Life can become a series of moments that we live in search of what will 'make' us feel good (aka 'happy', 'joyful', 'alive') rather than living life as a series of moments that we easily enjoy (and relish) because we are living connected to our inner happiness - which is always present - always accessible - always a part of us. 'Happiness is Your Inherent State' The next time that you find yourself 'in search of' something because of how you want to feel, consider that life mirrors existence. That "something" that you have convinced yourself you need - becomes an even better experience because of your current state of being. Life that is lived with appreciation and 'thanks'; with gratitude - fuels abundance and joy. Let this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM inspire you to live your life full on; playful with the knowledge that what you think about and imagine become the outer reality you live. Namaste! xo

We often search for things to make us happy, but true happiness comes from being connected to our inner self, which is always present and accessible.

How Life Mirrors Your Inner Existence

“Who you are is not what you have been taught to believe. Who you are is the most incredible being of love.” For whatever behaviour (or belief) is unwanted and yet appears to be so deeply ingrained, ask yourself, “Where did I learn this?” I ask clients to trace their problematic behaviour, belief system, or unhealthy habit - back to an earlier time – a time in which they first remembered observing this behaviour in another person, or - if applicable - of their self. I call this "a point of origin.” The purpose of looking for the origin of a behaviour or core belief is to establish a starting place from which you may begin to understand that this behaviour (attitude, belief, or thought pattern) is not entirely of your making. To find its originating point means that it was learned and therefore may be changed or unlearned and replaced with something of your choosing. We learn so much about our self by reflecting on what we have been taught to believe.

Discover the origin of your behavior and beliefs to understand they're not entirely your own, but learned. Replace them with your choosing.

You Are Not What You Have Been Taught to Believe

The four best practices for helping you move from conflict into resolution - effectively - whilst maintaining your relationship and achieving greater understanding. Namaste!! xo If you would like my personal help or guidance in any situation that you may continue to be struggling with - and that remains unresolved and causing hurt or pain, please consider booking a free 15-minute discovery session with me. You may also wish to 'gift it' to another who is struggling with a situation of conflict that needs resolution. https://www.dorothyratusny.com/free-15-minute-discovery-session/

Discover four best practices for effectively resolving conflicts while maintaining relationships and gaining understanding with a free 15-minute session.

Help for Resolving Conflict - What You Need to Do

Life can become a series of moments that we live in search of what will 'make' us feel good (aka 'happy', 'joyful', 'alive') rather than living life as a series of moments that we easily enjoy (and relish) because we are living connected to our inner happiness - which is always present - always accessible - always a part of us. 'Happiness is Your Inherent State' The next time that you find yourself 'in search of' something because of how you want to feel, consider that life mirrors existence. That "something" that you have convinced yourself you need - becomes an even better experience because of your current state of being. Life that is lived with appreciation and 'thanks'; with gratitude - fuels abundance and joy. Let this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM inspire you to live your life full on; playful with the knowledge that what you think about and imagine become the outer reality you live. Namaste! xo

Don't search for happiness, it's always present within; living life with gratitude fuels abundance and joy. What we think and imagine becomes our reality.

How Life Mirrors Your Inner Existence (Full Episode - 15 Min)

For you to find great love in this life is your destiny. Your heart has been yearning for this... A spoken 'inspired' message to remind you of how the love you had (or may still have) is not real love if it comes with abusive words or actions. And how to reclaim the real love that you are so deserving of. Believe in this. When you ask for what you truly want and then as you are willing to receive it (even with caution) - you are reminded of the great power of receiving everything that you most desire - and with this - new love.

Believe in your destiny of finding great love; learn to recognize and reclaim real love by asking for what you want and being willing to receive it.

When Love Has Been Abusive: How to Reclaim True Love

In this episode of Life Coaching Wisdom, I share the two most important reasons why you need to always tell the truth - and especially when it is not easy to do so. I also offer strategies and 'scripts' that you can use to make your job of being wholly honest and truthful - much easier! Honesty and truthfulness are not the same thing. Being honest means that you do not tell lies. Being truthful means actively making known all of the full truth of a matter. When you are truthful, you are honestly expressing how you perceive or feel about something. Being both honest and truthful allows you to have meaningful and authentic relationships - with yourself, and others. I hope that this recording will inspire you to practice honesty and truthfulness in all ways in your life. Namaste!! xo

Learn the importance of being both honest and truthful, with strategies to make it easier, for authentic relationships with yourself and others.

