It is possible to shower others with love and kindness; to think of others' needs and to often place these before your own - and yet feel unloved or undeserving of love.
How is it that giving love is easier than receiving it?
What makes it so difficult to feel loved? 
In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, discover the secret of letting love in; of feeling it completely - love from others and unto yourself - and to enjoy this easily.  Namaste!! xo

Do You Let Love In? Are You Ready To?

If you can begin one change about how you live your life - begin with your decision to be radically self honest.  Catch yourself when you are telling an untruth - no matter how innocent or minor it may seem.  Make a point to stop yourself - even if you are mid-sentence in conversation with another and correct what you are saying.  When you are telling yourself something that you want so desperately to be true; pay attention to whether you are being wholly honest or if you are avoiding what 'is' true in face of what you wish for.  

"Radical self honesty frees you to live your truth"

Join me in the full length episode (7min version) where I share the one question that reminds you how to define what 'is' true.

Thank you for listening!  
Namaste!  

In kindness and gratitude, 
dorothy xo


Radical Self Honesty

It is possible to shower others with love and kindness; to think of others' needs and to often place these before your own - and yet feel unloved or undeserving of love.

How is it that giving love is easier than receiving it?
What makes it so difficult to feel loved? 

In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, discover the secret of letting love in; of feeling it completely - love from others and unto yourself - and to enjoy this easily.  Namaste!! xo

Do You Let Love In?  Are You Ready To?

When we hurt it is because we have allowed someone to affect us negatively; to cause us harm, to feel doubt, fear, insecurity, or discouragement, when really - each time that we experience someone's negativity (their harsh words, their criticism, their anger, their fear, their insecurities, their pain, their lack of knowledge) - they are simply showing us their reaction, their choice, their feelings and thoughts in that particular moment.

Your decision must be to step back, to step away from taking on whatever hurts may be directly or indirectly pointed at you.  You may choose to offer a kind word and lend your ear - and then to return to your inner knowing; to knowing that you are remarkable, you are perfect as you are - you are a work in progress as you choose it.  You are the loving inner being and the kindness that flows from this.

I hope this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM helps you feel empowered to no longer allow yourself to remain stuck in being hurt.  Namaste!

in gratitude and peace,
dorothy xo

No One Can Hurt You Unless You Allow It

Learn about how and why we tend to treat other people so kindly whilst we tend to treat ourselves with harsh self-judgment and criticism. Listen to this session and others in the series to learn how to treat yourself with greater acceptance and kindness. 

Why Am I So Self-Critical?

Do you sometimes struggle to feel confident about yourself?  Do you at times, dismiss what is positive - focusing instead on self critical or self loathing inner dialogue?  Do you often compare yourself with others that you deem to be more successful or better in some way?

In order to build a more confident YOU, it's important to be able to witness all of who you are - from a perspective of loving kindness.  We can all benefit from using kinder words in how we think of our self.  We can practice speaking words of encouragement and kindness to our self - and holding belief in who we are as being more than good enough, capable, intelligent, and any other adjective that describes what is true rather than what we might currently tell our self.

In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, I offer the strategies for building a more confident version of yourself, and for how to practice loving kindness directed inward.

If you would like my help in building greater confidence and self esteem, please reach out to me - let me help.  Namaste!  xo

MUSIC:  Justin Woodward & John Murphy, 'sunshine adagio'


Building a More Confident You

Moments of joy are curated based on our ability - our willingness to appreciate, to have gratitude; to be present to our experience and to see the beauty in all of life, to receive the gifts of unconditional kindness and love that we give and are given.  Joy is the heartfelt witnessing of what is deeply meaningful and important.  All of these involve the allowing of our heart to be open - to witness - to experience what moves us so deliberately into joy.

In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, I share the path to experiencing unrelenting joy.  Please join me!  
 
MUSIC: The Echelon Effect, 'Tracking Aeroplanes'


How to Curate Unleashed Joy

Even as this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM is released months into this global pandemic of 2020, the messages that I share are omnipresent and incredibly important for when you listen; because now is the future.
 
