Leaving an abusive relationship makes me feel unloved. Abuse destroys love. Because of my past, I take responsibility for the abuse. This continues to foster my shame based identity. To feel less shame, I seek out love. Even though I have a distorted since of love. This makes me prone to entering another abusive relationship. This makes me misrepresent reality. Instead of others being responsible for the abuse the second time, I am responsible. In this period of separation. I need to lean into the sadness, anger, and the shame. If I don't the cycle with repeat.