The Two Reasons Why You Must Always Be Honest & Truthful

In this episode I want to remind you of the power that you hold to choose for yourself the right and best relationship, and how you can stay clear of relationships that are damaging and abusive. I also wish to illustrate how living with abuse, perpetuates a cycle of dependency and the eradicating of one's self-worth and sense of self; and I will share the story of my client 'Beth', and the four strategies to prevent you from finding yourself in an abusive relationship and enable you to leave. TRUTH SERUM: There are many forms of abuse. Abuse is, by definition, the mistreatment of another; whether intentional or as a facet of one's consistent actions that one may not be self-aware of. A-HA MOMENTS: Abuse in the traditional variant forms that we categorize as physical, emotional, and psychological all originate with one's thoughts and beliefs; that is what one tells one's self and justifies in being discriminating, hurtful, and disrespectful towards another, and how one's misguided intentions can lead into a situation and a relationship that is both damaging and abusive. PRACTICAL WISDOM: We know that relationships that are unhealthy and abusive are also complex and complicated. We stay in these relationships for different reasons; whether because we have convinced ourselves that there is something of benefit to us in staying; or we anticipate the enormous effort it will take to execute our decision to leave. We stay because we tell our self that the "relationship is really not that bad"; that maybe "we deserve how we are being mistreated"; and in some cases, we may tell ourselves "we don't care." If you are listening to this episode because something deep within you is yearning for help, guidance, and perhaps validation of what you know but have been afraid to believe, I hope that in listening, you will allow your inner voice to become louder, to rely on it for what you know is true and to be willing to care for yourself first with the knowledge that you are not alone, that you will get through this; that you will feel better, happier, and stronger; and that if and when you choose it, you can and will find the right partner and the love that you truly want. If you need my help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com Namaste! xo

The episode encourages listeners to choose healthy relationships, stay clear of abusive ones, and provides strategies to leave such relationships.

Escaping Abuse: Why We Stay, How to Leave, 4 Strategies to End the Cycle

“Who you are is not what you have been taught to believe. Who you are is the most incredible being of love.” For whatever behaviour (or belief) is unwanted and yet appears to be so deeply ingrained, ask yourself, “Where did I learn this?” I ask clients to trace their problematic behaviour, belief system, or unhealthy habit - back to an earlier time – a time in which they first remembered observing this behaviour in another person, or - if applicable - of their self. I call this "a point of origin.” The purpose of looking for the origin of a behaviour or core belief is to establish a starting place from which you may begin to understand that this behaviour (attitude, belief, or thought pattern) is not entirely of your making. To find its originating point means that it was learned and therefore may be changed or unlearned and replaced with something of your choosing. We learn so much about our self by reflecting on what we have been taught to believe.

Reflect on learned behaviors and beliefs by tracing them back to their point of origin, allowing for change and choosing beliefs that reflect who you truly are.

Who You Are Is Not What You Have Been Taught to Believe

Learn to soften your heart welcoming Life As It Is to Exist. This coaching session will invite you to be with whatever arises in life in a more gentle and useful way. Rather than fighting to keep out things we don't like or agree with it offers us a gentler way to live.

Coaching session teaches acceptance of life as it is, helping individuals approach challenges in a gentler, more useful way.

Allowing All of Life to Exist

Bring kind hearted awareness to a critical and judgemental mind.

Transform judgmental mindset with compassionate awareness.

Embrace Differences in Life

Learn the importance of telling the truth, even when it's difficult, and how to do it with ease in this episode of Life Coaching Wisdom.

The Two Reasons Why You Must Always Be Truthful and Honest

The statistics are clear - that 'Sunday feeling' is most often triggered by anxiety of the impending workweek. If you've ever felt a looming dread on Sunday that falls upon you much like clockwork; as your mind anticipates Monday morning, the week ahead, and what you may wish you could avoid; then you likely know all too well what feels like... Finding the path you are meant to be on is the most effective method to cure yourself of that Sunday feeling - permanently. Learning more about how each type functions can help you create a map to manifesting a fulfilling and happy life. Episode Resources: The WISDOM podcast: debut episode in which we dive deep into all things about self-love The WISDOM blog; a post which gives you the science for why taking deep breaths are so important) How much sleep is enough? The WISDOM Blog and a post on how you can change thoughts that are not positive How to work with me: dorothyratusny.com

The Sunday feeling is triggered by anxiety of the workweek ahead; finding the right path can cure it permanently. Resources available on dorothyratusny.com.