A-HA MOMENTS:  For however you have been living your life up until this moment, you must realize that you have been choosing your future. 
PRACTICAL WISDOM: What I want to emphasize and inspire at this time and in this brave new world that we are all being “rebirthed” into; is the absolute need for greater conscious choice; to wield the freedom that you hold, to choose what you deeply desire; and to live fearless of this; because you now understand that you are able to have everything that you have always wanted.
TRUTH SERUM:  What you have been wanting and waiting for is before you now. Now is the time to take new action. This time is unprecedented in our lives; and with it is the possibility for change; and new beginnings of consciousness and loving-kindness for all living beings. Now is the time to set in motion what you have been wanting for so long. Now is your time. It is the time for all of us to mobilize into action what is most wanted, and to step forth into this brave new world that we are living.
The Future is Here.  It is Now.  Namaste 
love dorothy

The Future Is Now

Many of us go through periods where we feel down. Often we try to push ourselves out of this feeling by giving ourselves a hrad time or judging ourselves for not being "happier". In this session you will learn to meet yourself with kindness and support yourself through the inevitable highs and lows of life, rather than beating yourself up.  

Feeling Down? Nurture Yourself

being love is a choice.  it is both a deliberate practice and your natural state (of being).

"being love" can best be described as being kind, compassionate, truthful, caring, accepting, inclusive, honourable, and possibly any other adjective that accurately describes what we might characterize as traits and behaviours that reflect our innate goodness.

In this life coaching episode, join me for a reflective and inspirational look at what it means to be love.  namaste xo



I invite you to experience the first three sacred lessons of my online course, being love as my gift.  It will give you the necessary ideas and help to begin a journey of what it means to be loving towards yourself and others, to practice self care, and to be kindness and love outwardly even when you may not feel positive or happy.  You will learn how to return to a state of divine spiritual love that originates from within, so that you can be this in your life - and in ways that will foster loving relationships with others.  Sign up at: the school of wisdom 
https://www.dorothyratusny.theschoolofwisdom



This Is You... Being Love

Practicing kindfulness is a transformative mindfulness tool. When we bring an attitude of kindness into our lives our quality of life will be enhanced. Explore this with me today!

Practice Kindfulness

Communication is everything.  Yet how can you become better at speaking your truth so that you can reveal the true essence of what you need to say - what you must say - without hurting another, without causing damage to a relationship - while still giving yourself a voice - a stand - an opinion?  

It matters what you say.

In this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM, I share three necessary strategies to help you become more effective in your communication.  You can be fully clear and deliberate in your words, whilst still remembering that you are most effective in what you say when you can do so with loving kindness, respect, and care in what you say - and how you say it.

Sending you much love, 

xo dorothy 

Namaste!



It Matters What You Say

Sharing with you the 8 sacred habits of fatherhood....

What is most important for any father to know is that your ability to parent is reflective in who you are first as a human being.
Fatherhood will teach you so much about yourself; it will illuminate your strengths and your character and it will also highlight your insecurities and your weaknesses.  It will require of you to be self responsible; to lead by example - to impress not by your words but because of what you consistently do and how you are with others.

In my work with couples, with fathers who are single parents, and fathers who are living with new partners and their children in blended families - there is always the single most important challenge of being your best self.  Children as they grow will challenge you to do this as their needs and demands change.  Seeing your children as the catalyst to help you become the best version of who you are - and without allowing yourself to become caught up in ego - of needing or demanding undue respect simply because you are in a position of authority.  Your children will respect and love you because of your consistent kindness and fairness in how you treat them and because you are willing to share your knowledge and wisdom - respectfully.

