Exactly what I needed to hear, not only for myself, but also for others and most importantly my perception of others right now. In 9 months I have lost my husband, my sweet kid sister (both to addiction) and my tiny little dog Rocko. I allow myself to eat food that makes me feel not well physically, and then berate myself for adding to my pain. Everyone is doing the best we/they can. Even if it appears awful, even if it causes permanent changes to life. We have a path to travel and navigate, your choices are yours and mine are mine.