So You've Cheated, Now What?

Discovering that your partner has cheated is one of the most painful experiences anyone can have. It’s a form of relational trauma that leaves you hurting and mistrustful, long after the affair has ended. Healing from this form of betrayal is a difficult process that takes many months or even years. But the partner who cheated has their own healing to do, and that very real need is often overlooked in conversations about infidelity. So you’ve cheated, now what? If you’ve cheated on someone you love and care about, you may be questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself. You may feel confused about how you got here, and conflicted about the future you want. You are likely filled with a complex mix of painful feelings, like regret, shame, guilt, and ambivalence. Addressing those feelings and understanding your experience is the path to repair, both for you, and for your relationship. That’s why I created this episode of the podcast. I hope this helps you find space for your own healing and growth, so you can move forward from this experience stronger than before. And if you are the partner who was cheated on, this podcast will help you understand your partner’s experience, and why they may not be responding to you in the way that you need them to right now. My guest is Renelle N., M.S, LMFT, CST. Renelle is a marriage counselor, a certified sex therapist, and an infidelity coach on our team at Growing Self. She has helped many people recover from infidelity, whether they cheated or were cheated on. Today, she shares her wisdom and guidance with you. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby . . . . Episode Highlights [01:50] Help! I Cheated [7:01] Why Did I Cheat? [15:03] Moving Forward After Cheating [31:21] Forgiving Yourself [39:20] A Healthy Healing Process After Cheating