MUSIC: North Atlantic Drift: 'trails'





What a Father Needs to Be

If you can begin to see your life as a celebration - as joy - as unlimited possibilities - as pleasure - as meaningful encounters, opportunities for loving kindness, connection, care - you would live it this way.  To celebrate your life you must be willing to look for and enjoy the beauty that exists everywhere - in every moment - you must be willing to find the good in others and in yourself.  Feel inspired.  Best listened with your eyes closed..allowing the words to wash over you.  Namaste xo dorothy

Celebrate Your Life

Are you like so many others who do their best to recreate the magical moments of holidays past?  Do you imagine yourself at a particular moment in time during childhood where everything was enchanting; surreal, and as if you were living in a fantasy?  We tend to go to moments of our childhood as they evoke imagination and powerful imagery that immediately places us back in that time of innocence, of wonder, and of belief in the magic of the holidays.  Do you think back to memories that evoke pure joy, laughter, and fun, so that you can feel those precise feelings now?

As a child, did you anticipate what gifts were waiting for you under the tree on Christmas morning or what you might receive on every night of Hanukkah?  As an adult, I am going to encourage you to decide how you will curate magic and wonder by design so that you can experience joy, anticipation, excitement, and of course love because you've opened your heart to it; and because of the actions that you've taken to feel magic through the acts of giving, of being grateful, of loving kindness and of nurturing your relationships with your loved ones.

It matters that you find and feel joy in the real meaning of the holidays and not simply because you found your way to crossing everyone off of your shopping list and its still two weeks before Christmas.  In this episode we dive into the best strategy for curating the magic of the holidays; and for experiencing joy in the anticipation of new experiences and shared laughter and fun.  I might even suggest that you will want to continue using these 3 best practices as "the" strategy for how you live life! 

I wish you all much love, peace, and joy now... and always!  Namaste! xo

The Holiday Episode: Practical Wisdom for Living the Magic, Wonder, and True Meaning of the Holidays

“Perhaps it is more fitting than ever to allow acceptance into your heart; to let it guide you towards even greater things.” - Dorothy Ratusny

We do not always have the kind of relationships that we would like. Sometimes it is through our perseverance and dedication that the relationship becomes what we make it; and at times it is because the other person is not able to meet our needs; our needs of honesty, of trustworthiness, of kindness, and of integrity, that the relationship is limited.

Acceptance must also be the understanding of this; the ability to allow for others on their own path and journey through life; and to release our attachments, to what we can accept is not possible; not as the result of our unwillingness, rather the acknowledgement and acceptance that another is unwilling or unable – or both.

A Time of Acceptance

There is something else that we must look at now.  Now as we continue to navigate life; as we return to some of what has been absent; finding our way to a new and better way of life even as some aspects of this may take time to become what we are used to.  There is something more that we are being called to examine; to change if these beliefs conflict with what we know to be the right choice.
Right now in a world torn by differing beliefs; beliefs that have been taught to us by those who also did not have all of the right information; those who may have been living in fear, unknowing of what it truly means to live with your heart open and to be of kindness first and foremost unto yourself.
 
Because when we learn how to treat ourselves kindly; how to change the thoughts that we want to hold that are remarkable; that instill within us the examples of love and compassion; of resiliency; and inner strength; of teaching ourselves and our children how to live as our inherent goodness and to always do the right thing. 
Then we become a home, a community, a nation and a planet in which amongst our differences we share the commodity of loving grace; of treating each other with dignity, respect, kindness - for beneath the colour of our skin, the clothes we wear, beneath the thoughts that we might hold or our learned beliefs; we are all of the same physical structure; our hearts beat - we walk and run, we can use our hands to form the universal symbol of peace or to disrespect another.
 
What we are reminded of in the world at this time is a global pandemic of a different nature and one that is equally important. We are reminded of how intolerance, rage, suffering, violence... spreads. It is a disease - a virus of its own nature, if allowed to persist.

 
This brave new world that we are being thrust forward into is a world that must be founded on the protection of love and kindness. Kindness is Love.
-enjoy this and with it, the remembering of kindness as love..
xo
dorothy

Kindness As Love + a Tribute to George Floyd

This revolution is one of kindness; of certainty to our sacred calling as what we choose to do in our lives; to share our talents, to be unwavering in our cause; to be determined in our choices, to live in freedom, and to make the best choices that will honour our human spirit and will set in motion what we are grateful of.  


