Dorothy: my wife and I will be celebrating 4 decades together. ‘’Happily ever after” does not exist. Many couples begin their relationships with the mindset of “now I will change him/her.” This will never work! Life-long relationships are, in truth, the toughest task you will ever have! You must work at your marriage every moment of every day (for us, 40 years). And it will not be easy. The greatest challenge will be entering into the relationship with your “expectations:” she must be this, he must obey, etc. A self-absorbed, unrealistic fantasy. Admittedly, I have felt us becoming “distant.” Perhaps taking each other for granted after so many decades. Your life coaching on this subject is what I need. I am a very determined man (my wife says “you’re stubborn” LOL). I will do everything I need to return our marriage to the intimacy we have. Every man must accept the fact that she is the greatest miracle of your life! To keep her, you must work at the relationship - always.