Joelle Jarvis

No BS Executive / Life Coach

Reflect on moments in your life where reality didn’t match your expectations. These are your "I didn’t sign up for this" moments. Acknowledging them helps you see where you may be stuck in your shoulds.

Recognize moments when reality doesn't meet expectations as "I didn't sign up for this," to uncover where you feel trapped in expectations.

Navigating WTF Times

The Queen of “When the SHOULD Hits the Plan” The Three Step Reality Check What do I know is true? The Three Step Reality Check Ask yourself: 1. Did something actually happened or is this a conversation in my head? 2. What do I know is true until I get some relief ? 3. What, if anything, needs to be done? Cultivate a Feeling of Certainty: Choosing a CAN over a SHOULD We want to have a CAN with a plan, not a SHOULD with regret.

Check reality: 1. Is it real or in my head? 2. What do I know for sure? 3. What action is needed? Choose certainty with CAN over SHOULD.

When the SHOULD Hits the Plan

SHOULDS focus on what you lack or haven’t done. I AM focuses on what you are and what you can do. “Emotions, you have to have them. Just don’t let them have you.” - Tony Robbins Your needs are your guide to living authentically. Your needs are your barometer. Use them to stay true to yourself and let go of anything that doesn't serve you.

Focus on your strengths and potential, not your shortcomings. Emotions are important, but don't let them control you. Listen to your needs to live authentically.

Holy SHOULD

Tips and tools to navigate when you're in Deep SHOULD or in a SHOULD Storm. SHOULD Triage: Asking Yourself Deeper Questions The key is learning to Pause Reflect Ask What is it that I truly want to feel or experience?How else can I get that feeling or experience?

Learn how to navigate challenging situations by asking yourself deeper questions to identify what you truly want and explore alternative ways to achieve it.

No SHOULD

Acknowledge the "I didn't sign up for this" moments in life to recognize and address expectations versus reality and break free from limitations.

Use vision to determine goals, achieve outcomes, establish identity, capitalize on strengths, and take decisive action.

Here’s Your Paddle

I want you to write all the SHOULDS you come across in the next two days. To help you out... the stuff that you stop and exclaim in moments of frustration, “I didn’t sign up for this!” And then when you’ve spent a day collecting... I want you to DESTROY it!!!

Collect and destroy all the "shoulds" you encounter in two days, the things that make you exclaim "I didn't sign up for this!"

Why Do We Have SHOULDS?

Create a Gameplan. Turn our SHOULDS into COULDS Actionable strategies that help us meet our 6 Human Needs in REAL TIME

Transform "shoulds" into "coulds" with a game plan to meet our 6 human needs in real time through actionable strategies.

You are in Deep SHOULD

Oftentimes growth takes resilience. It gets difficult and uncomfortable. It’s important to embrace challenges. The SHOULDS keep us stuck from even building the slightest bit of momentum. And how do we build momentum? What builds momentum is to keep moving?

Embrace challenges, overcome "shoulds", and keep moving forward to build momentum in personal growth.

Triggers to Truth

It's important to start noticing when our SHOULDS are actually causing our upsets and when changing our conversation Use The Tools to brush Part X off your shoulders. Remember the Power of I AM Be mindful of your own ability to Turn SHOULDS into Statements of Possible Use The Tools to brush Part X off your shoulders. Remember the Power of I AM Be mindful of your own ability to Turn SHOULDS into statements of what’s possible

Recognize how "shoulds" are triggering upsets, use tools to shift mindset, and harness the power of "I am" to transform possibilities.

Stop SHOULD Talking Yourself

Starting from right now. With everything I have now, how can I create a life I love?

"How can I create a fulfilling life with what I have right now?"

The Journey

Three step reality check to differentiate between actual events and internal dialogue, choose certainty with CAN over regretful SHOULD.

Acknowledge "I didn't sign up for this" moments to identify where you're stuck in your expectations versus reality.

Collect all the "shoulds" you come across in two days, then destroy them to free yourself from unnecessary pressure and expectations.

Focus on what you are and can do, not what you lack. Emotions are important, but don't let them control you. Your needs guide you to authenticity.

Create a gameplan to turn "shoulds" into "coulds" by implementing actionable strategies to fulfill our 6 human needs in real time.

How can I create a life I love with everything I have right now?

Embrace challenges and keep moving to build momentum in growth, despite the obstacles and discomfort.

Utilizing vision to drive identity and action for successful outcomes.

Tips and tools for navigating through challenging situations by asking deeper questions and reflecting on true desires to find alternative solutions.

Uncover how "shoulds" contribute to stress and use tools to shift perspective, embracing the power of "I am" to see possibilities.

Choose certainty over doubt by questioning reality, taking action, and prioritizing what you can do over what you should do.

Acknowledge moments when reality doesn't meet expectations to identify areas of personal growth and release self-imposed restrictions.

"How can I create a life I love with what I have right now?"

Collect all "shoulds" for two days, then destroy them to relieve frustration and reclaim control of your life.

Recognize how "shoulds" can create upsets, use tools to let go of expectations, and embrace the power of positive thinking with "I am."

Focus on who you are and what you can do, not on what you lack. Use your emotions as a guide to living authentically and let go of what doesn't serve you.

Growth requires resilience, embracing challenges, and continuous movement to build momentum and overcome "shoulds" holding us back.

Achieve success by using vision to leverage actions and shape identity for desired outcomes.

Transforming "shoulds" into "coulds" through actionable strategies to meet our 6 human needs in real time with a game plan.

Navigate the challenges of being in a SHOULD Storm with tips on deeper reflection and asking yourself what you truly want to feel or experience.

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