This life and what we are being shown is wonderful.  When we can get past what feels uncomfortable, we can remind our self of the inherent beauty in what we may appreciate, and in what we choose. 

A Time of Revolution

Even as this episode of Life Coaching WISDOM is released months into this global pandemic of 2020, the messages that I share are omnipresent and incredibly important for when you listen; because now is the future.
 
A-HA MOMENTS:  For however you have been living your life up until this moment, you must realize that you have been choosing your future. 
PRACTICAL WISDOM: What I want to emphasize and inspire at this time and in this brave new world that we are all being “rebirthed” into; is the absolute need for greater conscious choice; to wield the freedom that you hold, to choose what you deeply desire; and to live fearless of this; because you now understand that you are able to have everything that you have always wanted.
TRUTH SERUM:  What you have been wanting and waiting for is before you now. Now is the time to take new action. This time is unprecedented in our lives; and with it is the possibility for change; and new beginnings of consciousness and loving-kindness for all living beings. Now is the time to set in motion what you have been wanting for so long. Now is your time. It is the time for all of us to mobilize into action what is most wanted, and to step forth into this brave new world that we are living.
The Future is Here.  It is Now.  Namaste 
love dorothy

There is something else that we must look at now.  Now as we continue to navigate life; as we return to some of what has been absent; finding our way to a new and better way of life even as some aspects of this may take time to become what we are used to.  There is something more that we are being called to examine; to change if these beliefs conflict with what we know to be the right choice.

Right now in a world torn by differing beliefs; beliefs that have been taught to us by those who also did not have all of the right information; those who may have been living in fear, unknowing of what it truly means to live with your heart open and to be of kindness first and foremost unto yourself.
 
Because when we learn how to treat ourselves kindly; how to change the thoughts that we want to hold that are remarkable; that instill within us the examples of love and compassion; of resiliency; and inner strength; of teaching ourselves and our children how to live as our inherent goodness and to always do the right thing. 

Then we become a home, a community, a nation and a planet in which amongst our differences we share the commodity of loving grace; of treating each other with dignity, respect, kindness - for beneath the colour of our skin, the clothes we wear, beneath the thoughts that we might hold or our learned beliefs; we are all of the same physical structure; our hearts beat - we walk and run, we can use our hands to form the universal symbol of peace or to disrespect another.
 
What we are reminded of in the world at this time is a global pandemic of a different nature and one that is equally important. We are reminded of how intolerance, rage, suffering, violence... spreads. It is a disease - a virus of its own nature, if allowed to persist.
 
This brave new world that we are being thrust forward into is a world that must be founded on the protection of love and kindness. Kindness is Love.
-enjoy this and with it, the remembering of kindness as love..
xo
dorothy



Are you like so many others who do their best to recreate the magical moments of holidays past?  Do you imagine yourself at a particular moment in time during childhood where everything was enchanting; surreal, and as if you were living in a fantasy?  We tend to go to moments of our childhood as they evoke imagination and powerful imagery that immediately places us back in that time of innocence, of wonder, and of belief in the magic of the holidays.  Do you think back to memories that evoke pure joy, laughter, and fun, so that you can feel those precise feelings now?

As a child, did you anticipate what gifts were waiting for you under the tree on Christmas morning or what you might receive on every night of Hanukkah?  As an adult, I am going to encourage you to decide how you will curate magic and wonder by design so that you can experience joy, anticipation, excitement, and of course love because you've opened your heart to it; and because of the actions that you've taken to feel magic through the acts of giving, of being grateful, of loving kindness and of nurturing your relationships with your loved ones.

It matters that you find and feel joy in the real meaning of the holidays and not simply because you found your way to crossing everyone off of your shopping list and its still two weeks before Christmas.  In this episode we dive into the best strategy for curating the magic of the holidays; and for experiencing joy in the anticipation of new experiences and shared laughter and fun.  I might even suggest that you will want to continue using these 3 best practices as "the" strategy for how you live life! 

I wish you all much love, peace, and joy now... and always!  Namaste! xo


 

Kindness: Life Coaching