Giving Space for Love
We cannot forgive without compassion for ourselves and others. Having compassion just means that we have come to the realization that we are all deserving of love. In this way, we can open our heart to feeling some tenderness. Feeling the sensations of tenderness, we begin to soften. With our heart softened, we can gain new perspectives on the situation as well as the person who did us harm. Thus, forgiveness can begin to bloom from our hearts, setting us free from our past.
We are all on our own journey in life, performing actions the best we know how given our level of consciousness. Thus, we can have compassion for them, for they do not know what they do not know.
Looking back at times where I felt harmed, I saw the people involved at each situation. The first situation I thought of happened recently with a dear loved one. Bringing compassion and tenderness to my heart, I began to see the situation from her standpoint. In hindsight, she wasn’t trying to harm me. Rather, she was looking after what she thought would be my best interests. Realizing this, I can’t fault her for that. Rather, she was frozen with fear and didn’t know what to do. I can’t fault her on that and I forgave. Then I brought another situation and person into my awareness. Because this is an ongoing situation, it was slightly more difficult to bring some compassion in my heart. Finding a way to do it anyways, I began to see that he is a kind person overall, but just doesn’t know how to show gratitude as of yet. Realizing this, I can’t fault him on that and I forgave. Lastly, I brought a situation into my awareness in which having compassion for this person was extremely difficult. Finding a way to do it anyways, I began to see that his consciousness was obscured sometimes by substance abuse as well as pain from his childhood. Realizing this, I can’t fault him for that and I forgave. Looking back at how I reacted to each of these situations, I see where I may have misunderstood or done actions to what I thought was justified at the time. Knowing that my consciousness was obscured by emotional reactivity instead of awake responsiveness, I can’t fault myself for that. Giving myself tenderness and compassion, I forgave myself.
After going through this compassion exercise, I have gained new perspectives on the people as well as my role in each of these situations. Having forgiven these people as well as myself, I have given space for love to blossom and grow in my heart. And for that, I am truly grateful! Namaste 🙏🏻❤️☮️