10 Best Practices for Curing 'That Sunday Feeling'

In the recent weeks and months we have witnessed much political up-cries as our leaders are being asked - demanded - that they consider how policies and political influence needs to stand for what matters; that they need to think far into the future. It is not only the economy that needs an uplift but perhaps more so, it is how we think. We must open our minds to what needs to change is at the forefront of everything. Gravely the violence, the prejudice, the racism, the fear and the lack of knowledge that we have witnessed is but a microcosm of what needs to change; of what is changing. Our lives stand for something; they matter. They inspire and drive conviction; to be a never-ending voice that teaches our children; that retrains our way of thinking and the beliefs that we hold so that we may all live in light; no longer in the darkness that has shrouded our minds for so long. This is our global awakening; this is our new world. This is your opportunity, your time, your free will that will choose what will be. When you feel uncertain; and there is much that is still unknown, remember to decide what is in your power to choose; to reclaim, to live awake, because in this time everything that you have ever wanted and desired now is before you. It is of your choosing. Only you can choose this. You are not alone, everyone has their own path to walk forward in. The life that you once lived is forever changed. You embrace the present. You may witness all of the moments of your life as you look forward and feel grateful of these many joys that are possible because you choose this. Everything becomes significant. Everything becomes a possibility and something worth asking for. Your life and what you live begins now. Choose your life. Live in peace. Begin this now. I hope that you will have the experience of listening to the full episode; there is much here to inspire and uplift and to help you set your course into the future. Namaste! xo

Global awakening: Choose to live awake, embrace the present, and be a voice for change. Stand for what matters, inspire, and drive conviction.

Your Life and How You Live Begins Now

Are you like so many others who do their best to recreate the magical moments of holidays past? Do you imagine yourself at a particular moment in time during childhood where everything was enchanting; surreal, and as if you were living in a fantasy? We tend to go to moments of our childhood as they evoke imagination and powerful imagery that immediately places us back in that time of innocence, of wonder, and of belief in the magic of the holidays. Do you think back to memories that evoke pure joy, laughter, and fun, so that you can feel those precise feelings now? As a child, did you anticipate what gifts were waiting for you under the tree on Christmas morning or what you might receive on every night of Hanukkah? As an adult, I am going to encourage you to decide how you will curate magic and wonder by design so that you can experience joy, anticipation, excitement, and of course love because you've opened your heart to it; and because of the actions that you've taken to feel magic through the acts of giving, of being grateful, of loving kindness and of nurturing your relationships with your loved ones. It matters that you find and feel joy in the real meaning of the holidays and not simply because you found your way to crossing everyone off of your shopping list and its still two weeks before Christmas. In this episode we dive into the best strategy for curating the magic of the holidays; and for experiencing joy in the anticipation of new experiences and shared laughter and fun. I might even suggest that you will want to continue using these 3 best practices as "the" strategy for how you live life! I wish you all much love, peace, and joy now... and always! Namaste! xo

Curate magic and wonder by design to experience joy, anticipation, excitement, and love during the holidays and beyond. Use 3 best practices to live life.

The Holiday Episode: Practical Wisdom for Living the Magic, Wonder, and True Meaning of the Holidays

As we are in a time in which the world is continuing to pause; to take a step or two back to hold our breath as we anticipate the future, this is a perfect time to consider that we are living in a time of spiritual awakening. For this we must look within for our 'right' knowing; to remember how our individual actions affect each another and the planet; and to honour and respect all living beings as we live in peace. This episode of Life Coaching WISDOM offers a guided journey; one that invites you to open your mind and heart; to witness your inner wisdom and to ask the questions of yourself; of how you may 'rebirth' into this new life we are being called to live. As you listen, you may wish to record some notes as you answer the questions, and as you witness the presence of your highest self in communication with you. Namaste! xo

Explore spiritual awakening and embrace individual responsibility for a better world in this guided journey of Life Coaching WISDOM.

