd

Why are we so impacted by change? Exploring our natural reaction to change that feels unbearable. How can we recognize this when it happens and make a practice that supports us to welcome change without fear. To be empowered instead of impacted negatively. 

How to Manage Change

In a recent session, I witnessed a client’s state of pure joy; joy as authenticity and honesty; joy that is of elation and a natural altered state of pure consciousness. It was what I would describe as witnessing abundance; abundance of happiness, of gratitude; of the ability that we all have (and that she so beautifully demonstrated); to see everything in one’s life as significant and of precise purpose; and of the inherent ability to choose based on the deepest desires of our heart.

Our session was also a testament to the simplicity of miracles that abound - everywhere.

“A shift in feeling; from fear, lack and uncertainty to love is the miracle that we all seek.” - Dorothy Ratusny

Namaste 

Related to this Client Story, you may also wish to read this from 'The WISDOM BLOG', on how to banish loneliness: https://www.dorothyratusny.com/if-you-dont-like-being-with-yourself-this-is-what-youve-been-missing-the-three-secrets-to-banish-loneliness/ 

Do You Believe in Miracles? Client Story #009 'Ask Dorothy'

Do You Believe in Miracles?  Client Story #009 'Ask Dorothy'

There is something else that we must look at now.  Now as we continue to navigate life; as we return to some of what has been absent; finding our way to a new and better way of life even as some aspects of this may take time to become what we are used to.  There is something more that we are being called to examine; to change if these beliefs conflict with what we know to be the right choice.

Right now in a world torn by differing beliefs; beliefs that have been taught to us by those who also did not have all of the right information; those who may have been living in fear, unknowing of what it truly means to live with your heart open and to be of kindness first and foremost unto yourself.
 
Because when we learn how to treat ourselves kindly; how to change the thoughts that we want to hold that are remarkable; that instill within us the examples of love and compassion; of resiliency; and inner strength; of teaching ourselves and our children how to live as our inherent goodness and to always do the right thing. 

Then we become a home, a community, a nation and a planet in which amongst our differences we share the commodity of loving grace; of treating each other with dignity, respect, kindness - for beneath the colour of our skin, the clothes we wear, beneath the thoughts that we might hold or our learned beliefs; we are all of the same physical structure; our hearts beat - we walk and run, we can use our hands to form the universal symbol of peace or to disrespect another.
 
What we are reminded of in the world at this time is a global pandemic of a different nature and one that is equally important. We are reminded of how intolerance, rage, suffering, violence... spreads. It is a disease - a virus of its own nature, if allowed to persist.
 
This brave new world that we are being thrust forward into is a world that must be founded on the protection of love and kindness. Kindness is Love.
-enjoy this and with it, the remembering of kindness as love..
xo
dorothy



Overcome Fear: Life Coaching