Our “perfect person” doesn’t exist. Many people in the world are compatible with you, but it’s really about finding the ones that have one to a few of those subjective red flags. Things that a person does that probably won’t change, you need to think about whether you want to tolerate these things for the long term (if that’s your goal). The fact is, we might get annoyed with things, but we need to think about the questions that matter. Here are some to consider when you run up against something that you find to be a red flag.

No one is perfect, focus on finding someone compatible with minor red flags to consider for long term relationships.

How Many Red Flags Do You Need?

Love is more than just words or gifts! Anne Hodder-Shipp expands love languages from 5 to 18 —covering accountability, teamwork, & even upskilling! Which ones speak to you? Photo by Michael Fenton on Unsplash

Love languages expanded to 18 by Anne Hodder-Shipp, encompassing accountability, teamwork, and upskilling. Which resonate with you?

Revolutionizing Love Language

Using Dr. Nagoski's book, Come As You Are, as a guide, we ask ourselves the questions about what is keeping us from having sex. Learn more about how your Sexual Inhibitor System might be working against you and prevent you from saying "yes" to sex.

Book "Come As You Are" explores how the Sexual Inhibitor System can affect one's ability to say "yes" to sex.

What's Stopping You From Sex?

When love starts to impede your logic, it can be really problematic. We often default to thinking that love will cure all and that with just a little more love the relationship can be successful. This may not always be the case. If you're questioning your relationship, here are some questions for you to think about so that you can be more aware of your emotions and start using more logic to help you to have successful relationships.

Love should not override logic in relationships; use these questions to be more aware of your emotions and make logical decisions for success.

Questioning Your Relationship?

We live in a world that demands our attention every single day. That's why it's so important that we take the time to find a connection with our lover(s). Should you increase the times you kiss and hug? Absolutely! But there are plenty of other things you can do to help your lover decrease their stress and foster the relationship between you both. How many of these things do you think you can do in the week?

In a busy world, it's crucial to find moments for intimacy with your partner: increase kissing and hugging and find other ways to decrease stress and connect.

13 Ways To Increase Intimacy

Why cuddling and sex go together! Find out what cuddling is, why we should cuddle, why cuddling and sex go together, creating a cuddling space, and how to find a professional cuddler near you!

Learn why cuddling and sex are a perfect match, and how to create a perfect cuddling space by reading this article, including tips on finding a professional cuddler near you.

Why Cuddling & Sex Go Together

Doing sexual role-play with a lover can have some major benefits. These benefits can include adding more pizzazz to your love life, understanding your own communication within and outside of role-playing, as well as getting your creative brain excited. Learn what these benefits are and how you can embrace another side of you.

Sexual role-play can enhance your love life, improve communication and creativity, and help you discover new aspects of yourself.

5 Benefits To Investing In Role Play

Dirty talk comes in many different forms. Which form is the best for you? Once you figure this out, you'll be able to qualify it as one of your sexual assets and bring your best game forward. And all you need to do is just a little practice, along with some of my sex hacks and you'll be good to go!

Discover your preferred form of dirty talk to boost your sexual confidence with a little practice and sex hacks.

Level Up Your Dirty Talk

In relationships, you shouldn’t fake it to make it. Just like love isn’t enough to sustain a relationship, neither is upholding a personality or characteristics that are not yours to begin with. Listen here to learn more about why it's important to be authentic, the sacrifices that people make, and ensure that you are not a person that will "bait and switch" on someone or have them do it to you.

Being authentic is crucial in a relationship; pretending to be someone else is not sustainable, and can result in "bait and switch" scenarios.

One Way to Not Ruin A Relationship

When a lover makes a request from you, what are you likely to do? Do you argue? Do you question? Do you passive-aggressively make a decision? Sometimes, all you need to do is say "yes" in order to make your lover happy. Listen more to find out how this will benefit your relationship.

Say "yes" to your lover's requests to make them happy and improve your relationship.

Give Your Lover What They Need

Marla Renee Stewart, MA

Sexologist & Sexual Strategist

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