A Time of Rebirth and Awakening; of Love of Humanity and the Earth

This time is an opportunity for all of you as a family - to find each other; to learn about and know one another in ways that you have not; or in ways that are new and different. Here, I share with you three questions to use as points of conversation with your family; to build a deeper connection, grow your knowledge and understanding of one another, and emerge from this time, stronger and more in tune with each other’s needs and desires. I wish for you and your family, much safety, health, and love, at this difficult time in the world, and always. Namaste! xo love dorothy

Use this time as a family to connect and grow; ask these three questions to deepen your understanding of each other and emerge stronger. #familytime

An Important Message to All Families During Covid-19: Use This Time to Reconnect and Love

In this episode I want to remind you of the power that you hold to choose for yourself the right and best relationship, and how you can stay clear of relationships that are damaging and abusive. I also wish to illustrate how living with abuse, perpetuates a cycle of dependency and the eradicating of one's self-worth and sense of self; and I will share the story of my client 'Beth', and the four strategies to prevent you from finding yourself in an abusive relationship and enable you to leave. TRUTH SERUM: There are many forms of abuse. Abuse is, by definition, the mistreatment of another; whether intentional or as a facet of one's consistent actions that one may not be self-aware of. A-HA MOMENTS: Abuse in the traditional variant forms that we categorize as physical, emotional, and psychological all originate with one's thoughts and beliefs; that is what one tells one's self and justifies in being discriminating, hurtful, and disrespectful towards another, and how one's misguided intentions can lead into a situation and a relationship that is both damaging and abusive. PRACTICAL WISDOM: We know that relationships that are unhealthy and abusive are also complex and complicated. We stay in these relationships for different reasons; whether because we have convinced ourselves that there is something of benefit to us in staying; or we anticipate the enormous effort it will take to execute our decision to leave. We stay because we tell our self that the "relationship is really not that bad"; that maybe "we deserve how we are being mistreated"; and in some cases, we may tell ourselves "we don't care." If you are listening to this episode because something deep within you is yearning for help, guidance, and perhaps validation of what you know but have been afraid to believe, I hope that in listening, you will allow your inner voice to become louder, to rely on it for what you know is true and to be willing to care for yourself first with the knowledge that you are not alone, that you will get through this; that you will feel better, happier, and stronger; and that if and when you choose it, you can and will find the right partner and the love that you truly want. If you need my help, please reach out to me: dorothy@dorothyratusny.com Namaste! xo

The episode explores the power of choosing the right relationships and avoiding abusive ones, with practical strategies to leave and care for oneself.

Are you like so many others who do their best to recreate the magical moments of holidays past? Do you imagine yourself at a particular moment in time during childhood where everything was enchanting; surreal, and as if you were living in a fantasy? We tend to go to moments of our childhood as they evoke imagination and powerful imagery that immediately places us back in that time of innocence, of wonder, and of belief in the magic of the holidays. Do you think back to memories that evoke pure joy, laughter, and fun, so that you can feel those precise feelings now? As a child, did you anticipate what gifts were waiting for you under the tree on Christmas morning or what you might receive on every night of Hanukkah? As an adult, I am going to encourage you to decide how you will curate magic and wonder by design so that you can experience joy, anticipation, excitement, and of course love because you've opened your heart to it; and because of the actions that you've taken to feel magic through the acts of giving, of being grateful, of loving kindness and of nurturing your relationships with your loved ones. It matters that you find and feel joy in the real meaning of the holidays and not simply because you found your way to crossing everyone off of your shopping list and its still two weeks before Christmas. In this episode we dive into the best strategy for curating the magic of the holidays; and for experiencing joy in the anticipation of new experiences and shared laughter and fun. I might even suggest that you will want to continue using these 3 best practices as "the" strategy for how you live life! I wish you all much love, peace, and joy now... and always! Namaste! xo

Curate holiday magic by design to experience joy, excitement, love, and anticipation, and nurture relationships with loved ones, not just shopping lists.

Use this opportunity to strengthen family bonds by asking three questions to deepen understanding of each other. Stay safe, healthy and loved. Namaste!

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