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Guilt Vs Shame

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Cass Carlopio
Sleep Expert, Psychologist & Meditation
This short talk on the mindset difference between guilt and shame describes how guilt is a protective and helpful experience, whereas shame can keep people stuck.
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11 reflections
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Rachel
Simple but effective
I am inclined to shame myself. I can now remember the words from this track to work on shifting it: guilt begets change, shame begets shame. I can forgive myself and move on.
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Mona
I felt all these days I was a bad person because of what I did, but from that I have changed a lot !
Now I understood I changed because I was guilty, though people around me had put me down n make me feel shame! I have the ability to change into good, it means I am not a bad person !
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Lisa
Fire Your Soul To Purpose Through Guilt
There are two kinds of guilt: the kind that drowns you until you’re useless, and the kind that fires your soul to purpose. Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of action. If it leads to change then it can be useful, since it is then no longer guilt but the beginning of knowledge. Yet all too often, guilt is just another name for shame, for defensiveness destructive of communication; it becomes a device to protect ignorance and the continuation of things the way they are, the ultimate protection for changelessness.
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Krissella
I felt...
This really allows me to reflect on past situations and see how my THINKING effected me, my choices and my future behaviors and the way those situation has shaped me now. I will put into use my power of thinking to avoid shame and instead be a willing learner of my guilt.
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Carlos
Guilt vs shame
The main difference between guilt and shame is, guilt is doing something bad. Shame is thinking you are bad. Guilt brings change.
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Susie
informed
This life coaching has made me aware that I have been feeling shame with no valid reason to do so. I know I'm not a bad person, but that mindset has some how been ingrained in me. I am very glad to have listened to this, because now I know the difference. Now I just need to work on the mental shift.
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Sharmain
Watch your thoughts.
I love the last three sentences and how it remind us that our thoughts affect our actions directly and indirectly, and that we have the power to choose whether our actions can be good or bad.
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Barb
Guilt vs shame
This gives me a really useful distinction between the two! Guilt brings about change - I did something wrong, feel lousy about it, will endeavor to not do it again - while shame puts me in a different category: my whole self is bad, change is not possible. And the emphasis on self-talk was useful as well.
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Jose
Guilt vs Shame
I learned to separate the two in this exercise, to let go of those feelings as well.
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Susie
Guilt vs Shame
Extremely insightful lesson. I need to work on my self talk and this is a great place to begin.🙏🏻
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Elisabeth
Lesson learned
I may feel guilty about something that I did or how I acted/reacted. Then, I will be less likely to repeat the unwanted behavior. However, shaming myself with negative self talk - thinking, I can’t believe I did that or I was so stupid to do that, may lead me to do it again. Nobody is perfect. Be kind to yourself or no one else will.