Sexual Saboteurs

When you are sexually intimate with a partner, you are as close to another human being as you can possibly get. You are also at your most vulnerable. During these vulnerable times, it’s common for your inner critics, or saboteurs, to begin their incessant chatter. Saboteurs are critical inner voices that develop when we are young. Although they are always with us, they tend to fire up when we feel vulnerable or stressed. When we become preoccupied with these thoughts, our brains take control creating emotional distance and tension in our relationships with our partners. How can we turn down the noise?